How To Cheat On Your Girlfriend and Not Get Caught

When Should You Get Rid of Your Mistress?

2008-12-22T14:54:00.000-08:00

I get this question quite frequently, and my answer is always “depends.” There is no set time frame that is applicable for any one woman or relationship.

You and only know the dynamics of your relationship with your mistress, and therefore you and only you can make the call when its time to give her the boot.

But there are a few tell tale signs that you can look for that will let you know that your relationship has ripened and its time to get out.

It’s Time to Dump Your Mistress When:

1. When she starts getting clingy and starts acting like your girlfriend.
- Increased volume of calls
- Increased volume of text messages

2. When she is demanding to spend more time with you, and infringes on your time with your girlfriend.

3. When she starts costing you as much or more than your girlfriend financially (dates, presents, etc.)

4. If she doesn’t know you have a girlfriend but starts getting suspicious and begins asking questions or snooping around.

5. When she asks to be your girlfriend, or asks you to dump your girlfriend so she can take her place.

6. When she starts showing up unannounced to:
- Your home
- Your work

These are all good rules of thumb to go by to let you know that your escapade with your other woman has probably run its course.

Now actually executing a successful breakup with your mistress is another proposition all together, and you have to play it carefully.

In my next blog I will cover Breaking Up With Your Mistress.

Stay Tuned.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Cheating During The Holiday Season

2008-12-05T12:06:00.000-08:00

This is a busy time of year for everyone regardless. But it’s an especially frustrating and busy time for cheating on your girlfriend. As a cheater you now have to worry about duplicates for everything; buying multiple Christmas presents, disposing of multiple gift receipts, keeping track of what you bought for whom, going to multiple holiday parties, trying to avoid all the holiday photos that might get you caught, etc.

Not to mention the upcoming New Year’s Eve conundrum of which woman you will spend it with, you obviously cannot be with more than one woman, so a choice has to be made. One of them will be disappointed greatly and be very upset with you. At times like this I suggest you pick your girlfriend, the other woman can always be replaced.

It’s a stressful time for a cheater, I know I been there. The best option at this time of year is to cut your secondary women loose before the Holiday Season begins, preferably before Thanksgiving. This will allow you to concentrate on only your girlfriend without any of the ancillary problems created by additional women in your life.

You only have a finite amount of time during the holiday season, and a secondary woman will encroach upon that tremendously.

If you’ve navigated through the Christmas minefield with multiple women without getting caught, now is the time where you must make a bold move… New Year’s Eve. Use whatever legitimate excuse you can to disappoint your secondary women, in fact if you can break up with the temporarily that would be the best option since that would provide you an inherent excuse to avoid her for that night. But if you want to keep her, try to use an all guys poker party or a friend that lives some distance away who is having a get together as an excuse.

But if you were smart, which you should be to play this game, you would have devised an action plan for this event weeks ago.

But remember whatever you do, try not to go to a public party at a club, restaurant, bar, and so on since everyone is out that night and your chances of getting recognized increase dramatically.

This is a busy time of year for everyone regardless. But it’s an especially frustrating and busy time for cheating on your girlfriend. As a cheater you now have to worry about duplicates for everything; buying multiple Christmas presents, disposing of multiple gift receipts, keeping track of what you bought for whom, going to multiple holiday parties, trying to avoid all the holiday photos that might get you caught, etc.

Not to mention the upcoming New Year’s Eve conundrum of which woman you will spend it with, you obviously cannot be with more than one woman, so a choice has to be made. One of them will be disappointed greatly and be very upset with you. At times like this I suggest you pick your girlfriend, the other woman can always be replaced.

It’s a stressful time for a cheater, I know I been there. The best option at this time of year is to cut your secondary women loose before the Holiday Season begins, preferably before Thanksgiving. This will allow you to concentrate on only your girlfriend without any of the ancillary problems created by additional women in your life.

You only have a finite amount of time during the holiday season, and a secondary woman will encroach upon that tremendously.

If you’ve navigated through the Christmas minefield with multiple women without getting caught, now is the time where you must make a bold move… New Year’s Eve. Use whatever legitimate excuse you can to disappoint your secondary women, in fact if you can break up with the temporarily that would be the best option since that would provide you an inherent excuse to avoid her for that night. But if you want to keep her, try to use an all guys poker party or a friend that lives some distance away who is having a get together as an excuse.

But if you were smart, which you should be to play this game, you would have devised an action plan for this event weeks ago.

But remember whatever you do, try not to go to a public party at a club, restaurant, bar, and so on since everyone is out that night and your chances of getting recognized increase dramatically.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Use The Economic Downturn To Stay In With Your Mistress

2008-11-25T13:02:00.000-08:00

We’re all feeling the effects of the financial crisis and economic downturn of the last couple of months, and going forward there is little hope if it abating anytime soon.

There are a however a few benefits that that a shrewd cheater can take advantage of during these turbulent times.

This is the final installment a three part series that will help you keep cheating while other players are sitting on the sidelines.

Using Economic Downturn to Stay In
If you already have a girlfriend and mistress, or an established rotation of other women, then you can use these weak financial times to reduce your risk factor.

Tell your women that you want to safeguard your money since the future is very uncertain and you never know what future costs or issues (job loss) might rear its ugly head. You are concerned for her as well and she should probably do the same.

Therefore, its probably best if both of you conserve together by going out less and staying in more. This course of action will reduce the chances of being caught in public with another woman, while simultaneously increasing the number of times you have sex since you will have to find a way to kill time.

Ordering in and renting movies is a good suggestion, and a timeless classic.

I also recommend having a private cocktail party with just the two of you, allowing you to mix drinks you’ve never tried before which leads to intoxication, which inevitably leads you to the bedroom. You win again.

Remember, even though times are tough for everyone right now, there is always a way to take advantage of a situation for the shrewd cheater.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Women Look For Financial Security During Financial Crisis

2008-11-20T10:06:00.000-08:00

We’re all feeling the effects of the financial crisis and economic downturn of the last couple of months, and going forward there is little hope if it abating anytime soon.

There are a however a few benefits that that a shrewd cheater can take advantage of during these turbulent times.

This is the 2nd installment in a three part series that will help you keep cheating while other players are sitting on the sidelines.

Looking for Financial Security
Women will seek out men that give them the feel of financial security during times of monetary crisis. They want to feel safe with a guy that can take care of them if they desperately need it.

You can appear to be that guy.

Make sure you talk about how financially solid you are right, how the economy isn’t affecting you, and more importantly will not affect you going forward.

This will separate you from the other men in her life that she knows more personal details about (coworkers, friends, ex-boyfriends, etc.) who might be struggling financially.

She will compare them to you and measure that you are in a better position and therefore a better catch.

She will drift to you just for the financial safety aspect since you will seem far more secure then other men in her life, and you will become the Alpha male in this respect.

Take advantage of this and establish yourself as “The Man” and she will act accordingly by accepting your advances.

Sooner than you know, you will be able to add her to your rotation, and she will stay in line from worry that she might alienate or lose you if she puts the usual relationship pressures on you.

Remember, even though times are tough for everyone right now, there is always a way to take advantage of a situation for the shrewd cheater.

