Sex on Your Dates

In this the fifth installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series I’m going to discuss the perils of engaging in sex and the pitfalls that you should be aware of.

If you're going to engage in sexual activity, and of course you will, always push for the venue to be at her place rather than your own. This radically reduces the chances of any evidence left behind at your house. If you choose to get down in your vehicle remember to search it thoroughly when you're finished, air it out, and try to vacuum the carpet and upholstery to eliminate those annoying strands of hair that women leave behind.

Under no circumstances are you to let any of your secondary women spend the night at your house. This leads to extended time spent in your bed, which means a lot of added work finding and removing evidence left behind. Regardless whether she spends the night, you'll have to change and wash your sheets, blankets comforters to get the girl’s scent out. Also, when any woman spends the night, they will linger in the morning causing delays with communicating with your girlfriend. You can’t exactly call your girlfriend while you still have the girl from the night before lounging around in your bed.

Remember your girlfriend probably hasn't heard from you since you started your date the night before, so if you lag in giving her a call in the morning because one of your secondary women is still there, she'll start to get annoyed. What’s worse is if you make this a habit she will start to get suspicious. For the same reason, try to avoid spending the night at your secondary women's houses, but this is still far better alternative than your residence. If you spend the night, make up an excuse the night before why you have to leave early in the morning and set your alarm. Try to target a time that allows you wake up, go home and call your girlfriend before she wakes up.

Also you want to keep an eye on the type of sexual activity you partake in and make sure that there are no marks on your body that might give away your indiscretion. Stay away from hickeys and make sure all your women know and fully adhere to this policy. Just say you find them childish and disgusting and that you'd rather not have them. Then make sure you don't give them either. If any of your women scratch your back during sex, then you will have to tell them to stop. This is a dead give away.

Avoid doing sexual maneuvers that you just learned from your secondary women with your girlfriend. This will make her wonder where you picked up your new moves, and a curious girlfriend is always a problem. But if you feel the overwhelming need to try it with your girl, weave it gently into the fabric of your relationship. Mention that you were talking about it with a coworker, or read about it in a men's magazine, then leave it alone for a few days. The next time you’re in the midst of passion wait for her to broach the topic of trying it out, that way it will be her idea. If she doesn’t, then you can ask initiate the idea since you had already planted the seed earlier in the week.

You should know this next one by now, but I’ll cover it here since this seems to trip up more would be players than anything else. Never call out the wrong name during sex. In fact avoid using their names altogether whenever possible. Get in the habit of calling all your women by cute little nicknames that you can rotate around like “baby doll,” “sunshine,” “beautiful,” “honey,” and so on. Once you have this established in your brain the propensity to call one of them by their actual names will greatly diminish, leading to a reduced reflex of calling out the incorrect moniker. Trust me, this will be a lifesaver, especially when one of them calls and they sound similar to your girlfriend on the phone. Now you don't have to awkwardly try to guess who it is by the conversation. With caller ID this is not as relevant as it used to be, but nevertheless its just good practice.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Vary The Locations of Your Dates

In the fourth installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series I’m going to discuss the benefits of using different locations and venues for your dates.

Don’t let laziness be the reason you get caught cheating. I know its a lot easier to take different women to the same venues, but it also makes it a lot easier to get caught that way.If you have a favorite coffee shop or restaurant that you frequent with your girlfriend, find another one. They are almost every corner these days, it’s not that difficult to find one a few miles down the road.
You never know when an employee of that establishment will decide to have a bonding moment with your girlfriend and let it slip that you were there yesterday with another woman.

Finding a different hang out with each girl would probably be the best-case scenario. This keeps everything segregated. But the most ideal method would be to avoid having a regular spot you frequent with your secondary women, this way no one will remember you, or make note of who you are with.

I once tested this theory; taking my girlfriend to a Peruvian restaurant one day, and then meeting up with a girl I was just starting to date at the very same restaurant the next day. Believe me, the hostess and a couple of the waitresses remembered I could tell by the quizzical looks on their faces, trying to piece together what was going on. By the end of the date their service had become somewhat abrupt bordering on rude. None of them ever said anything but I could tell I wasn’t their favorite customer.

I guess its some unwritten code with women; they get mad even when the infidelity is not being perpetrated on them. It’s probably some bond of sisterhood.

Regardless separating your date locations according to your different women is something you should do. In fact you should keep all your dates segregated as much as possible meaning you should always take your secondary women on dates outside the relative vicinity of where you go out with your girlfriend.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.


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Infidelity On Independence Day

In honor of Independence Day tomorrow I just thought that I’d throw in this public service announcement for all my devoted cheaters as a reminder.

