Getting Caught Cheating by Your Girlfriend’s Friend

In the last edition we discussed what to do if you get caught by your girlfriend, that’s obviously the worst that could happen. If you get caught by someone else you have some options available to you. From here on out things get easier, in comparison to the aforementioned predicament.
As always, it all depends on who catches you. Today we will discuss how to handle one of your girlfriend’s friends getting wise to your infidelity.

Caught by Your Girlfriend’s Friends
If a friend of your girlfriend’s catches you, your woman will know by the end of the day, thus it’s imperative that you act quickly and decisively. If you know that you have been caught, you can try to reason with this friend but it‘ll most likely fall upon deaf ears since her allegiance is to your girlfriend, not to you. You can tell the friend that you know what you did was wrong, and to allow you a chance to tell your girlfriend personally, since you think it should come from you rather than someone else. To certain people this might actually make you seem somewhat contrite and hopefully they will grant you this favor, and save them the awkward situation of having to reveal this information themselves.

But how is this any different than the friend telling your girlfriend, after all she will find out either way, right? Well, right and wrong. Yes, she will find out, but it if you want to have any hopes of salvaging your relationship then it is far more important that it comes from you. Somehow there is some sort of virtuous feeling involved if you take it upon yourself, plus most women would rather find out from their significant other rather than from a third party. Finally, and most importantly, this will allow you to spin the story in whatever direction you need to save your relationship.

By personally confessing your sins to your girlfriend you will catch her off guard and you will have a chance to tell her your "story" while she is still in shock and disbelief. But if she finds out from a third party, by the time she gets to you she will have had plenty of time to build up her anger and she will be seeking to release that on you. She won't care what you have to say since she will be far too upset to listen.

Also, if YOU tell her, it will save her the public embarrassment of having someone else tell her, giving the situation an air of discretion.

Remember as long as you control the information you can soften the blow by selectively revealing and camouflaging aspects of your indiscretions, as opposed to your girlfriend getting the gory embellished details from her friend. By the time it gets discussed between the two of them the focus will be on your girlfriend’s pain and healing rather than what actually happened, which can make the difference in saving your relationship.

All your girlfriend needs to know is that you were unfaithful, the details can and should be minimized by you. Damage control, take the initiative and tell her yourself, but only tell her what you want her to know.

I will continue the If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend series with circumstances that offer a greater opportunity for you save your relationship with your girl.

Stay Tuned.

Take Care,

A.C.

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