Stay tuned for part 3 of this series: Use the Economic Downturn to Stay In With Your Mistress

Take Care,

A.C.

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Exploit the Heightened Emotions of Women During The Economic Downturn

2008-11-14T10:51:00.000-08:00

We’re all feeling the effects of the financial crisis and economic downturn of the last couple of months, and going forward there is little hope if it abating anytime soon.

There are a however a few benefits that that a shrewd cheater can take advantage of during these turbulent times.

I have created a three part series that will help you keep cheating while other players are sitting on the sidelines.

Exploit the Heightened Emotional State of Women
The economic crisis is probably affecting women emotionally much harder than their male counterparts, putting them in a heightened emotional state. They are probably far more worried about their credit card debts, monthly expenses, and the potential of a job loss then men are.

If you have a girlfriend then you initially will view this as a negative since she will be more irritable and bitchy than usual.

But they are also distracted by their own personal issues allowing you more time and leeway to engage in your infidelity.

The more women are concerned by their personal fiscal crisis, the less time they spend scrutinizing you, what you’re doing and snooping around your stuff, that’s always a plus.

If you’re working on adding a new woman to your rotation, this is an advantageous position to be in. Most women don’t like to address their problems directly (rather hoping the issues will resolve themselves) and easily fall prey to distraction, and you can be that distraction.

They would much rather focus on a new guy in their life showing them attention, making them feel good about themselves, than figuring out a way to alleviate their stressful financial predicament. This makes them much easier to fit into your rotation as your mistress, since they will be far less likely to concern themselves with normal relationship issues and just look forward to seeing you and forgetting about their troubles.

Remember, even though times are tough for everyone right now, there is always a way to take advantage of a situation for the shrewd cheater.

Stay tuned for part 2 of this series:
Women Look For Financial Security During Financial Crisis

Take Care,

A.C.

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A Mistress of an Indifferent Type

2008-10-20T10:13:00.000-07:00

In my previous blogs I discussed the Oblivious and Trusting as well as the Scandalous and Slut personality traits to look for in women that you plan to cheat on your girlfriend with.

Today I will continue with the last personality features in women that you can exploit for your cheating ways, the Indifferent.

Indifferent
Last but not least, the one that just doesn't care, and one of my personal favorites.

This type of woman is probably trying to kill time until her boyfriend or husband gets out of jail, or gets back from an extended business trip.

She is generally disillusioned with relationships at her present moment in time, putting her in a state of mind where she could just as easily take it or leave it, no big deal to her, either way.

Regardless of her mindset, these types of women are good to stick in your rotation for a few weeks.

Since she doesn’t have much vested interest in a relationship with you besides the entertainment value, free meals, and sex, she will not become a big burden in your life. Keep her as one of your secondary women or relegate her to booty call status and you’ll be just fine.

Hope you enjoyed my series on female personality types that enable Cheating On Your Girlfriend and Not Getting Caught. If you know of any more that I might have missed feel free to comment or contact me.

A. C.

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Your Slutty Mistress

2008-10-02T12:59:00.000-07:00

In my previous blogs I was addressing the issue of choosing women by personality types. I discussed the Oblivious, Trusting, and Scandelous personality traits to look for in women you plan to cheat on your girlfriend with and how they can be beneficial when choosing a mistress.

Today I will continue with another personality feature in women that you can exploit for your cheating ways; The Slut.

Slut:
The slut is the one that all of us have come across from time to time. This type is essentially out only for the sex, whatever her reason might be.

Maybe she receives the emotional sustenance that's missing from her life, maybe she is a sex addict, or maybe she thinks this is the way to a man's heart. It doesn't matter, she's offering and you should be taking.

The slut type is easily identified by her actions, her reputation, and by the way she flirts incessantly with any man that gives her the time of day.

She’ll have a tendency to sleep with a high volume of men, but never really have a good reason for doing so. She won’t be able to explain to herself, or her friends why she gave it up to some guy she met earlier that afternoon at the gas station.

She’ll go from guy to guy like a butterfly from flower to flower, until some sucker weds her for a lifetime of heartbreak and infidelity since her behavior will continue well into matrimony.

Don’t be that guy.

Be the guy that beds her not the one that weds her.

This, again, is the type you want to relegate to a booty call. Definitely under no circumstances do you consider this one as you girlfriend, and if you currently have a girlfriend that fits this description, then by all means give her the boot.

Or better yet, get a real girlfriend and keep this one just for the sex, and when she cheats on you, she’s not really cheating on you.

But you want to be careful, if it gets around that you frequent sluts it will cast you in a bad light. If you’re seen having drinks with a girl that's a notorious slut it will be hard to explain away that she is only a friend to anyone that might see you.

By her very reputation you will be associated with her in a sexual regard, and therefore if your girlfriend gets wind of it, she will surely assume you two did the deed, which you probably did.

There is one more personality that you should look for, the Indifferent type, and we’ll cover this in my next blog.

Stay Tuned.
A. C.

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Your Scandalous Mistress

2008-09-18T20:56:00.000-07:00

In my previous blogs I was addressing the issue of choosing women by personality types. I discussed the Oblivious and Trusting personality traits to look for in women you plan to cheat on your girlfriend with and how they can be beneficial when choosing a mistress.

Today I will continue with another personality feature in women that you can exploit for your cheating ways; The Scandalous.

Scandalous Type:
This personality type can encompass a wide variety of women; married, with or with out boyfriends, dating multiple partners like yourself, and even some that are accepting of the fact that you have a girlfriend.

Usually you will want to keep this type as one of your secondary women, or maybe even just a booty call. They do not make good girlfriend material by nature, but they make excellent cheating on your girlfriend material.

The scandalous ones that already come with a husband or a boyfriend, yet manage to find their way into your bedroom speak for themselves on why you wouldn't want them as your number one.

If she does have a significant other, usually she will be more paranoid about getting caught than you are, so she will make it incredibly easy for you.

It will usually entail discrete visits to your house or you to her location of choice (friend’s house or apartment, parents house, ect.) while their significant other is not around.

Yes, women do cheat as well; you'd be surprised at how many. Don’t question it, just learn to take advantage of it when they come your way.

The scandalous women that don’t have a significant other, but know you have a girlfriend, are the ones that you have to filter a little more carefully. They can be broken down into two distinct types.

The first kind just want have their fun with another woman's man.

This is the type that you want to shoot for. They are only looking to have a good time and have sex with a man they find attractive with no strings attached. They realize ahead of time that they are getting into something that will lead nowhere, and they are obviously fine with that.

But the second you have to be more wary of, since they entertain notions of stealing another woman's man.

This type focuses on causing you problems for their own personal benefit, by intending to break up your main relationship. You can weed these out with just a few conversations to figure out if they are more into you than just a good time. Ask them questions about how they feel about you having a girlfriend, and more importantly how they feel about you. If you start getting some long and detailed responses about how they wish you didn't have a girl and they eventually want to be your lady, wash your hands of them as quickly as possible.

