A Female Cheater Shares Her Infidelity Secrets

Sometimes I receive the best ideas or strategies from my readers. Recently I got one that was a gem from one of my female readers (Oh yea the ladies cheat too, even though it's far less documented). In fact it was so good I thought I’d share it with everyone just to demonstrate that it’s not only the men that come up with clever ploys.

My imaginary girlfriend....
One of the challenges to being a serial dater/cheater is staying unmarked, especially because I occasionally like to play rough. To circumvent this issue, I have invented an imaginary girlfriend. Since roughly 90% of the straight men I have ever met fantasize about having a 3 some with 2 women, they never seem to complain about the idea of me having a woman on the side. As a matter of fact, merely the thought that there is a slim chance that one day she might wind up in bed with us is enough to cause an instant hard-on.

The imaginary girlfriend is also dominant. She likes to play rough and does not like it when I sleep with men, so whenever we are together she marks me with bites and sucks. So, now, instead of the big purple bruise on the inside of my thigh being a liability, it has turned into an advantage.

Imaginary girlfriend has lots of other positives too. Since she is imaginary, I can make her live anywhere. Currently she lives about 1.5 hours away and I go visit her once a month, once every six weeks, or how often I want to pretend to visit her. This gives me the perfect out to travel, meet new people, or just ditch my current dates for a couple of days.

I love imaginary girlfriend!!!!

I have to say that borders on genius. Not only for the fact that it gives her a perfect escape to meet new men, explain any marks or bruises that can be interpreted as sexual, but plays on the ever ubiquitous three-some fantasy of all men.

After all what man wouldn’t want his girl to have a girlfriend? Like she said just the thought that her girlfriend might wind up in bed with us one day is enough justification to not question that relationship.I’m not too proud to admit, she would have gotten me with that scheme and I would have never been the wiser.

I have to hand it to her she figured out a way to prey on all men’s desires and weaknesses simultaneously.

Congratulations, I’m impressed.

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Different Degrees of Infidelity

There are different levels of infidelity, some much more subtle than others.What I most often discuss in my blogs is full-on sexual intimacy with another woman, the most blatant of all sins in a monogamous relationship.

But what about the lesser evils, little things that most of us have been guilty of at one time or another?

1. What about the guy that befriends a woman and forms an emotional bond, that develops in a strong friendship? He shares with her intimate details of his life and she reciprocates. They spend quite a bit of time together without any physical contact, but nevertheless their friendship blossoms far more than just normal interaction between a man and a woman? Should this guy’s girlfriend consider this cheating. Should he hide this friendship from his girlfriend in an effort not to upset her?

2. What about the woman who during a night out with the girls gets a little too intoxicated and subtly exchanges a kiss with a guy on the dance floor? They spend the night dancing together and talking, but at the end of the evening they go their separate ways without exchanging any contact information. With her sexual appetite is revitalized by feeling desired by another man, she goes to her boyfriend who receives her full-on sexual attention and release. Should her boyfriend, in this case, consider her actions as cheating?

3. Having lunch with your ex? Even if nothing sexual transpires, just the situation itself is suspicious. The fact that you’re spending time with someone you once had an intimate relationship with, both emotionally and physically, can be called into question. Should the other party consider this cheating?

It all comes down to your own point of view. All of these situations are subjective to personal interpretation whether you would consider it cheating.

I will address it from a cheaters perspective;

Forming a non physical friendship with a member of the opposite sex, no matter how intimate of an emotional bond it might become, this still can’t be considered cheating. I can understand how some girlfriend’s can feel betrayed by this, but without any physical contact I don’t think it can be construed as anything more than just a close friendship. But if the man involved is smart, he will keep this from his girlfriend to eliminate the potential jealousy that might develop.

Kissing is usually not cheating, depending on the situation and frequency. But if it happens only once, under accidental circumstances especially if alcohol was involved, then it could be considered just that; an accident. However, if the frequency increases then it can be seen as cheating, amplified if she is kissing the same person numerous times.