Even though the 4th of July is not as stressful of a holiday as Valentines Day, Christmas, a or New Year’s Eve, its still a pretty difficult day for the gentlemen player who is juggling numerous women at the same time.

With multiple balls in the air you have to be quick to make sure you don’t drop the ball with any of your women during this summer holiday.

Like I mentioned earlier the 4th allows you some leeway in making choices regarding which women you will spend time with, as opposed to the other aforementioned holidays that every woman will demand to spend with her man.

With that said, your women will all still try to plan something with you on Independence Day so you have to calculate accordingly.

First you have to decide what you actually want to do and which one of them you want to do it with (if any of them at all). After all you can always just have a barbecue at your buddy’s house or what not.

But if you decide to have a girl along for the ride on the 4th make sure you have a viable excuse for you other women. If it’s your girlfriend that you’re planning to hang with then your excuses can be family related since you shouldn’t be bringing your secondary women around your family anyways, so you can use that. Just tell them that your family spends every 4th of July together and it’s just the immediate family, which should get you out of any obligations with any women where the relationship is just casual.

But if you’re trying to shake your girlfriend to spend time with another woman then you better have a good alibi that you set up in advance of the 4th. Then know exactly what you’re girlfriend is doing and make sure your plans are in the opposite direction. Nothing worse than running into your girl at the fireworks show when you’re with your other woman… that will definitely lead to some pyrotechnics.

Sloppiness on a lesser holiday such as Independence Day has tripped up many would be players who didn’t give his game enough forethought.

Remember to stay disciplined, plan ahead for any holidays, and to keep your game tight.

This is nothing you didn't already know, but a reminder can't hurt.

Stay tuned the How o Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Avoid Going To The Movies With Your Mistress

In the third installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series I will address the movies, a venue that on the surface looks like a safe haven to take your secondary women, but could serve as a precarious trap just as easily.

Everyone goes to the movies and you’ll never know whom you might run into, and once you encounter this unexpected third party you can be sure that they’ll be glancing at you throughout the movie, you’ll be trapped there for the duration of the movie with curious eyes watching you.

If your secondary woman gets amorous that’s sure to be noticed. The level of problems this might cause depends on who this third party is. If its one of your acquaintances, then you can manage that situation by filtering this third party from any activities involving your girlfriend. If it’s one your girlfriend’s acquaintances, well then you’ll have some explaining to do. Catching a flick should be viewed with great hesitancy when on a date with your #2 or #3.

In fact if you can avoid movies altogether by making up some sort of excuse like you hate the crowds or the movies bothers your eyes you'd be better off entirely. But in most circumstances the women won't go for it, so you will have to figure out a way around it.

If you date a girl from outside of the immediate area you should always try to go to a theatre in her vicinity. If you have no such luck, then you will have to try and convince your dates to go to movie theatres out of the surrounding area. Make up some excuse like you got in an argument with the manager at the local movie theatre and you feel uncomfortable going there. Otherwise you will have to press your luck and hope no one who can recognize you will be at the movies at the same time. Try going to later shows or an early matinee when the crowds are not as thick.

Movies are an anomaly (kind of like coworkers). It’s hard to predict who will be at the movie theatre since there are so many different types of movies playing at the same time. There are action films, romantic comedies, dramas, thrillers, etc. For each one of these movies there is a different demographic segment that enjoys watching them, which brings together many various groups of people that would not normally attend the same function. Thus, you’ll increase the likelihood that you’ll run into people you would otherwise would not have anything in common with, which in turn exposes you to a higher chance of getting caught by your girlfriend’s great aunt who just happened to be there to watch the new Disney animation film with her grand daughter.Your best solution if you must go to the movies, is to take your secondary women to another city or town where the chances of you bumping into someone that recognizes you are greatly diminished.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Avoid Meeting Your Girlfriend’s Coworkers

In the second installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series I will discuss an overlooked way of getting nabbed; by your girlfriend’s coworker.

Your girlfriend’s coworker is someone you disregard as soon as you’re finished being introduced to them. They have little, if entirely no relevance to your life except for those few excruciating hours that you’re forced to engage in small talk at a company function.

But that’s where you’re mistaken; it might appear they have only a passing role in your life, as immaterial as a stoplight, but if you’re not careful they can play a major role in the relationship between you and your girlfriend.

Here’s why…

There is no fun like getting a call from your woman during the work day and having her bust your balls about someone from her office seeing you out with another woman on Friday night when you were supposed to be shooting pool with your buddies. You might be able to talk your way out of this since most likely the coworker cannot be sure since you two only met briefly at a company Christmas party, but you certainly could do without the drama, inconvenience, and air of suspicion being raised.