Essentially the Scandalous type just likes the thrill of doing something that they know is not proper, just for the fun of it. Sleeping with another woman’s boyfriend is ample fun in that regard. Once you realize that all they want to do is break social boundaries and not really engage in any type of long term relationship, take advantage of it while you can.

In the next blog, everyone’s favorite… The Slut.

Stay tuned

A.C.

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The Trusting Type

2008-09-11T13:37:00.000-07:00

In my last blog we began to discuss the personality types in women that you can exploit for your infidelity. Some women are dominated by certain personality traits that make them easy to cheat on, and identifying those traits can be key to making your infidelity easier to hide and to help you avoid getting caught.

Today, we will look at the trusting type of woman, a wonderful characteristic in both friendship and romantic relationships. However, it also a something that can be exploited to the benefit of the cheater when properly manipulated.

The Trusting Type:
The trusting type is easily taken advantage of, a sad truth. The quality that is valued greatly in a monogamous relationship is the one that can be exploited exceptionally well when being unfaithful.

This character trait in woman will led them to trust their man because that's what they are used to. What their man tells them is the truth and there is usually not much debate.

This type of girl most often avoids conflict at all costs to avoid having to initiate interrogations and awkward confrontations. Even if there are obvious clues, sometimes this type of woman will tend to ignore them on the basis of her blind trust.

As with the Oblivious Type, don't get sloppy and you won't have too many problems in this situation. You can get this type of woman to fill the #2 role in your rotation quite easily, just remember that she will most likely think that she is your girlfriend so you will have to spend more time with her than a normal mistress.

In my next blog we will discuss the next set of personality traits that you can exploit in women for your cheating ways, they will be: The Scandalous Type.

Stay tuned.

A.C.

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The Oblivious Mistress

2008-09-04T13:36:00.000-07:00

An important determining factor in choosing women to cheat on your girlfriend with is personality. This is paramount since personality cannot be changed or altered in most cases. There are many different personality types; most are detrimental to infidelity. However, there a few traits that can be exploited. Let’s explore one that will allow you to cheat more freely, the Oblivious.

The Oblivious Type:
The oblivious personality is pretty self-explanatory. She is too preoccupied with herself, her career, family, or hobby to even consider the fact that her man might be cheating on her.

The more time her man doesn't spend with her allows her more time to concentrate on herself and her activities of choice. If you are involved with a woman of this type, she will make it very easy to cheat on her. She is to wrapped up in herself to notice that she is neglecting your needs and providing you ample opportunity to stray.

You probably want this woman to play the role of your #2 girl since she has no clue of what's going on, but is still probably under the assumption that you and she are exclusive.

She wouldn’t consider you her boyfriend, but would in most cases consider the two of you dating. She will give you a lot of leeway due to her distraction with her personal issues which you should take advantage of, just don’t get overconfident or sloppy.

In my next blog we will discuss another personality trait that you can exploit in women for your cheating ways: the trusting type.

Stay tuned.

A.C.

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Treat Your Girlfriend Like A Princess

2008-08-14T14:42:00.000-07:00

The title of this blog is what I tell guys that ask me how to keep their women from being suspicious.

If it doesn’t make any sense initially, then give it some thought. Sometimes the best offense is the best defense.

It’s very simple; just treat her like all women fantasize about being treated, like a princess. Romance her and pay her generous compliments often, buy her little tokens of affection to let her know you are thinking about her, call her to say you just wanted to hear her voice, and when you two are together focus only on her without any distractions.

Keeping her in fantasyland will accomplish many things that are beneficial to your hidden agenda.

She will become totally enamored with you, and be more willing to give in to little things such as letting you go out all night with your friends, she might not even mind if you don’t call her till the next day.

She will be less likely to worry about other women or become overly suspicious of your activities since you are continuously showing her that she is the main focus of your life.

You can start to see the line of reasoning; if she is happy she will let you do things that she might not otherwise. If you keep her in princess fantasyland she will have no reason to suspect anything, leaving you free to cheat on her as you desire.

This is an indirect way of reinforcing your way of keeping your girlfriend in check. Instead of accomplishing this directly by telling her what you want or forcing your philosophy on her, you let her do it to herself.

This method will take more creativity and manipulation, as well as more work and effort on your part, but when executed correctly the rewards far outweigh the labor involved.

Keeping her happy means keeping her mind occupied with romance and satisfaction of your relationship. Keeping her mind occupied means fewer chances for her to be wondering what you might be getting into.

It works, trust me.

Happy Cheating,

A.C.

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A College Student Makes A Great Mistress.

2008-07-30T15:34:00.000-07:00

A woman’s lifestyle can be a great indicator whether she might be ripe for infidelity. If she is preoccupied by certain aspects in her life that demand her attention more than a romantic relationship, then they might be a prime candidate to either cheat on or to become your mistress.

In my previous blogs, I talked about Single Mothers and Workaholics as women that fit those categories. In today’s edition I will analyze another lifestyle choice that you can exploit, if you so choose.

Student:
A student’s time is consumed by academic endeavors thus leaving little time for romance. So when the moment of opportunity arises they will jump at the chance to spend some quality time with you.

This works a little better for a woman who has a career and is working on a degree at the same time. Her time will be dedicated to her job during the day, while studying and classes will dominate her schedule in the evenings and weekends. Thus you will have ample time to pursue other women while she is writing papers or going to classes.

A woman attaining her undergraduate degree as a fulltime student will have time for a more conventional relationship. But nevertheless her schedule will still be dedicated to her studies but not as much as a woman that has both a job and academic endeavors.

Note that there is certain calendar cycles associated with the school year. During breaks and holidays these types of women might want to make up for lost time by spending every waking moment with you, putting an immense burden on your other relationships. To play it safe you will have to either terminate the relationship heading into long breaks such as summer or winter, or have a very difficult schedule during those times.

If you can somehow find a combination of both a student and a workaholic you might have hit the jackpot, since most of their free time spent with you will be for sexual encounters. Keep your eye out for these types of women. You will be well rewarded.

I hope you enjoyed this week’s Lifestyle Series. If I missed any lifestyle aspects that you think should be included feel free to contact me or post a comment and I will address it in a future blog.

A.C.

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A Workaholic Lifestyle Makes Any Woman Easy To Cheat On

2008-07-24T09:51:00.000-07:00

As I discussed in my previous blog, Lifestyle Choices Women Make Can Make Them an Attractive Option for Infidelity, you can take advantage of a woman's, if you so choose, and be very successful at cheating on her. Unfair advantage or not, capitalizing on such conditions can make for really easy prospects to expand your infidelity. You just have to be able realize these opportunities when they appear, and I am here to point them out to you.

Workaholic:
Whether it’s their own choice, or if their career dictates it, when they spend too much time at the office that directly plays to your hand. Any woman who falls into this category will make an excellent secondary woman.

The reasons are self-evident and parallel to those of the single mothers; their time is committed to something other than their boyfriends. This, however, does not exclude them from seeking out a relationship, but it has to be on their terms. Meaning that the man they date has to be willing to tailor his time around her work schedule, which the shrewd player should turn to his advantage.

Since her work schedule will usually be predictable, you can easily weave a couple of other relationships around women who are engrossed in their careers. You just have to show up when they have time for their relationship and most likely they will want to dive right into the affections that have eluded them.