If you consider having lunch with your ex cheating then you are far too jealous and attached to your partner. If nothing sexual occurs then you should have enough confidence in yourself and your relationship to overlook such circumstances. Now if this becomes a regular occurrence then you might want to keep your eye on the situation, but once or twice a year should not raise any alarms.

But as stated earlier, much of how you feel about this depends on your point of view. Let me know what you think about these different degrees of infidelity, or if you even consider them as infidelity.

Also if there are other subtle levels of cheating that I might not have addressed, let me know and I will give you my point of view.

How To Cheat On Your Girlfriend and Not Get Caught… on the Radio.

Catch your favorite Cheater on BlogTalkRadio!
April 25th on one of the top rated relationship/romance talk shows… The Game.Veteran Broadcast Journalist Mel Hopkins and The Professor bring you, THE GAME. Real relationship talk where you'll learn how to outwit, outplay and outlast your lover, featuring the writer of the How To Cheat On Your Girlfriend and Not Get Caught Blog.

April 25th, 6pm.
For Show Information please visit: http://blogtalkradio.com/thegame
ShowDial In Number: (718) 664-6706

Take Care,
A.C.


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A Day In the Life of a Cheater

Occasionally, I have readers write me asking what it's like to date multiple women at the same time. I've tried to think of way that I could capture the life of a cheater, to try to make it interesting enough of a read while conveying the rigors and challenges involved with the deception and the management of both your time and the volatile personalities of your women.

What I came up with was simplest example I could give you to portray the life of a cheater; a day in my life.

Last Friday…

5:45 am
Wake up.

7:00 am
Leave the house

7:30 am
Arrive at work.

8:00 am
Email my girlfriend, my secondary woman, and my booty call from separate, non work email accounts. Set up the weekend rotation to split my time accordingly witch each woman.

12:30 pm
Meet with my #2 girl for lunch to appease her, since I won't be seeing her again till Sunday afternoon sometime. We mess around a little in the parking lot, and almost get caught by the Parking Lot Attendant. Lunch time thrills make for quick second half of the work day, unfortunately it wasn't a Nooner.

2:45 pm
Back at the office I call my girlfriend and finalize our plans for that evening. We'll be having dinner and then catch a movie, just a little something chill after a long week of work. I like to keep my Friday's low key since the rest of my week is usually pretty convoluted.

3:15 pm
Throughout the day I'm emailing with my booty call trying to arrange sometime to meet up over the weekend. She wants to hook up tonight, but that's a no go since I already got plans with my girl, as you know. Trying to fit each other into our respective schedules is tricky, especially since she has a boyfriend that's kind of clingy. She emails me back telling me that she'll have some time Saturday afternoon when her man has to take his little brother to a basketball camp. We agree on the time, and I begin formulating my alibi in case my girlfriend or my secondary woman ask me what my plans are during that time.

4:00 pm
I'm off of work, now my weekend will start to get interesting.

4:26 pm
My #2 girl calls and says she wants to see me tonight, some sort of bullshit about missing me after our lunch date. I tell her I can't because I have plans with the boys tonight, but she is insistent in a way only whiny woman can be. I break and agree to go see her before I get home. I re-route my car to her apartment and wonder what the hell she is doing home from work so early. I don't like a sudden change in my women's schedule, makes it hard to plan around.

5:06 pm
I arrive at her apartment, turn my phone on silent in case my girlfriend calls me while I'm there. As I'm walking to her apartment I change my mind, return to my car and leave my phone there. I'm not planning to be there long no need to take a chance. I'm always paranoid that one of my women will get a hold of my phone and go through my recent call logs, even though I got their names under an alias.

5:12 pm
I knock on her door and wait for her to open it. She looks a little distraught but I don't want to open that conversation so I act like I don't notice it. She pays that no mind and engages in it anyway. She wants to "talk," which is always code for it's going to take a while, especially when a woman says that. I don't have time for it though, I have to get home and get ready for my date with my girlfriend.

