One of the most frequent questions that I get from readers pertains to breaking up with a woman after the sex/friendship has lost its interest. Usually this topic would be quick and painless to describe; simply tell her the relationship is over, self explanatory.
However, when you’re looking to end a relationship with your mistress, other woman, booty call, or whatever you’re calling her at the time… it can get messy very quickly.
There could be severe repercussions that could find their way back to your girlfriend if you don’t handle the situation with the utmost care right from the start.
The method that has worked best for me over the years is to force her break up with you. Let her make the choice that she no longer wants to be in a relationship with you. This way there are no hurt or angry feelings on her part. She feels invigorated, in control of herself and her destiny, essentially she feels good about leaving you. This is exactly what you want.
Now you don’t want to push her to this conclusion by being a complete asshole (although that would speed things up a bit), since that will be counter productive. You don’t want her to hate you and turn it into some Fatal Attraction type of shit.
You want to play on her dislikes and do things that she genuinely cannot tolerate (besides dropping hints that you’re cheating on her) which will eventually push her over the edge. For instance if she doesn’t like you hanging out all night with the boys drinking, wants you to quit smoking, or can’t stand one of your friends, then your course of action is obvious. If she has any pet peeves that drive her up the wall make sure you engage in a couple of those.
Dropping little bombs into your daily conversations like; “I never want to have children,” or “I’m going to quit my job and move back home” are a couple of gems that will get the hamster wheel turning in her mind, making her wonder if you really are the right guy for her. Which we both know you’re not.
Once you have pushed her to the break up conversation, and you can always feel this coming a couple of days in advance, just wait patiently until she wants to get together and “talk.”
You’ll be eagerly anticipating it as she comes to you with a heavy heart trying to soften the blow and let you down easy, try to not grin from ear to ear knowing she’s giving you exactly what you want, a way out!
You have to remember to treat the break up very delicately.
Try to pretend that you're genuinely remorseful about what happened between the two of you, and that you wish you could have made it work. Make it look like you cared about her and that she was more important to you than she actually was. Do not act indifferent or nonchalant. This is important because it will make her feel like she mattered to you, it will keep her in a more sad and somber state of mind rather than angry or spiteful.
You do not want to treat her as if she was immaterial since it will create the second set of emotions I just described, and it will induce them to try hurt you in return. Which of course could problems with your girlfriend if you’re finding dead rabbits at your door, or she decides to mark up your car in lip stick one day. These are the kind of things that make girlfriends wonder.
As you can see, this is a very dangerous game you have to play, especially if you want to keep this from your main girlfriend.
Under no circumstance should you ever tell any secondary woman (that doesn’t know already) that you have been seeing other women, especially during the breakup. This might prompt her on seek out the other woman (your girlfriend) and ruin that relationship to settle the score.
Try to end your relationship amicably. Let her yell at you, let her vent, let her cry, let her try to let you down easy and make sure you apologize profusely as if she was your #1 girl.
In the end most likely she'll say she doesn’t want to ever see you again, or that maybe you two can be friends (such a lie). You tell her that you will miss her, and let her walk out the door. In the end no harm will really come of this, if you play your cards right.
Think about your exit strategy before you get heavily involved with any other women. Create a time table of when to end it, plan it, and execute it.
Ending the relationship with your other woman is one of the most important steps in Cheating On Your Girlfriend and Not Getting Caught.
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