Another benefit of the workaholic is that their careers often take them out of town, allowing for more time to spend with your other women, as well as reducing the chances of accidentally bumping into them when you’re out on the town with one of your aforementioned women.

A workaholic is an ideal woman to cheat on. Her time is frequently allocated to her career, out of town often, and a predictable schedule will allow a copious amount of free time to pursue other avenues of interest.

Stay tuned we will continue the Lifestyle Series in my next blog.

A.C.

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Single Mothers Make an Attractive Option for Infidelity

2008-07-18T09:06:00.000-07:00

There are lifestyle choices women make, whether intentional or not, that make them an attractive number two or three option in your repertoire because of exactly that; their lifestyle.

Their current circumstance really skews the advantage in your favor allowing you far greater latitude with your infidelity than you would have in a normal relationship. Unfair advantage or not, capitalizing on such conditions can make for really easy opportunities to expand your infidelity.

Single Mothers:
At the first mention of this you might think, “How is this beneficial to me?” But, you have to dive beneath the surface and analyze the situation. Most men see the child, think of the added responsibility and aggravation of dragging the little rug rat along everywhere, and having to constantly work around that annoyance. However, if you take a moment to turn this situation to your advantage you might have found a diamond in the rough.

First, single mothers have a harder time finding men that will enter into a relationship due to the obvious complications, so when a guy offers interest they’ll be far more receptive than under usual dating conditions.

Second, just the fact that you accept her with another man’s child, she’ll think of you as different and far more understanding than the other men. So right from the start you’re already elevated to a slightly higher esteem due to the fact that you are willing to make a “sacrifice” and explore a relationship with her, regardless of her child.

Now, let’s discuss what natural advantage this situation provides you. Her first commitment is to the child, never to you. How is this beneficial? Her main focus will always be upon the child, spending time with the child, caring for the child, taking the child places, feeding the child, and so forth. That requires a huge investment of her time, leaving you free to pursue other avenues of entertainment without having her constantly in your business. She doesn’t have that much available time to be checking up on you, most likely she won't.

An wonderful side benefit is that when she does find some free time, she won’t want to waste it, knowing full well that those moments are few and far in between. So taking advantage of this she will usually take you right to her bedroom to make up for all the lost affection she has been craving. You reap all the benefits without having to go out on many dates, which will reduce the chances of getting seen in public. She will invite you over on weekdays after she has put her child to bed for the evening, between 8 – 10pm depending on the age of the child. This will give you a good two to three hours of time alone with her with nothing to do but give her the attention she has been missing.

Having a single mother in your rotation is an excellent idea, they are low maintenance and for the most part preoccupied, making them that much easier to cheat on. If you can manage to find an attractive single mother I sincerely recommend adding her to your repertoire.

Stay tuned we will continue the Lifestyle Series in my next blog.

A.C.

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Infidelity On the 4th Of July

2008-07-02T14:12:00.000-07:00

In honor of Independence Day, I just thought that I’d throw in this public service announcement for all my devoted cheaters as a reminder.

Even though the 4th of July is not as stressful of a holiday as Valentines Day, Christmas, a or New Year’s Eve, it’s still a pretty difficult day for the gentlemen player who is juggling numerous women at the same time.

With multiple balls in the air you have to be quick to make sure you don’t drop the ball with any of your women during this summer holiday.

Like I mentioned earlier the 4th allows you some leeway in making choices regarding which women you will spend time with, as opposed to the other aforementioned holidays that every woman will demand to spend with her man.

With that said, your women will all still try to plan something with you on Independence Day so you have to calculate accordingly.

First you have to decide what you actually want to do and which one of them you want to do it with (if any of them at all). After all you can always just have a barbecue at your buddy’s house or what not.

But if you decide to have a girl along for the ride on the 4th make sure you have a viable excuse for you other women. If it’s your girlfriend that you’re planning to hang with then your excuses can be family related since you shouldn’t be bringing your secondary women around your family anyways, so you can use that. Just tell them that your family spends every 4th of July together and it’s just the immediate family, which should get you out of any obligations with any women where the relationship is just casual.

But if you’re trying to shake your girlfriend to spend time with another woman then you better have a good alibi that you set up in advance of the 4th. Then know exactly what you’re girlfriend is doing and make sure your plans are in the opposite direction. Nothing worse than running into your girl at the fireworks show when you’re with your other woman… that will definitely lead to some pyrotechnics.

Sloppiness on a lesser holiday such as Independence Day has tripped up many would be players who didn’t give his game enough forethought.

Remember to stay disciplined, plan ahead for any holidays, and to keep your game tight.

This is nothing you didn't already know, but a reminder can't hurt.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Keeping A Distance Between Your Women

2008-06-27T11:25:00.000-07:00

The distance separating your women is a significant weapon in your arsenal. Many would be players and cheaters usually make the mistake of dating women that reside in too close of a proximity to one another, which can result in a multitude of issues.

Yes, I realize that dating women that live closer to each other also has a couple of advantages, slight as they might be, these advantages do not outweigh the negative repercussions. Sure there is less driving time between the two women so you have less time to account for when your girlfriend wants to know where you’re at, as well as saving you money on gas, with prices around $4.60 a gallon (I live in LA) that’s a significant consideration.

However, both of those benefits are trumped by the fact ultimate end game, which is getting caught, and dating women that live in the same town, city, or county definitely can get you caught.

Everything is relative though, so you live in a large metropolitan city such as Los Angeles or New York then you can afford to date multiple women in the same city, since the chances of getting caught are miniscule. Since the population cross section is so large most often times you will get away with it, but the chance still remains. This problem is accentuated in smaller more enclosed cities and towns since you have more opportunity to be in the same place at the same time with a particular person than in a larger metropolitan area. This obviously brings certain issues into the forefront if you are with your girlfriend and your mistress just happens to be there as well.

But if you’re dating a girl that lives in LA for instance, you could greatly reduce the chances of getting caught if your other woman lives in Orange County (25 to 30 minute drive depending on traffic). This distance is just great enough to eliminate you accidentally running into your other woman at the mall, a restaurant, grocery store or some other random location since they would usually be going to those places in their area of residence. Thus leaving you free to hang out with your girlfriend in LA without having to look over your shoulder and worry about running into your other woman.

Another problem eliminated by incorporating distance between the women in your rotation is that they are less likely to “drop by,” or be “in the neighborhood,” allowing them to check up on you when you’re inaccessible to them. It’s amazing how a 20 – 30 mile buffer will eradicate this behavior since most women will not want to make the effort. This in itself is worth the added distance, peace of mind is necessary to help you focus on getting away with all the other aspects of cheating.

