Continuing with the theme from last week, I going to answer another one of frequently asked questions/offered suggestions from readers.
Don’t cheat on your girlfriend, just do the honorable thing and break up with her and be single if you want to date multiple women.
This is easier said than done. Anyone who has ever been in a relationship knows that it’s not quite that easy to break up with someone, let alone someone that you care about and have feelings for.
At this point I always get the response “How can you say that you care about someone if you’re cheating on him/her?” That’s an entirely different discussion which I have addressed frequently and will again, but not in this blog.
For the sake of this discussion we will assume that if you’re in a relationship with someone you have some sort of feelings for that person and care about them to a certain extent.
So why not break up, and pursue other women without any restrictions?
Like I mentioned before, you might have feelings for your girlfriend and want to stay with her, but at the same time want to be with other women sexually. That’s probably the most common reason for men. We don’t want to break up with our women, we just want to have our cake and eat it too, after all what good is the cake if you can’t eat it?
Perhaps you have a certain tie to your girlfriend that doesn’t allow for a quick, easy breakup.
-You live with your girlfriend.
-You and your girlfriend have children together.
-You have financial ties to her that make a breakup an unviable option.
There are some guys just don’t know how to break up with their women and are scared of the confrontation. So they figure if they get caught dating another woman, their girlfriend might do them a favor and leave them. Not saying I endorse this method, but if this is the only way you can get out of your relationship then maybe it might be worth it for you.
For some people these reasons probably don’t seem all that strong or legitimate enough to deceive their significant other and cheat on them. But for others, it does. Remember it’s easy to judge and make painless decisions when you don’t have any skin in the game. You have to have walked in the other person’s shoes before you can understand the full scope of issues and emotions they are dealing with.
If any of you can have other reasons why you rather stay with your girlfriend and cheat on her, rather than break up and date other women freely, feel free to comment.
Take Care,
A.C.
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Friday, December 7, 2007
Why Stay With Your Girlfriend & Cheat on Her, Rather Than Break Up and Date Other Women Freely?
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2 comments:
I am going through this situation now, and have been in similar scenarios as well. This situation I am in now, is by far the most difficult challenge thus far in my 26 years of existence. I have a girlfriend of 4 years who I love and for the most part get along with. It was about a year and 3 months ago, that I started to like another woman and begin what would turn out to be a 1 year relationship.
I met this woman through a friend, she liked me right away and knew I had a girlfriend but continued to pursue me. I fell in love with this new woman, and had an affair with her that was very difficult.
I started questioning being with my girlfriend, but I thought that after 4 years you might feel that way about anyone. My girlfriend loves me would never cheat on me, atleast I believe wouldnt cheat on me and makes me happy most of the time.
My mistress is the nicest person I believe I know. She is a good looking girl who is great in bed. Most people think my girlfriend is hotter, but I see them both as beautiful, although I think my girlfriend has some better ASSets.
WEll eventually after a year of trying to tell my girlfriend I was cheating on her she gave up. She didnt give up I pushed her away, and now I believe I made a mistake.
Now that my mistress has moved on to another man, i found myself heart broke and let her know I want her back. She was willing to drop everything to try and work things out, but here is the tricky part, Now that I know I can get her back I am not sure thats what I want.
But after spending alot of alone time with my girlfriend lately I am wanting the mistress back again and have sweet talked my way back in.
So my question is how do I break up with my girlfriend, and Is this the right move? I have been with many woman so i am probably far more experienced than most, but am willing and interested to see what most people would do in this situation.
Thanks
Dear Anonymous:
Sounds like you're always going to want what you can't have. It seems like once you get what you want, you want more or something else. If you were a man, you would break it off with your girlfriend because she deserves someone who isn't cheating on her and someone that isn't constantly thinking about ending it. As for your mistress, she is wrong too for even thinking about dating you while having a girlfriend. Also, she's probably having her cake and eating it too as well. Since you've had a girlfriend your entire relationship, she probably has had little meals on the side as well. Anyone who is okay with your kind of behavior is probably doing the same. Just a thought. Good luck. You're going to need it.
-J
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