Time To Communicate

When you’re recruiting a new mistress, you have to play it like if you weren’t a cheater that already has a girlfriend, but as a normal guy trying to impress the girl to get her interested enough to put out.

This means that you have to do all those things that you usually do when you’re first “courting” a candidate for dating or to eventually fill the role of your girlfriend.

So after you’ve made the initial introductions and got her contact information, you now have to try to “get know her,” but what you’re really trying to do is say all the right things to get her to go out with you… we’ve all played that game.

Unfortunately, you have that pesky little problem of already having a girlfriend that impedes your ability to talk to the potential mistress at any given time. So you have to plot in advance how you will go about it without your girlfriend catching a whiff of your plans. This is even more imperative if you live with your girlfriend since you’re time is even scarcer in that situation.

With technology these days you can substitute texting and email for actual phone conversation, so it’s to your advantage to use it. A couple of text message exchanges throughout the day (when you’re girlfriend is not around) can easily take the place of what used require a half hour conversation on the phone. As long as you maintain the contact, staying in her mental focus you have achieved your goal.

Another easy way to maintain her interest is through email. If you have access to external email applications (Yahoo, Gmail) from work, and she has the time to email during working hours, then you can maintain a conversation throughout the day without much effort.

The same goes for online messaging (Yahoo Messenger, etc.) where you can enjoy a nice conversation without the worry of your girlfriend finding out, or trying to fit in the time for a phone call around your girlfriend’s shopping habits.

Just remember to erase all your text messages and emails from your Inbox and sent messages folders (On your phone and email),, so there is no proof for a snooping girlfriend.

But even with these alternative communication opportunities, you still have to slip in a phone conversation; otherwise things will start to fizzle. No other means of communication can really take the place of a phone conversation where you can get the instant response of the other person’s voice.

This is where you will have to get creative to be able to create the time and place to have these conversations, even more so if you live with your girlfriend.

If you live independently of your current significant other you’ll just have to account for the time you spent talking to this new woman, but only if your girlfriend asks. Obviously you can say you were watching a movie or sports, but you better make sure you can give a quick synopsis of the plot, or the accounts and score of the game.

But for those of you who aren’t as lucky then getting out of the house is your best bet for an uninterrupted conversation. Offer to go to the store to buy groceries, go to the gym, shoot hoops, visit your parents, or whatever can get you a half an hour of free time. Then go park somewhere and do your thing. Just remember to vary it and not always do it on the same day at around the same time, this will keep both women from noticing a pattern.

You can also have quick conversations on the way home from work, or if you’re out running errands.

Obviously you can also just wait for your girl to leave the house, which if she has a set schedule is worth waiting for, to go shopping or whatever. But this also makes her arrival unpredictable and you should be aware of the time frame she will be gone so you can start wrapping up your conversation before she gets back home.

In the end there are many ways you can communicate and create time for conversation, just plan ahead and you should be alright.

A.C.

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Leaving Early on Special Occasions and Holidays

Tell-Tale Signs Women Look For To See If You’re Cheating On Them

In this multiple part series I have been discussing some common signs that you as a cheater might exhibit which will tip off the women in your life that you are cheating on them.
If you have read my previous three blogs (Predictable Pattern of Date Scheduling, Ending Your Dates Early, and Day Time Only Dates) in this series, then you already have a sense of what women look for.

Recently I was talking to my girlfriend and she told me a story about her friend who has been getting cheated on for two years by the same “boyfriend.”

But after hearing the recounts of her friend’s travails, I realized that her friend wasn’t really the girlfriend at all, she was the other woman. The girl in the story didn’t recognize it, neither did my girlfriend (lucky me), but I sure did.

I chuckled to myself though, wondering how they missed the obvious signs.
Regardless of their naivety, there are women out there that will not overlook the following tell-tale sign of a cheater, so pay attention.

Leaving Early on Special Occasions and Holidays
That’s right, this guy in the story (and I’ve met him personally at a barbecue, he’s the complete definition of the word; chump, but I still have to give him credit for having the balls to try it) dropped her off at 9pm on New Year’s Eve claiming he got sick from dinner and had to go home.
Yea, I’m laughing right now too.

Nevertheless, the girl bought it, otherwise I wouldn’t be writing this blog. He obviously had plans with his real girlfriend for New Years Eve but knew he couldn’t avoid a date with his #2 girl on that important day, so he scheduled her early and faked his way out of the date. It was a sad excuse, and to anyone reading this… I in NO WAY RECOMMEND THAT APPROACH.

Most of you know my theory of breaking up with all your women except your girlfriend during the Holiday Season to maintain your sanity. That’s the way to do it, and you avoid having to buy multiple presents.

Now, to address the issue at hand; Leaving Early on Special Occasions and Holidays.
If you develop a habit of leaving early from a date, party, or a get together that one of your women has planned for your birthday, special occasion (i.e. Graduation) or national holiday that everyone celebrates, she will inevitably get suspicious.