Let’s get back to dating multiple women in large metropolitan areas. Like I mentioned earlier, this situation allows you more leeway but you still have to keep in mind of the location of your women. Obviously you don’t want them to be in the same neighborhood, probably not even in the same side of the city. If you are dating a girl from the South side, then it’s probably a good idea for your other woman to be from the North side. This also brings in other factors that will help keep your women apart such as the difference in cultures on different sides of the same city.
You can easily say that a girl from the South side of Chicago would be different than a girl from the North side; therefore their lifestyles would vary as well adding another layer of security for you. Different lifestyles equal different interests, hobbies, employment, etc. This applies to any region you live in. Its safe to say that a girl from Los Angeles has a different lifestyle than a girl from Orange County (the reason I refer to Orange County rather than a city in Orange County is that the OC is more renown as a county than as individual cities), as there is a difference in the lives of a woman that lives in New York and one from New Jersey.

So ensure that you keep a safe buffer between your women, and you can drastically reduce the chances of running into one of them while you’re with the other, and vice versa.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Time To Communicate

2008-06-13T13:00:00.000-07:00

When you’re recruiting a new mistress, you have to play it like if you weren’t a cheater that already has a girlfriend, but as a normal guy trying to impress the girl to get her interested enough to put out.

This means that you have to do all those things that you usually do when you’re first “courting” a candidate for dating or to eventually fill the role of your girlfriend.

So after you’ve made the initial introductions and got her contact information, you now have to try to “get know her,” but what you’re really trying to do is say all the right things to get her to go out with you… we’ve all played that game.

Unfortunately, you have that pesky little problem of already having a girlfriend that impedes your ability to talk to the potential mistress at any given time. So you have to plot in advance how you will go about it without your girlfriend catching a whiff of your plans. This is even more imperative if you live with your girlfriend since you’re time is even scarcer in that situation.

With technology these days you can substitute texting and email for actual phone conversation, so it’s to your advantage to use it. A couple of text message exchanges throughout the day (when you’re girlfriend is not around) can easily take the place of what used require a half hour conversation on the phone. As long as you maintain the contact, staying in her mental focus you have achieved your goal.

Another easy way to maintain her interest is through email. If you have access to external email applications (Yahoo, Gmail) from work, and she has the time to email during working hours, then you can maintain a conversation throughout the day without much effort.

The same goes for online messaging (Yahoo Messenger, etc.) where you can enjoy a nice conversation without the worry of your girlfriend finding out, or trying to fit in the time for a phone call around your girlfriend’s shopping habits.

Just remember to erase all your text messages and emails from your Inbox and sent messages folders (On your phone and email),, so there is no proof for a snooping girlfriend.

But even with these alternative communication opportunities, you still have to slip in a phone conversation; otherwise things will start to fizzle. No other means of communication can really take the place of a phone conversation where you can get the instant response of the other person’s voice.

This is where you will have to get creative to be able to create the time and place to have these conversations, even more so if you live with your girlfriend.

If you live independently of your current significant other you’ll just have to account for the time you spent talking to this new woman, but only if your girlfriend asks. Obviously you can say you were watching a movie or sports, but you better make sure you can give a quick synopsis of the plot, or the accounts and score of the game.

But for those of you who aren’t as lucky then getting out of the house is your best bet for an uninterrupted conversation. Offer to go to the store to buy groceries, go to the gym, shoot hoops, visit your parents, or whatever can get you a half an hour of free time. Then go park somewhere and do your thing. Just remember to vary it and not always do it on the same day at around the same time, this will keep both women from noticing a pattern.

You can also have quick conversations on the way home from work, or if you’re out running errands.

Obviously you can also just wait for your girl to leave the house, which if she has a set schedule is worth waiting for, to go shopping or whatever. But this also makes her arrival unpredictable and you should be aware of the time frame she will be gone so you can start wrapping up your conversation before she gets back home.

In the end there are many ways you can communicate and create time for conversation, just plan ahead and you should be alright.

A.C.

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Leaving Early on Special Occasions and Holidays

2008-05-23T17:59:00.000-07:00

Tell-Tale Signs Women Look For To See If You’re Cheating On Them

In this multiple part series I have been discussing some common signs that you as a cheater might exhibit which will tip off the women in your life that you are cheating on them.
If you have read my previous three blogs (Predictable Pattern of Date Scheduling, Ending Your Dates Early, and Day Time Only Dates) in this series, then you already have a sense of what women look for.

Recently I was talking to my girlfriend and she told me a story about her friend who has been getting cheated on for two years by the same “boyfriend.”

But after hearing the recounts of her friend’s travails, I realized that her friend wasn’t really the girlfriend at all, she was the other woman. The girl in the story didn’t recognize it, neither did my girlfriend (lucky me), but I sure did.

I chuckled to myself though, wondering how they missed the obvious signs.
Regardless of their naivety, there are women out there that will not overlook the following tell-tale sign of a cheater, so pay attention.

Leaving Early on Special Occasions and Holidays
That’s right, this guy in the story (and I’ve met him personally at a barbecue, he’s the complete definition of the word; chump, but I still have to give him credit for having the balls to try it) dropped her off at 9pm on New Year’s Eve claiming he got sick from dinner and had to go home.
Yea, I’m laughing right now too.

Nevertheless, the girl bought it, otherwise I wouldn’t be writing this blog. He obviously had plans with his real girlfriend for New Years Eve but knew he couldn’t avoid a date with his #2 girl on that important day, so he scheduled her early and faked his way out of the date. It was a sad excuse, and to anyone reading this… I in NO WAY RECOMMEND THAT APPROACH.

Most of you know my theory of breaking up with all your women except your girlfriend during the Holiday Season to maintain your sanity. That’s the way to do it, and you avoid having to buy multiple presents.

Now, to address the issue at hand; Leaving Early on Special Occasions and Holidays.
If you develop a habit of leaving early from a date, party, or a get together that one of your women has planned for your birthday, special occasion (i.e. Graduation) or national holiday that everyone celebrates, she will inevitably get suspicious.

Seriously, if you think about it; who goes home on New Year’s Eve with a sick stomach? You stick it out till midnight, or try to sleep it off at her house. Same thing with the July 4th barbecue, you have to stick around for the fireworks after. As well as on Christmas Eve, your birthday, and so forth.

Maybe you can get out of it once, but if you make it a habit it will definitely stick out in the girl’s memory since it happened on an important day.

The best way to avoid this problem is to plan ahead. Figure out which girl you want to spend it with and make up an excuse why you won’t be able to hang out with your other women a few weeks ahead of time and let them know. This way they can plan their day and there will be no drama concerning why you have leave early.

When it comes to your birthday, I have a blog dedicated to just that situation, take a look.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Rotate Your Women Between Day Time and Evening Dates

2008-05-16T10:37:00.000-07:00

Tell-Tale Signs Women Look For To See If You’re Cheating On Them

In this multiple part series I will be discussing some common signs that you as a cheater might exhibit which will tip off the women in your life that you are cheating on them.

If you read my previous two blogs (Predictable Pattern of Date Scheduling & Ending Your Dates Early) in this series, then you already have a sense of what women look for. Here is another predictability trap that cheaters often fall into when they are preoccupied with juggling too many women.

Rotate Your Women Between Day Time and Evening Dates
You have two choices when you go on a date; day or night. Most likely your girlfriend will demand most of your attention in the evening, after all who else are you going to spend it with, at least that’s what she’s thinking. This leaves only your day time hours free to spend with your other women.

