Wednesday, December 26, 2007

Infidelity on New Year’s Eve!


It’s the first day after Christmas Day and you still haven’t cut it off with your mistress.

Even after I warned you to give all your secondary women the boot after Thanksgiving and concentrate on only your girlfriend, you still hung in there.

You bought the extra presents and went through the additional hassle of the gift exchanges, maybe even showed up to their holiday parties, and now you have the whole New Year’s conundrum to deal with.

Multiple women want to spend New Year’s Eve with you, and only one of you to go around.
If you were smart then you had already planted a seed weeks ago letting your mistress know that you wouldn’t be available for New Years night. Maybe you told her you were going out of town with you friends, or you had plans made months ago that didn’t involve her.

If you you’re not such a forward thinker and you’re just coming to the realization that you’re in somewhat of a crisis, then you got problems.

The following solutions might help alleviate some of your concerns:

You shouldn’t use your family as an excuse for New Year’s Eve, she’ll either think you’re lying (which you are) or ask to come along so she can spend it with you and your family. In woman’s mind this escalates the relationship to the next level, which it would since bringing a girl to the family New Year’s Eve party means that you are serious about her. If you don’t invite her then she’ll be twice as angry or disappointed, since she won’t be able to ring in the New Year with you, and she could not secure an invite to the family party.

If you do decide to use the family party excuse, ensure that she doesn’t know which family member is hosting the party and that you tell her that it’s not at your house. I’m assuming since this is your mistress, she hasn’t met your parents and doesn’t know where they live, but if for some foolish reason she does you’ll be covered by using another relative’s residence for the imaginary shindig.

Don’t try to split your New Year’s Eve between your women either. It will just arouse suspicion from both of them. One will wonder why you only showed up an hour before midnight, while the other will be curious why you had to leave before you could kiss her at midnight. They both will have to explain why their man wasn’t with them for the entire night to their friends with enquiring minds, making for two unhappy and skeptical women in your life.

Most likely you will have to pick one of them (preferably your girlfriend, since she is your number one) and spend New Year’s with only her. If you haven’t done so already, then inform your mistress as soon as possible that you won’t be spending the night with her, that way she can hopefully make other plans. You want your mistress to have enough time to make alternate plans with her friends so she won’t be by herself, fuming at you. You never know what that might lead to, and you especially don’t want to leave her alone all night planning to check up on you to make sure you’re not out with another woman, which you are. You want her distracted, enjoying herself as best she can without you. On that note, you should not make any plans at your residence so you can avoid any unanticipated, angry women that might stop by.

Once you have made your decision concerning which woman you’ll be partying the night away with, you’ll have to come up with a very good excuse for the other one.
This is the hard part, this is why you’re reading this blog right now, hoping I can pull a rabbit out of a hat for you that will save your ass.

Nothing like that exists. You had your opportunity to get out of this mess a month ago. You didn’t want to, you procrastinated, or you were hoping for a miracle. You made your bed now you have to sleep in it.

Any excuse you use now will sound like a cop out, which it is, unless you have a doctor’s note and a stay in the hospital to prove otherwise.

Tell your mistress that you decided to party with your buddies instead, which will work, but she’ll probably be very pissed at you. She’ll want to come along, at which point you’ll have to turn her down and that’s when the hurt feelings will come into play. This will put a strain on your relationship that you’ll have to work hard to mend, unless you’re hoping it leads to a break up which most often times it does. The same result could have been accomplished weeks earlier had you manned up and broke up with her in the first place.

Be vague and non committal about what your plans for the night entail, giving her several options that you and you friends might engage in so she can’t pin you down on anything in particular. This is for your benefit so she can’t “accidentally” show up at the same bar you’re supposed to be at.

If this blog applied to you in any way, then you definitely have your New Year’s resolution already made out for you. A good cheater always thinks and plans far in advance to eliminate any last minute complications.

You New Years Resolution will be to ALWAYS PLAN AHEAD, when cheating on your girlfriend.

Take Care and have GREAT NEW YEAR.

A.C.

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Thursday, December 20, 2007

Reassuring Your Suspicious Girlfriend

In my last couple of blogs I answered a few of frequently asked questions from my readers, which prompted more questions.

One particular reader asked a couple of questions that I’m sure the majority of cheaters have experienced in their exploits, so I decided to share my answers to him with all the devoted readers of this blog.

If your girlfriend suspects you of cheating, how do you reassure her that you aren't?

If your girl suspects you of cheating then you've done something to give her that idea. Left clues, changed your behavior, changed you usual schedule or activities, in short you slipped up somewhere.

Figuring it out (if you don't already know) might be worthwhile, so you don’t commit the same mistake in the future. But this might prove be difficult undertaking for sometimes women just get a feeling, you know women’s intuition. But usually that intuition is sparked by something that is not right about you, or about your relationship, hence a small change in your demeanor that should go unnoticed might be the catalyst for her intuition.

If you can’t figure out what tipped her off, don’t waste too much time on it and spend your efforts on reassuring her nothing is wrong.

