Reassuring Your Suspicious Girlfriend

In my last couple of blogs I answered a few of frequently asked questions from my readers, which prompted more questions.

One particular reader asked a couple of questions that I’m sure the majority of cheaters have experienced in their exploits, so I decided to share my answers to him with all the devoted readers of this blog.

If your girlfriend suspects you of cheating, how do you reassure her that you aren't?

If your girl suspects you of cheating then you've done something to give her that idea. Left clues, changed your behavior, changed you usual schedule or activities, in short you slipped up somewhere.

Figuring it out (if you don't already know) might be worthwhile, so you don’t commit the same mistake in the future. But this might prove be difficult undertaking for sometimes women just get a feeling, you know women’s intuition. But usually that intuition is sparked by something that is not right about you, or about your relationship, hence a small change in your demeanor that should go unnoticed might be the catalyst for her intuition.

If you can’t figure out what tipped her off, don’t waste too much time on it and spend your efforts on reassuring her nothing is wrong.

Start by curtailing your cheating for a few weeks, tell the mistress that you'll be busy for a while, you’ve picked up side job, or that you have some family issues to work out and you’ll be unavailable for the next couple of weeks.

Take this time away from your other women to rekindle the relationship with your girl before you started cheating, to reassure her that she is over reacting. Once your woman has calmed down and the turbulence has passed you can get back to your mistress, but more carefully this time.

What are good lies to tell your girlfriend about were you will be on a given night?

Always use excuses that she can't readily verify on her own. Here are few tried and true excuses you can start with and then tailor them to your own specific life.

Family:
Use your family. This is the most abundant resource you have available to you. When you need an excuse to get away from your girlfriend to spend time with your #2 or #3 women, do not hesitate to depend on your family, after all that's what they are there for. For multiple reasons this is you best excuse. One, your significant other cannot try to convince you to get out of it, or change your plans since this is your family and they take precedence. Second, since you put such a high importance on your "family activities" it makes you seem family oriented, which makes you look more attractive to women, since you are now seen as family oriented. Your girlfriend can’t question the amount of time you spend with your family so if particular “family function” happens to drag on longer than expected, she won’t break your balls with an interrogation.

Friends:
You need to have a couple of friends that you can use as an excuse. Make sure that these two specially selected friends can keep quiet about what you’re doing, especially to their own significant others. Also, always inform these friends if you’re going to use them as an excuse BEFORE you do, so you can get your stories straight upfront eliminating the scramble later on when your girlfriend is asking questions.

Work:
Using your place of employment might seem like a great excuse to create some time to cheat; telling your girlfriend your working late, that you will be in an extended meeting, and the most daring one of all; that you’ll be away on a business trip. But there is an inherent problem with these types of alibis, unless you work at a small company consisting of your friends, you will have no one who will lie for you. Sure you can get a buddy to cover for you in the office in case your girlfriend calls in to check on you, but what if the receptionist answers the call, or the call gets forwarded to your boss? Will they lie for you? Then you have to tell them why you are avoiding your own girlfriend, an uncomfortable scenario at the very least. What if your girlfriend is suspicious to the point where she shows up, or poses as your sister or mother on the phone to verify your whereabouts? There are just too many intangibles to use your job as safe alibi. If this is the best you can come up with, then at least use it sparingly.

Random:
Random, disposable excuses that you only use once work very well. They leave no discernable pattern, which means no matching variables for your girlfriend to dissect. If it’s a one time only excuse there is nothing to compare it to, meaning no anomalies to exploit. But you have to use these sparingly and during different time frames (i.e. don’t use different random excuses for the same time, on the same day of the week) otherwise that inherently negates the “randomness” of the excuse since certain facts remain similar. Stick to different excuses, on different days, during different windows of time (when you’re with your other women) and you’ll trigger far fewer women’s intuition alarm bells.

The key is to ensure she can't check up on what you're supposed to be doing.

Happy Holidays
A.C.


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