Having Sex with Another Woman, Does Not Mean You Don't Love Your Girlfriend!

Having sex with another woman, does not mean you do not truly love your girlfriend.

Remember what we just discussed in my last blog; Never Confuse Love With Sex.

Sex and love are two separate issues. You can completely be in love with your girlfriend, and still cheat on her without it affecting your feelings for her.

It is easy for society to say “that if you are having sex with someone besides your significant other then you don’t truly love that significant other.” That’s a nice blanket statement which sounds quite profound and accurate upon face value. But when examined a little deeper that idea holds very little water.

To fully comprehend this point of view you must first accept the theory that sex and love are two different yet coexisting animals in the same jungle, as stated in my aforementioned blog. Otherwise, what I am about to discuss will fundamentally be foreign to your way of thinking, and you will have trouble accepting it.

In its most simplistic and vulgar form it comes down to this: If you’re fucking another woman besides your girlfriend, that’s exactly what you are doing… fucking her.

You are not making love, you are not romancing, and sure as hell you’re not looking to start a relationship with her. You are using her, in its most rudimentary form.

You are using her body as a vehicle to satisfy your sexual desires and needs. When you are finished, you leave, you have no more need for her or the service that she provides until your sexual urges return.

On the other hand, this exact same activity with your girlfriend is different. After you are finished having sex with your girl, you still need her for emotional nourishment, to spend time with, and to share your life with.

Some people would probably tell you that this not the healthiest way of looking at it, since you are separating two things that they feel should always be interlaced. But in this case, separation of these two ideas is by far the best method to employ.

If you have already had sex with another woman while you were in a committed relationship, you surely noticed the fundamentally different emotions and feelings that you were experiencing. It was far more loving, passionate, and meaningful with your girlfriend, in comparison to just the sexual and emotionless physical act with the other woman.

Keep in mind that all those sentimental feelings for your girlfriend came after a certain amount of time spent with her. You weren’t immediately in love with her after the first time you had sex with her. So why would you have all these emotional ties to a secondary woman after only engaging in a physical act with her?

It’s more natural to consider sex as just a physical act, rather than a deep-rooted emotional bond. Once you become a believer in this theory you will have more control of your emotions and feelings. This will give way to a clearer mind that can use logic to determine course of action, rather than being guided by convoluted emotional restraints.

A.C.


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