How To Meet Women On MySpace

In my last blog I began a series on How to Meet Women to Cheat On Your Girlfriend With.
The series continues with this installment covering social networking sites.

Online Social Networking Sites
Originally established to promote networking through friends and acquaintances, most of these sites have evolved into nothing more than glorified free online dating sites where people hook up through friends. The basic premise is to meet people through your network of friends, making these people your new friends and increasing your personal network of friends.

The advantage is an opportunity to look through your friends’ collection of friends and get introduced (either online or at a future social function) to women. You already know something about them having read their profile so you have topics of discussion readily available.
The cons of this type of approach are that these women all have some sort of connection to one or more of your friends, making it hard for you to hide the fact that you’re already in a relationship, or that you have a reputation for being a player. If you do hook up with a woman, chances are it will get around her network of friends and then reach your network of friends as well, increasing your chances of getting caught.

There is however a third alternative for this particular venue, which is very much like the online personals. Simply message women you have no attachments to, and no mutual friends in common with. Just create a search criteria of what you’re looking for (age, distance, etc.), when the search results come back hunt through the results to find what you like. Then click on her profile and check to see if you have any friends in common. If there aren’t any, then you’re most likely in the clear, however you would be wise to message women living out of your immediate area so you can have some distance.

The two Online Networking Sites I recommend are http://www.myspace.com/ and http://www.friendster.com/, in that order. Both have free memberships available and boast a variety of features. I suggest joining both and spending some time familiarizing yourself with their tools and options. To successfully start an online dialogue with women using this venue you can try an assortment of methods to see which one works best for you. The methods that generate the most response involve asking a question regarding some item in the woman’s profile, something that lets her know you took the time to read what she had to say, same as with the online personals.

Friendster provides a useful tool that allows you to see who looked at your profile, with the caveat that you’re profile voyeurism is exposed as well (this function can be turned off, however then you cannot see who viewed your profile). On the surface this might appear to be a deterrent, but there is a clever way of using this to your advantage. If you’re hesitant to start a dialogue with a particular woman, but you still find her attractive make sure you cruise her profile. If she has the “view profile” function turned on she will obviously know that you’ve checked her out. At this point one of three things can happen; nothing, she looked at your picture and found you uninteresting and never looked at your profile. She views your profile but doesn’t send you any response. This is a golden opportunity for you to start a conversation by sending her a message about how you saw her checking out your profile, include the usual email conversation starters using something from her profile. Or she responds with a message and then the conversation is started for you. Another opener is sending a “smile” to the girl who you’re interested in. It is relatively easy since it only involves a couple of mouse clicks.

MySpace works very similarly to Friendster, sans the “who viewed my profile” tool. However, MySpace allows you access to a much larger and more a varied user base, provides better video and audio uploads capabilities, far greater profile customization, and most importantly, allows you to segment your search much more exclusively, almost like an online personals site, so it definitely has the advantage there. Overall MySpace provides a far superior venue to meet women online, and I recommend you start there.

Considering the price of these venues (free), as well as the access to thousands of women 24 hours a day, it is one of the best values for your investment. As with online dating/personals sites the quality of your profile has a major impact on your success. Posting attractive clear pictures of yourself, writing a charming and articulate profile including an invite for anyone (not just women, so you don’t give the impression you’re only there to hook up) to freely message you, and ensuring a few intriguing facts on how you like to spend you free time will increase the amount of interest you generate.

I will continue this series on how to meet women that you can cheat on your girlfriend with in my next blog when I cover the old but still reliable Chat Room… Stay Tuned!

Let me know if I missed anything vital, feel free to email me.

Take Care,
A.C.

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