Time To Communicate

When you’re recruiting a new mistress, you have to play it like if you weren’t a cheater that already has a girlfriend, but as a normal guy trying to impress the girl to get her interested enough to put out.

This means that you have to do all those things that you usually do when you’re first “courting” a candidate for dating or to eventually fill the role of your girlfriend.

So after you’ve made the initial introductions and got her contact information, you now have to try to “get know her,” but what you’re really trying to do is say all the right things to get her to go out with you… we’ve all played that game.

Unfortunately, you have that pesky little problem of already having a girlfriend that impedes your ability to talk to the potential mistress at any given time. So you have to plot in advance how you will go about it without your girlfriend catching a whiff of your plans. This is even more imperative if you live with your girlfriend since you’re time is even scarcer in that situation.

With technology these days you can substitute texting and email for actual phone conversation, so it’s to your advantage to use it. A couple of text message exchanges throughout the day (when you’re girlfriend is not around) can easily take the place of what used require a half hour conversation on the phone. As long as you maintain the contact, staying in her mental focus you have achieved your goal.

Another easy way to maintain her interest is through email. If you have access to external email applications (Yahoo, Gmail) from work, and she has the time to email during working hours, then you can maintain a conversation throughout the day without much effort.

The same goes for online messaging (Yahoo Messenger, etc.) where you can enjoy a nice conversation without the worry of your girlfriend finding out, or trying to fit in the time for a phone call around your girlfriend’s shopping habits.

Just remember to erase all your text messages and emails from your Inbox and sent messages folders (On your phone and email),, so there is no proof for a snooping girlfriend.

But even with these alternative communication opportunities, you still have to slip in a phone conversation; otherwise things will start to fizzle. No other means of communication can really take the place of a phone conversation where you can get the instant response of the other person’s voice.

This is where you will have to get creative to be able to create the time and place to have these conversations, even more so if you live with your girlfriend.

If you live independently of your current significant other you’ll just have to account for the time you spent talking to this new woman, but only if your girlfriend asks. Obviously you can say you were watching a movie or sports, but you better make sure you can give a quick synopsis of the plot, or the accounts and score of the game.

But for those of you who aren’t as lucky then getting out of the house is your best bet for an uninterrupted conversation. Offer to go to the store to buy groceries, go to the gym, shoot hoops, visit your parents, or whatever can get you a half an hour of free time. Then go park somewhere and do your thing. Just remember to vary it and not always do it on the same day at around the same time, this will keep both women from noticing a pattern.

You can also have quick conversations on the way home from work, or if you’re out running errands.

Obviously you can also just wait for your girl to leave the house, which if she has a set schedule is worth waiting for, to go shopping or whatever. But this also makes her arrival unpredictable and you should be aware of the time frame she will be gone so you can start wrapping up your conversation before she gets back home.

In the end there are many ways you can communicate and create time for conversation, just plan ahead and you should be alright.

A.C.

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