This scenario is plausible for the first few dates with your secondary women, but soon they will want to go on a “real date” at night. From a woman’s perspective the day date lags behind the evening date in stature, women simply find the nocturnal rendezvous more appealing. Plus if you’re not taking them out at night, they are wondering what you’re doing (just like you’re girlfriend), who you might be with, and if you’re really serious about them.

What an experienced cheater has to do is mix up the dating scheme. Alternate between day and night dates within your circle of women, and incorporate the lessons from the previous blogs in this series as well and rotate weekday and weekend dates into the mix. Keep a schedule of what day and time frame you spent with which girl, and make sure to change that the next time you see her.

This will keep them from recognizing a noticeable trend and you stress free.
Stay tuned for part 4 of this series coming soon.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Ending Your Dates Early

2008-05-09T15:17:00.000-07:00

Tell-Tale Signs Women Look For To See If You’re Cheating On Them

In this multiple part series I am discussing some common signs that you as a cheater might exhibit which will tip off the women in your life that you are cheating on them.

These are not inadvertent clues left behind (receipts, strands of hair or lip gloss left behind in your car), but more recurring things that a cheater has to do to create time for their multiple women

Ending Your Dates Early
Cheaters have a tendency to end dates early with their other women. It can be for a multitude of reasons; perhaps a cheater lives with his girlfriend and he has to get home by a reasonable hour otherwise she will get suspicious. Or they have a demanding girlfriend that constantly is monitoring his activities so he can only get away for a few hours at a time, never for a full day.

Ending your dates early will work only for a very limited amount of time, and most women will have alarm bells going off in their heads when you’re dropping them off on a Friday or Saturday night at 9pm and calling it a night. They will wonder what else you have going on that you’re not interested in sticking around later through the night, forgoing romantic situations.

It doesn’t really matter what excuse you might give, you have work the next day, you’re feeling sick, or you have to get up early the next morning. If you make it a habit (often times you only need to do it twice) and they’ll be onto you, and eventually they will test you by creating a date scenario where you can’t leave early. If you agree to the date and you pull you’re same old tricks then that’s confirmation in heir minds that you’re up to something, and so is if you decline the date altogether.

To get around this you’ll have to figure out ways to go on a date without leaving early, period. There is no way around this.

If you have a habit of leaving early you will have to have more dates where you stay as long as the date dictates, rather than wrapping it up early so you can get with your other woman. Even this solution is only a band aid since the woman will be suspicious about your activities, but hopefully you have had already had the fun you were hoping for and cut her loose before she causes problems.

Stay tuned for part 3 of this series coming soon.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Falling Into A Predictable Pattern With Your Dates

2008-05-02T09:24:00.000-07:00

Tell-Tale Signs Women Look For To See If You’re Cheating On Them

In this multiple part series I will be discussing some common signs that you as a cheater might exhibit which will tip off the women in your life that you are cheating on them.

I’m not talking about the inadvertent clue left behind (receipts, strands of hair or lip gloss left behind in your car), but more about the recurring things that you have to do to get time with your other women.

Falling Into A Predictable Pattern With Your Dates

Establishing a routine with your women might seem like a good idea, allowing you to get some normalcy into juggling multiple women. You go out with your mistress on Friday and your Girlfriend on gets the weekend, giving you some predictability.

However, most women will start to wonder about this rigid schedule you have established. Your mistress will begin to wonder why she has to be relegated to only a Friday night date, and your girlfriend will occasionally want to go out on Friday night and grow curious why you always turn her down.

After a certain amount of time you will have to change up your schedule a bit to rearrange which days you spend with which woman. I recommend that you don’t fall into a particular pattern for longer than three weeks, and avoid it all together if you can.

Try to set up the schedule with your women early in the week paying strict attention to varying the days you spend with them. This allows you to plan ahead, keeping your women from noticing your pattern, and still allowing you to have normal schedule in your life.

Stay tuned for part 2 of this series coming soon.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Vacation Infidelity Part II

2008-04-17T15:14:00.000-07:00

Hooking up with multiple girls while on vacation is a likely opportunity that will present itself. You just have to know how to take advantage of it.

There are a few things to consider which will help guide you along your path. Once you hook up with a girl who is also on vacation you will probably exchange hotel contact info and things of that nature. Keep this with you but only use it in case you're having bad luck hooking up with a new girl the following night. After all, you already had your fun with the woman from the night before; there is no reason to spend much more of your precious vacation time with her. Also, try to find out where she is going to go party the night following your initial encounter and try to schedule a different venue to ensure she doesn't catch you hooking up with a new girl. Even on vacation women are very possessive and hate it with a passion when they are screwed over for another girl.

Remember you have no need for a vacation girlfriend. We’ve all known the guy that hooked up with a girl on the first night of the vacation and spent the rest of the week with her, ignoring his friends and all the other available women. Leaving him with a sad heart when the vacation romance ends and the girl eventually goes back home, as well as a sketchy story to his girlfriend back home about why he is in hardly any of the vacation photos. You are there to have fun, sample different women, and not to settle down with a vacation girlfriend, stick to that idea.
Try to make sure you do not hook up with women that live in the same general geographical area as you. This could lead these women to attempt to seek out a relationship with you after the vacation is over in your home area. If you feel that you have to pursue a girl that lives two blocks away from you, simply lie and say you're from somewhere else, making your life much easier in the long run.

If you take pictures with women that you hook up with, always try to use your camera, allowing you total control of the film and negatives. You can tell these women you’ll email them copies, which you have no intention of doing. Don't ever let one of your buddies carelessly take pictures of you hanging out with these vacation women, since you never know how or where these photos might end up. Maybe your buddy’s girlfriend will accidentally show them to your girlfriend at a social function in the future. To be safe, use your own camera and that way you won't have any questions down the road. If the vacation women take pictures they will most likely want to send you copies so have them email it to one of your non existent email accounts.

Vacation Infidelity Tips

1. If one of your vacation honeys gives you a parting gift that seems like a token of affection you would only receive from a woman, ditch it before you get off the plane. It will save you the headache of trying to explain to your girlfriend why you have teddy bear that says "I'll miss you” in your luggage. If for some reason you neglect to rid yourself of this paraphernalia, just tell your girlfriend you bought it for her, if it’s applicable.

2. Always dispose of any condoms and other sexual paraphernalia before you get off the plane. Also when packing for your trip, remember to pack your condoms after your girlfriend has finished helping you pack, for obvious reasons.

3. Don't come back with any marks on your body such as scratches on your back, etc.

4. Make sure that everyone on the trip who knows you had a romantic encounter understands that silence is golden, and know not to say anything to their own girlfriends. This rule is vital to uphold, since women have this need to divulge information to one another, most often to their buddies’ girlfriend about the indiscretions that might have occurred on a given vacation.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Vacation Infidelity

2008-04-11T12:04:00.000-07:00

I went on a short vacation last week and I thought it would be a good idea to refresh everyone on the good practices of Vacation Infidelity. Plus with the vacation season fast approaching, I thought I’d get you ready for summer with a few vacation infidelity tips for you to think about.