Seriously, if you think about it; who goes home on New Year’s Eve with a sick stomach? You stick it out till midnight, or try to sleep it off at her house. Same thing with the July 4th barbecue, you have to stick around for the fireworks after. As well as on Christmas Eve, your birthday, and so forth.

Maybe you can get out of it once, but if you make it a habit it will definitely stick out in the girl’s memory since it happened on an important day.

The best way to avoid this problem is to plan ahead. Figure out which girl you want to spend it with and make up an excuse why you won’t be able to hang out with your other women a few weeks ahead of time and let them know. This way they can plan their day and there will be no drama concerning why you have leave early.

When it comes to your birthday, I have a blog dedicated to just that situation, take a look.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Rotate Your Women Between Day Time and Evening Dates

Tell-Tale Signs Women Look For To See If You’re Cheating On Them

In this multiple part series I will be discussing some common signs that you as a cheater might exhibit which will tip off the women in your life that you are cheating on them.

If you read my previous two blogs (Predictable Pattern of Date Scheduling & Ending Your Dates Early) in this series, then you already have a sense of what women look for. Here is another predictability trap that cheaters often fall into when they are preoccupied with juggling too many women.

Rotate Your Women Between Day Time and Evening Dates
You have two choices when you go on a date; day or night. Most likely your girlfriend will demand most of your attention in the evening, after all who else are you going to spend it with, at least that’s what she’s thinking. This leaves only your day time hours free to spend with your other women.

This scenario is plausible for the first few dates with your secondary women, but soon they will want to go on a “real date” at night. From a woman’s perspective the day date lags behind the evening date in stature, women simply find the nocturnal rendezvous more appealing. Plus if you’re not taking them out at night, they are wondering what you’re doing (just like you’re girlfriend), who you might be with, and if you’re really serious about them.

What an experienced cheater has to do is mix up the dating scheme. Alternate between day and night dates within your circle of women, and incorporate the lessons from the previous blogs in this series as well and rotate weekday and weekend dates into the mix. Keep a schedule of what day and time frame you spent with which girl, and make sure to change that the next time you see her.

This will keep them from recognizing a noticeable trend and you stress free.
Stay tuned for part 4 of this series coming soon.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Ending Your Dates Early

Tell-Tale Signs Women Look For To See If You’re Cheating On Them

In this multiple part series I am discussing some common signs that you as a cheater might exhibit which will tip off the women in your life that you are cheating on them.

These are not inadvertent clues left behind (receipts, strands of hair or lip gloss left behind in your car), but more recurring things that a cheater has to do to create time for their multiple women

Ending Your Dates Early
Cheaters have a tendency to end dates early with their other women. It can be for a multitude of reasons; perhaps a cheater lives with his girlfriend and he has to get home by a reasonable hour otherwise she will get suspicious. Or they have a demanding girlfriend that constantly is monitoring his activities so he can only get away for a few hours at a time, never for a full day.

Ending your dates early will work only for a very limited amount of time, and most women will have alarm bells going off in their heads when you’re dropping them off on a Friday or Saturday night at 9pm and calling it a night. They will wonder what else you have going on that you’re not interested in sticking around later through the night, forgoing romantic situations.

It doesn’t really matter what excuse you might give, you have work the next day, you’re feeling sick, or you have to get up early the next morning. If you make it a habit (often times you only need to do it twice) and they’ll be onto you, and eventually they will test you by creating a date scenario where you can’t leave early. If you agree to the date and you pull you’re same old tricks then that’s confirmation in heir minds that you’re up to something, and so is if you decline the date altogether.

To get around this you’ll have to figure out ways to go on a date without leaving early, period. There is no way around this.

If you have a habit of leaving early you will have to have more dates where you stay as long as the date dictates, rather than wrapping it up early so you can get with your other woman. Even this solution is only a band aid since the woman will be suspicious about your activities, but hopefully you have had already had the fun you were hoping for and cut her loose before she causes problems.

Stay tuned for part 3 of this series coming soon.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Falling Into A Predictable Pattern With Your Dates

Tell-Tale Signs Women Look For To See If You’re Cheating On Them

In this multiple part series I will be discussing some common signs that you as a cheater might exhibit which will tip off the women in your life that you are cheating on them.

I’m not talking about the inadvertent clue left behind (receipts, strands of hair or lip gloss left behind in your car), but more about the recurring things that you have to do to get time with your other women.

Falling Into A Predictable Pattern With Your Dates

Establishing a routine with your women might seem like a good idea, allowing you to get some normalcy into juggling multiple women. You go out with your mistress on Friday and your Girlfriend on gets the weekend, giving you some predictability.

However, most women will start to wonder about this rigid schedule you have established. Your mistress will begin to wonder why she has to be relegated to only a Friday night date, and your girlfriend will occasionally want to go out on Friday night and grow curious why you always turn her down.

After a certain amount of time you will have to change up your schedule a bit to rearrange which days you spend with which woman. I recommend that you don’t fall into a particular pattern for longer than three weeks, and avoid it all together if you can.