5:45 pm
I been humoring her for twenty something minutes now, listening to her concerns about our relationship not progressing. I'm waiting for it to end but it's just drawing on and on. I wish I could tell her that relationship will remain in a holding pattern, but I just don't have the time to get into it. I tell her she has raised some good points and that I will have to think about it. This doesn't sit well with her; she wants to address the issue right then and there. I tell I have to go and she gets pissed, but I have no choice I'm already behind schedule as it is.

6:10 pm
I leave on a bad note, but sacrifices have to be made. I get to my car check my phone and sure enough my girlfriend has left me a message after a couple of missed calls. She lets me know she has changed the restaurant she wants to go to and we need to be there half an hour earlier that originally planned. This condenses my allotment of time to get ready, lucky me.

6:20 pm
My #2 girl keeps calling me, but I'm letting it go to voice mail so I don't have to deal with her. If I pick up the phone now it will be a continuation of what happened at her apartment; her bitching me tuning her out.

6:42 pm
I arrive at my house, jump in the shower, get dressed, and I'm out the door in 20 minutes flat. Luckily I have perfected the quick change thanks to all my years of juggling women.

7:02 pm
On the way over to my girlfriend's, I finally take the call from my other woman, who has been blowing up my phone. I tell her I can only talk to her for a little while since I'm pressed for time. She reiterates her concerns and the fact that she is ticked off about me leaving the issue unresolved. I tell her we'll deal with it tomorrow and get off the phone with her abruptly making it appear like I'm angry about her insistence to pursue the conversation. In reality I could have cared less, but I needed to put her in check a little bit; her tenacity was getting out of hand.

7:28 pm
I pick up my girlfriend. We drive to the restaurant. With her its always a pleasant experience, almost makes me want to be monogamous, almost.

7:55 pm
We arrive at the restaurant and barely make the reservations. I can finally relax a little bit, even though my other woman is still calling me throughout the dinner. I turn my phone from vibrate to silent, this way I can tune her out completely.

8:55 pm
We get to the movies in time for the previews, find our seats and watch the plot unfold. I'm distracted, however, since this annoyance with my other woman is on my mind. I contemplate how to resolve this problem. Is it really worth for me to keep the relationship or should I give her the boot. I'm torn. Whenever I'm torn I know I'm in too deep and I should end it. So the decision gets made right there, when three hundred Spartans are beating the hell out of the Persian hordes; the other woman gets the boot later this weekend.

10:15 pm
The movie ends. On our way out I go to the bathroom and I check my voice mails. I have three of them from my other woman. The first two are angry, which I delete immediately without even listening to its contents. Her tone reveals everything I need to know about the state of her mind when she left me that message. The third one is a little more somber and coherent. She's apologizing for her behavior, saying she shouldn't have been so emotional and that she'll wait till tomorrow so we can talk it out. I am relived. The problem has sort of solved itself, at least for the night. Sometimes when you wait out a conflict with a woman, they have a tendency to come to their senses. Regardless, my decision still stands, it ends this weekend.

11:02 pm
We're back at my girlfriends house. We have a couple of drinks and then head straight for the bedroom, yea good times

1:55 am
My girlfriend wants me to spend the night. I debate whether I should or not because that will lead to a long morning of lounging around, perhaps even breakfast, but I have that "talk" scheduled with my other woman that I have to take care of in the morning. Don't forget I'm supposed to meet the booty call in the afternoon.

2:15 am
After fighting off my girlfriend's attempts to keep me there I finally get into my car to go home. I check my phone and I have a text message from my booty call asking me if I'm still up, this is her way of asking to fuck. On my way home I text her back and she calls me. Apparently her boyfriend went out with his buddies and he's drunk not answering her calls. She's pissed and wants to know if she can come over. This will lead to some angry revenge sex, which is always passionate and explicit. I'm tired but I take her up on her offer. I tell her to meet me at my house.

2:35 am
I arrive at my house and my booty call arrives about 10 minutes later. She comes in, complains a little bit about her man, and then we get down to it. She lingers around hinting that she wants to spend the night. I'm too tired to argue so I agree but I tell her she has to leave early because I have plans the next day. Usually I don't let any woman other than my girlfriend spend the night, but I make an exception. This girl is more paranoid about getting caught then I am, so I'm not too worried about any repercussions, plus she knows I have a girlfriend so there is no conflict there.