Going on vacation without your girlfriend can and should be considered a free for all, for the very reason that you are without supervision with an abundance of opportunity all around you. The women you will meet on your holiday will have their guard down, looking for a good time, and be far less scrutinizing of the guy they hook up with. This is a direct contradiction to normal circumstances under which women are far more protective and hesitant to go just with the flow.

Women on vacation will be much more prone to engage in questionable activity due to the fact that they are in a vacation mindset. You will be meeting ladies that you will, in all honesty, never see again after your vacation is over, making it far easier to cheat than when you are at home.
However, there are a few items that should be discussed before you taste this guiltless fruit.

1. Avoid giving the women you hook up with your contact information, but if for some reason you do, make sure it’s one of your ancillary email addresses that your girlfriend has no idea exists. This allows you to strictly filter your correspondences with these women without fear of discovery.

2. Whenever possible ask for their contact information first making it appear as if you're genuinely interested in contacting them, which will lead them to wait to receive your contact information when you “supposedly” will call or email them in the future.

3. Under no circumstances should you give out your address since you never know when you're girlfriend will decide to help you with the mail. Do not to give out your phone number since most of the women you meet will probably be from different geographical regions than you, meaning different time zones. This is important because different time zones could result in odd hour phone calls that might make your girlfriend wonder why all of a sudden you’re getting calls at strange hours or why unfamiliar area codes are showing up on your caller I.D.

This will be a two parter, so look for the second installment in the next blog.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Infidelity on Your Birthday

2008-03-28T13:45:00.000-07:00

With my birthday coming up soon I thought I would address a much overlooked issue for cheaters; their respective birthdays.

When dating multiple women one of the first facts they all usually inquire about is your birth date. Not to determine how old you are, but to derive the actual day so they can file it away in their memories, and plan something for you on that day.

They are trying to show that they care about you, planning something sweet. But unknown to them they are planning to cause a great deal of stress.Obviously it would be hard to celebrate your birthday with multiple women on the same day, going from one date or party to another would not only be tiring but a easy way of getting caught. Most likely they would want to spend the entire day with you making it exceedingly difficult for you to get away to another birthday celebration.

I have personally faced this dilemma numerous times and devised only one real strategy to avoid the problem; I lie.

I only tell my girlfriend, my number one girl, my real birth day. I usually tell my secondary women a different day in the same month. That way if they ever get a look at my ID I can tell them the DMV made a mistake/typo on the date and I never went back to change it. I usually try to space it out about a week apart, so if my real birth is on the 15th then I tell my mistresses that my birthday is on the 5th or the 25th (which backs up my claim that it was a DMV typo on my ID). The real trick is to remember which girl you told which date to, that’s just something you will have to make a mental note of.

Once you have your alternate birthdays established you have to make sure that your women stick to that time frame, and they don’t plan to celebrate your birthday the weekend after because they couldn’t get tickets, book a hotel room, or whatever reason might postpone it. You have to let them know early enough (1 month before) that the week after and before your birthday you have plans just so you can constrain their plans to that week that you have allocated for them.

This method works best and arouses the least suspicion. In the past I have tried to have my other women celebrate my birthday a week after or before the actual date and they always made a big deal and asked questions about why they couldn’t spend the actual day with me. They were upset that they weren’t important enough in my life to spend my birthday with me that my friends were more important, or they just accused me of having another girl I was celebrating with. They were right, about all those things but I didn’t need the headaches.

Once I decided to lie about my birth day all those ancillary issues stopped, and they will for you too. You just have to remember when your alternate birthdays are.

Take Care,

A.C.

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MySpace Is An Infidelity Killer

2008-03-21T15:39:00.001-07:00

Having a MySpace page makes it easy to meet different types of women, and a lot of them. Like online personals, you can browse through and select which women you want to contact in minutes. Essentially you can create a great way to break the ice with a woman, or just direct her to your MySpace page to let her get to know you better after you’ve met her somewhere else.

But don’t let all the positives fool you, there are several detracting factors to having a MySpace page, factors that can surely be “rotation killers” as described by one of my dedicated readers... Percy Boy (He gave his okay to cite him for suggesting this particular blog, otherwise I would have left him anonymous as I have done for numerous readers in the past who did not want it known they read the theories disseminated here).

The same thing that makes your MySpace page a great tool for meeting and promoting yourself to women, can also serve to get you caught, which is the information on it, whether put there by you or someone else. This also applies to Facebook, Friendster and most other social networking sites.

Remember, once your picture is on your page it identifies you as the owner of that page legitimizing whatever information is there since it was either put there by you or approved by you.

This is where the problems can arise. Most likely you will have a set of alternative truths you’ve told to your mistress about yourself, but if she happens across your MySpace page she can quickly cross check them. If you told her you were single yet you have pictures of you and your girlfriend plastered all over your page, well you know what will ensue. Even if you’re smart enough to refrain from the previous scenario your mistress can still gain a vast amount of information about you that you probably didn’t want her to know which could lead her to figuring out you have not been fully truthful.

Another issue that could occur is your mistress leaving a comment on your page, whether intentionally to get you caught or accidentally just to thank you for the date the other night, which then could be read by your girlfriend. You would have some explaining to do, and even if you got out of it most likely you girlfriend would have contacted your mistress (social networking sites are beautiful aren’t they) through the aforementioned comment, and verified that you had been cheating on her.

I have some solutions that can help you avoid getting outed on MySpace, but as always you need to implement beforehand, in fact probably right after you get done reading this blog.

Don’t Use You Real Name on Your MySpace Page
This way no one can do a search by your name vastly increasing the effort and difficulty in locating your page. Use some sort of nickname in the URL instead which does not have any derivative of your real name in it. Closely monitor all comments posted to ensure your real name is not written in there by any of your friends, and never use your own name on anything you post like your blog or bio.

Don’t Use a Photo of Yourself as Your Main Image
This will vastly reduce the chances of the wrong woman finding your page. If you post a picture of your favorite sports team, band, or car it will make you much less identifiable since most people will not take the effort to click on the link to your page if they don’t recognize who it belongs to.

Create a Second MySpace Identity/Page
Seems pretty elementary but most people do not go through the trouble or have the forethought to do this. Obviously this page is for your mistress. If you provide her with your (secondary) MySpace page she’ll have no reason to search the site, thus eliminating that problem. This page should be set up with a nick name also, and follow all the rules of not using your real name or your photo as the main image on this page. Now you can customize this page with all the alternative truths you’ve told your mistress synching it all up and making it all seem that much more legitimate.

Avoid Participating Groups, Forums, and Blog Comments
When you participate in a group, forum, or comment on a blog you’ll leave your digital footprint. You never know if your mistress could be reading or participating as well and all of a sudden realize that you have another page that she didn’t know about. If you don’t use a photo of yourself as your main image (as recommended above) you can reduce the chances of getting caught this way, but If you really feel the necessity to participate you probably want to create another page/identity for this purpose only.

Following the methods I described will go a long way to keeping your infidelity under wraps (the theme song for this blog, check out the link to the song from a couple of blogs ago).
If you have any methods to hide your infidelity on MySpace I might have missed, please add in your comments.