Start by curtailing your cheating for a few weeks, tell the mistress that you'll be busy for a while, you’ve picked up side job, or that you have some family issues to work out and you’ll be unavailable for the next couple of weeks.

Take this time away from your other women to rekindle the relationship with your girl before you started cheating, to reassure her that she is over reacting. Once your woman has calmed down and the turbulence has passed you can get back to your mistress, but more carefully this time.

What are good lies to tell your girlfriend about were you will be on a given night?

Always use excuses that she can't readily verify on her own. Here are few tried and true excuses you can start with and then tailor them to your own specific life.

Family:
Use your family. This is the most abundant resource you have available to you. When you need an excuse to get away from your girlfriend to spend time with your #2 or #3 women, do not hesitate to depend on your family, after all that's what they are there for. For multiple reasons this is you best excuse. One, your significant other cannot try to convince you to get out of it, or change your plans since this is your family and they take precedence. Second, since you put such a high importance on your "family activities" it makes you seem family oriented, which makes you look more attractive to women, since you are now seen as family oriented. Your girlfriend can’t question the amount of time you spend with your family so if particular “family function” happens to drag on longer than expected, she won’t break your balls with an interrogation.

Friends:
You need to have a couple of friends that you can use as an excuse. Make sure that these two specially selected friends can keep quiet about what you’re doing, especially to their own significant others. Also, always inform these friends if you’re going to use them as an excuse BEFORE you do, so you can get your stories straight upfront eliminating the scramble later on when your girlfriend is asking questions.

Work:
Using your place of employment might seem like a great excuse to create some time to cheat; telling your girlfriend your working late, that you will be in an extended meeting, and the most daring one of all; that you’ll be away on a business trip. But there is an inherent problem with these types of alibis, unless you work at a small company consisting of your friends, you will have no one who will lie for you. Sure you can get a buddy to cover for you in the office in case your girlfriend calls in to check on you, but what if the receptionist answers the call, or the call gets forwarded to your boss? Will they lie for you? Then you have to tell them why you are avoiding your own girlfriend, an uncomfortable scenario at the very least. What if your girlfriend is suspicious to the point where she shows up, or poses as your sister or mother on the phone to verify your whereabouts? There are just too many intangibles to use your job as safe alibi. If this is the best you can come up with, then at least use it sparingly.

Random:
Random, disposable excuses that you only use once work very well. They leave no discernable pattern, which means no matching variables for your girlfriend to dissect. If it’s a one time only excuse there is nothing to compare it to, meaning no anomalies to exploit. But you have to use these sparingly and during different time frames (i.e. don’t use different random excuses for the same time, on the same day of the week) otherwise that inherently negates the “randomness” of the excuse since certain facts remain similar. Stick to different excuses, on different days, during different windows of time (when you’re with your other women) and you’ll trigger far fewer women’s intuition alarm bells.

The key is to ensure she can't check up on what you're supposed to be doing.

Happy Holidays
A.C.

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Friday, December 7, 2007

Why Stay With Your Girlfriend & Cheat on Her, Rather Than Break Up and Date Other Women Freely?

Continuing with the theme from last week, I going to answer another one of frequently asked questions/offered suggestions from readers.

Don’t cheat on your girlfriend, just do the honorable thing and break up with her and be single if you want to date multiple women.

This is easier said than done. Anyone who has ever been in a relationship knows that it’s not quite that easy to break up with someone, let alone someone that you care about and have feelings for.

At this point I always get the response “How can you say that you care about someone if you’re cheating on him/her?” That’s an entirely different discussion which I have addressed frequently and will again, but not in this blog.

For the sake of this discussion we will assume that if you’re in a relationship with someone you have some sort of feelings for that person and care about them to a certain extent.
So why not break up, and pursue other women without any restrictions?

Like I mentioned before, you might have feelings for your girlfriend and want to stay with her, but at the same time want to be with other women sexually. That’s probably the most common reason for men. We don’t want to break up with our women, we just want to have our cake and eat it too, after all what good is the cake if you can’t eat it?

Perhaps you have a certain tie to your girlfriend that doesn’t allow for a quick, easy breakup.
-You live with your girlfriend.
-You and your girlfriend have children together.
-You have financial ties to her that make a breakup an unviable option.

There are some guys just don’t know how to break up with their women and are scared of the confrontation. So they figure if they get caught dating another woman, their girlfriend might do them a favor and leave them. Not saying I endorse this method, but if this is the only way you can get out of your relationship then maybe it might be worth it for you.

For some people these reasons probably don’t seem all that strong or legitimate enough to deceive their significant other and cheat on them. But for others, it does. Remember it’s easy to judge and make painless decisions when you don’t have any skin in the game. You have to have walked in the other person’s shoes before you can understand the full scope of issues and emotions they are dealing with.

If any of you can have other reasons why you rather stay with your girlfriend and cheat on her, rather than break up and date other women freely, feel free to comment.

Take Care,

A.C.

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