7:30 am
I wake her up and pretend like I'm getting ready to leave to get her out of my house. Once she leaves I go back to bed, I'm still exhausted. But hooking up with her late night works out for me, now I don't have any plans with her in the afternoon, allowing fmore time when I have the "talk" with my #2 girl. Oh joy.

There you have it; a typical day in the life of a cheater. It's a time consuming, mentally exhausting lifestyle, but you can't beat the benefits.

A.C.


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Breaking Up With Your Mistress, You Have To Do It Right

One of the most frequent questions that I get from readers pertains to breaking up with a woman after the sex/friendship has lost its interest. Usually this topic would be quick and painless to describe; simply tell her the relationship is over, self explanatory.

However, when you’re looking to end a relationship with your mistress, other woman, booty call, or whatever you’re calling her at the time… it can get messy very quickly.

There could be severe repercussions that could find their way back to your girlfriend if you don’t handle the situation with the utmost care right from the start.

The method that has worked best for me over the years is to force her break up with you. Let her make the choice that she no longer wants to be in a relationship with you. This way there are no hurt or angry feelings on her part. She feels invigorated, in control of herself and her destiny, essentially she feels good about leaving you. This is exactly what you want.

Now you don’t want to push her to this conclusion by being a complete asshole (although that would speed things up a bit), since that will be counter productive. You don’t want her to hate you and turn it into some Fatal Attraction type of shit.

You want to play on her dislikes and do things that she genuinely cannot tolerate (besides dropping hints that you’re cheating on her) which will eventually push her over the edge. For instance if she doesn’t like you hanging out all night with the boys drinking, wants you to quit smoking, or can’t stand one of your friends, then your course of action is obvious. If she has any pet peeves that drive her up the wall make sure you engage in a couple of those.

Dropping little bombs into your daily conversations like; “I never want to have children,” or “I’m going to quit my job and move back home” are a couple of gems that will get the hamster wheel turning in her mind, making her wonder if you really are the right guy for her. Which we both know you’re not.

Once you have pushed her to the break up conversation, and you can always feel this coming a couple of days in advance, just wait patiently until she wants to get together and “talk.”
You’ll be eagerly anticipating it as she comes to you with a heavy heart trying to soften the blow and let you down easy, try to not grin from ear to ear knowing she’s giving you exactly what you want, a way out!

You have to remember to treat the break up very delicately.

Try to pretend that you're genuinely remorseful about what happened between the two of you, and that you wish you could have made it work. Make it look like you cared about her and that she was more important to you than she actually was. Do not act indifferent or nonchalant. This is important because it will make her feel like she mattered to you, it will keep her in a more sad and somber state of mind rather than angry or spiteful.

You do not want to treat her as if she was immaterial since it will create the second set of emotions I just described, and it will induce them to try hurt you in return. Which of course could problems with your girlfriend if you’re finding dead rabbits at your door, or she decides to mark up your car in lip stick one day. These are the kind of things that make girlfriends wonder.
As you can see, this is a very dangerous game you have to play, especially if you want to keep this from your main girlfriend.

Under no circumstance should you ever tell any secondary woman (that doesn’t know already) that you have been seeing other women, especially during the breakup. This might prompt her on seek out the other woman (your girlfriend) and ruin that relationship to settle the score.

Try to end your relationship amicably. Let her yell at you, let her vent, let her cry, let her try to let you down easy and make sure you apologize profusely as if she was your #1 girl.
In the end most likely she'll say she doesn’t want to ever see you again, or that maybe you two can be friends (such a lie). You tell her that you will miss her, and let her walk out the door. In the end no harm will really come of this, if you play your cards right.

Think about your exit strategy before you get heavily involved with any other women. Create a time table of when to end it, plan it, and execute it.

Ending the relationship with your other woman is one of the most important steps in Cheating On Your Girlfriend and Not Getting Caught.

Take Care,
A.C.


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