Try to set up the schedule with your women early in the week paying strict attention to varying the days you spend with them. This allows you to plan ahead, keeping your women from noticing your pattern, and still allowing you to have normal schedule in your life.

Stay tuned for part 2 of this series coming soon.

Take Care,

A.C.


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Vacation Infidelity Part II

Hooking up with multiple girls while on vacation is a likely opportunity that will present itself. You just have to know how to take advantage of it.

There are a few things to consider which will help guide you along your path. Once you hook up with a girl who is also on vacation you will probably exchange hotel contact info and things of that nature. Keep this with you but only use it in case you're having bad luck hooking up with a new girl the following night. After all, you already had your fun with the woman from the night before; there is no reason to spend much more of your precious vacation time with her. Also, try to find out where she is going to go party the night following your initial encounter and try to schedule a different venue to ensure she doesn't catch you hooking up with a new girl. Even on vacation women are very possessive and hate it with a passion when they are screwed over for another girl.

Remember you have no need for a vacation girlfriend. We’ve all known the guy that hooked up with a girl on the first night of the vacation and spent the rest of the week with her, ignoring his friends and all the other available women. Leaving him with a sad heart when the vacation romance ends and the girl eventually goes back home, as well as a sketchy story to his girlfriend back home about why he is in hardly any of the vacation photos. You are there to have fun, sample different women, and not to settle down with a vacation girlfriend, stick to that idea.
Try to make sure you do not hook up with women that live in the same general geographical area as you. This could lead these women to attempt to seek out a relationship with you after the vacation is over in your home area. If you feel that you have to pursue a girl that lives two blocks away from you, simply lie and say you're from somewhere else, making your life much easier in the long run.

If you take pictures with women that you hook up with, always try to use your camera, allowing you total control of the film and negatives. You can tell these women you’ll email them copies, which you have no intention of doing. Don't ever let one of your buddies carelessly take pictures of you hanging out with these vacation women, since you never know how or where these photos might end up. Maybe your buddy’s girlfriend will accidentally show them to your girlfriend at a social function in the future. To be safe, use your own camera and that way you won't have any questions down the road. If the vacation women take pictures they will most likely want to send you copies so have them email it to one of your non existent email accounts.

Vacation Infidelity Tips

1. If one of your vacation honeys gives you a parting gift that seems like a token of affection you would only receive from a woman, ditch it before you get off the plane. It will save you the headache of trying to explain to your girlfriend why you have teddy bear that says "I'll miss you” in your luggage. If for some reason you neglect to rid yourself of this paraphernalia, just tell your girlfriend you bought it for her, if it’s applicable.

2. Always dispose of any condoms and other sexual paraphernalia before you get off the plane. Also when packing for your trip, remember to pack your condoms after your girlfriend has finished helping you pack, for obvious reasons.

3. Don't come back with any marks on your body such as scratches on your back, etc.

4. Make sure that everyone on the trip who knows you had a romantic encounter understands that silence is golden, and know not to say anything to their own girlfriends. This rule is vital to uphold, since women have this need to divulge information to one another, most often to their buddies’ girlfriend about the indiscretions that might have occurred on a given vacation.

Take Care,
A.C.



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Vacation Infidelity

I went on a short vacation last week and I thought it would be a good idea to refresh everyone on the good practices of Vacation Infidelity. Plus with the vacation season fast approaching, I thought I’d get you ready for summer with a few vacation infidelity tips for you to think about.

Going on vacation without your girlfriend can and should be considered a free for all, for the very reason that you are without supervision with an abundance of opportunity all around you. The women you will meet on your holiday will have their guard down, looking for a good time, and be far less scrutinizing of the guy they hook up with. This is a direct contradiction to normal circumstances under which women are far more protective and hesitant to go just with the flow.

Women on vacation will be much more prone to engage in questionable activity due to the fact that they are in a vacation mindset. You will be meeting ladies that you will, in all honesty, never see again after your vacation is over, making it far easier to cheat than when you are at home.
However, there are a few items that should be discussed before you taste this guiltless fruit.

1. Avoid giving the women you hook up with your contact information, but if for some reason you do, make sure it’s one of your ancillary email addresses that your girlfriend has no idea exists. This allows you to strictly filter your correspondences with these women without fear of discovery.

2. Whenever possible ask for their contact information first making it appear as if you're genuinely interested in contacting them, which will lead them to wait to receive your contact information when you “supposedly” will call or email them in the future.

3. Under no circumstances should you give out your address since you never know when you're girlfriend will decide to help you with the mail. Do not to give out your phone number since most of the women you meet will probably be from different geographical regions than you, meaning different time zones. This is important because different time zones could result in odd hour phone calls that might make your girlfriend wonder why all of a sudden you’re getting calls at strange hours or why unfamiliar area codes are showing up on your caller I.D.

This will be a two parter, so look for the second installment in the next blog.

Take Care,

A.C.



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