If you can avoid meeting the coworkers that would be an ideal scenario, for it would remove a pesky nuisance that you cannot calculate for. There is something that you must realize about the coworker factor. Coworkers, unlike family and friends cannot be grouped easily. They have no particular bond, or anything that ties them in common besides their jobs. Coworkers are in fact an anomaly that is extremely hard to account for, or predict. This means that the coworker faction will encompass every type of individual, male, female, old, young, lover of classic music or gangster rap, etc. Very diverse indeed, meaning you can't avoid them as a whole; you just have to hope they don't recognize you.

The difference between your girlfriend’s friends and coworkers is that you can categorize her friends since they have similar interests. For instance if your girlfriend likes alternative music most likely so will her friends, which means you want to stay away from bars with live rock bands in her city. This, on the other hand, would make a hip hop club a viable option to take your secondary women. However, you can’t successfully apply this line of reasoning to her coworkers since they have only that one unifying bond; a common place of employment. Meaning they could be lurking about in some venue that you’re girlfriend would never attend, and what seems like a safe haven to take your other woman.

The best advice I can give you is try your best to avoid any work type functions that your girlfriend wants you to accompany her to, and definitely don’t take any women to any of your job functions.If you can’t avoid this predicament, then make sure you’re as nondescript and unremarkable at that company function as possible. The duller and more unmemorable you are, the easier and faster they will forget you (in the same manner you will discard them from your memories as soon as possible).

Simply said, beware of meeting any co-workers, if you can.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.


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The Number 1 Way To Get Caught Cheating While On a Date With Your Mistress

In the first installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series I will discuss the top manner in which you might get caught; while in public.

This is obvious at first glance, also as obvious is that this is part of your infidelity is almost unavoidable. There is only a finite amount of things you can do with your secondary women that don’t involve going out into the world. Sooner or later you’ll have to bite the bullet and take one of them out to eat, a movie, or some other type of pass time.

Make sure that you plan your excursions out of your immediate area, and even more importantly out of your girlfriend’s area of proximity. Sure you’ll have to drive further to get something to eat or catch a movie but the effort will be worth it when you can relax and enjoy yourself, rather than having to constantly look over your shoulder to see if you know the couple that just walked into the same restaurant you’re having dinner in.

Another way to reduce the chances of being recognized by someone in public, avoid meeting any friends or family of your #2 and #3 women, especially since you have no real social obligations to either of them. However, the longer you keep a girl in your rotation the more likely you will meet of some of her friends, family, and acquaintances.

This escalates the odds of eventually encountering someone you have met through your mistresses in public. This alone is a good reason to periodically freshen up your rotation to make everything new and distant again with your secondary women.

Obviously, you can’t utilize this strategy with your girlfriend. With her, you have probably already met most of her important family members, friends, and coworkers. There is not much you can do about this, your social obligation is to be by your girlfriend’s side and under those circumstances you have to socialize, and therefore you end up meeting people that might recognize you later. That’s where taking your secondary women to more remote locations for dates reduces the chances that you’ll run into your girlfriend’s parents or cousins.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.


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Avoid Getting Caught Cheating On Your Dates

This is the part that is obviously the most fun. Once you have done all the prep work of selecting and meeting the women you will be dating, your reward comes in an even more dangerous undertaking; the date itself.

The experiences of the dates are what you strive for; it’s what you lay all the groundwork and foundation for. But at the same time you have to be aware that it’s also the most dangerous time for a cheater.

The easiest way to get caught cheating is when you're on a date. You're exposed, out in the open for the entire world to see. You’re immersed in the mood and atmosphere of the encounter, and thus distracted. You’re focusing on the beautiful and exciting woman on your arm, probably a woman that isn’t your girlfriend, which alone heightens the exhilaration. You’re not focused on what’s going on around you, or who might be watching you, but you should be.

This is when you’re most vulnerable and have to be most careful, since a family member, a friend, or even a coworker might discover you.

Worst of all, you might not even realize that you been caught until the next day or even later on down the road when your girlfriend tells you about her friend who saw you kissing some girl. That’s one of the interesting aspects of getting caught, it’s usually not instantaneous. Very rarely will your girlfriend walk in on you while you’re engaged in questionable behavior with another woman (unless you’re completely careless or clueless). More often than not, she will find out indirectly sometimes days or even months after incident of infidelity transpired.

That’s why I have built a new seven part series to minimize your chances of getting caught on your dates, with the following installments of this blog highlighting the more dangerous locations and activities of dating that you should carefully consider beforehand.

Take Care,

A.C.



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