MySpace like most social networking sites are easy ways to add women to your rotation, but also great rotation killers if you’re careless, don’t ever forget that when you’re contacting a new woman you’re planning to cheat on your girlfriend with.

Take Care,
A.C.

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On Vacation With My Girlfriend and Still Cheating On Her

2008-03-13T08:31:00.000-07:00

I went on a short trip to Las Vegas last week with my girlfriend.

Cheers to all of you who were there and I saw you but didn’t know you.

While there I decided to try out a method of cheating on my girl that I had been thinking about for while, but haven’t had the chance implement; Cheating on her while we’re on vacation together.

At first it sounds too far fetched for it to be true, or better yet, for it to actually work. At least that’s what I thought when it first occurred to me.

But the more I thought about it, the more I wanted to see if it could be done, and I came up with a plan that I carried out last week.

First a little background on my current girlfriend; she likes to gamble, takes gratuitous advantage of the free drinks, gets tired early, and likes to be in bed by midnight.
My ability to cheat on her revolved exclusively on the previous description, otherwise I would be out of luck, quite common in Vegas.

What I was banking on was to make sure she had a long day walking around from hotel to hotel, spending the evening playing the slots, encouraging her to keep ordering the free drinks hoping all that would take its toll around midnight.

My scheme worked to perfection, she was lights out closer to 11:30 than midnight. I walked her back up to our room; a gentleman I am, and made sure she got tucked in.

But how do you get out of the room, aren’t you worried she’ll wake up and you’re not there?
Yes, that is what up my plan for a few months, the trick of getting back out. Now the thought of just letting her go to the room by herself and staying in casino gambling had crossed my mind. But that’s too flimsy, dependent on my choice that could be altered by a whiny or angry girlfriend who wants you to go to bed with her.

I simply couldn’t take that chance.

So to address this specific problem I decided that I needed help. What I did was have one of my buddies meet me in Vegas so we could go out. This was a reasonable way to get out of the room, letting her know that my buddy was arriving late and wanted to get couple of drinks when he got there, knowing that she would be too tired to join us, all I had to do was to tire her out.

The plan worked like a charm, my buddy arrived around 12:45 a.m. and we hit a couple of hotel bars by 1:00 am, just in time for the women who are looking to hook to start filtering out of the clubs.

(Full disclosure, we went to a different hotel just to make sure we didn’t run into my girlfriend in case she wandered down to look for us, also made sure that my buddy booked a room in a neighboring hotel, just for another degree of separation).

You have to make sure that if you follow this plan that your friend that arrives late is trustworthy and knows how to keep his mouth shut. Fortunately, my buddy has been keeping my indiscretions quiet since junior year of high school, he’s tested and true.

As for the rest of the evening…

My buddy and I met two women, dressed scantily I might add, at the first hotel bar we hit. We chatted them up making sure that they were staying at a different hotel than the one my girlfriend I were calling home, exchanged numbers (my buddy’s phone, not mine), told them we’d call them later to heighten their anticipation, then headed to another hotel bar.

The second bar had a mediocre selection of women to chose from but we still hung around and had a couple of drinks. Eventually, the two scantily dressed women texted us and we met them back at the first bar. Instead of buying them drinks there (Vegas is outrageously expensive) we invited them back to my friend’s room, who just happened to have a nice selection of liqueur in his room, imagine that.

They agreed to join us without much debate, and we spent most of the night partying there, good thing he got a room with two beds.

Around 5am I headed out, back to my trusting girlfriend, leaving my buddy with the two girls fast asleep. Sneaking out of one girl’s bed in the morning, only to sneak back into another one’s a little while later, it never gets boring.

I made sure to wash up in my buddy’s bathroom before I left, smelling like another girl’s perfume would have been a fatal mistake.

On the cab ride back to my hotel, I was getting worried about what I would tell my girlfriend if she happened to be awake waiting for me. On the elevator ride up to my floor, and the long walk back to my room my trepidation built. Had I gone to far, would this be the gambit that finally gets me caught?

Fuck it! I opened the door quietly, walked in and saw my girl still sleeping soundly. A wave of relief washed away my worries. Damn I slept well.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Beware of the ID Bracelet

2008-02-28T10:55:00.000-08:00

I was out on date last week with a girl that I’ve been working into my rotation, and after a few drinks she decided that we should go bowling. I didn’t see much harm in this suggestion since my girlfriend does not bowl, nor do any of her friends, so it should be relatively safe venue to continue the date with little worry of getting caught.

I took her to the only bowling alley I knew of in the area, being prime time Friday night all the lanes were occupied. I made sure to use her name for reserving the next available lane, which would be a minimum 45 minute wait. Since they announce it over the loudspeaker and in a crowded place like that you don’t want any added eyes drawn to you as you go up to claim your reservation. After all you never know who is there to notice you, that wouldn’t have if you’re name wasn’t being called out on a speaker.

To pass the time we headed for the small bar located at the far end, I made sure we got a table towards the back, it’s far less conspicuous that way.

We were engrossed in our conversation when we realized that we needed to go up to the bar to order our initial drinks. It was my turn to buy so I went to order our drinks.

They asked for my ID and without giving it a second thought I handed it over for their inspection. But to my surprise, instead of just reading it and giving it back the woman behind the bar dashed off with it to the corner of the bar. I watched her slide my ID into a machine that looked like a credit card scanner at a grocery store checkout line.

She waited a few seconds, and nothing happened, so she scanned the card again. This time judging by the approval in her body language, the action she was expecting the first time from the machine was occurring. Suddenly a short strip of paper printed out, like a receipt. I had to check my wallet to make sure I didn’t give her a credit card rather than my ID (I’ve had a few drinks throughout the night so I was wondering how buzzed I actually was). But I was right; she had my ID not a credit card, so what the hell was she charging?

I eagerly anticipated her return since I was curious to what just transpired.
The woman walks up to me with this strip of paper and explains that it’s an ID printout that I have to wear as a bracelet to get served alcohol. Then she proceeds to put it on my wrist, branding me for the rest of the evening there.

I was annoyed by this since now not only do I have my name for the entire world to see on my wrist, it’s also labeled with the bowling alley’s name, and the date. This breaks one of my standing rules when you’re out on a date with your mistress; never do anything that might create a written record of your whereabouts (Regular readers have heard me espouse this topic numerous times).

So here I am breaking one of my own commandments, just to get a couple of drinks, and my mind is running about the possible consequences of this oversight. My main concern was not only my identifying bracelet, but the fact that my date would want to look at it to see what it was. The dilemma with was that she doesn’t know my full name, she only knows me by my middle name (she assumes it’s my first name and I never felt the need to correct her, the less she knows about me the better). This might initiate a conversation that I’d rather not have, so while the bartender is pouring our drinks I discreetly cut the bracelet off with my car keys.

I should have been more careful, should have watched the other patrons and noticed that they are wearing ID bracelets. Well, hindsight is 20/20 as they say.

I went back to the table, we had our drinks, then we had a few more (Thanks to the same bartender I didn’t have an issue with the ID bracelet again), never actually bowled, went back to her place and finished the evening properly, if you know what I mean.

But the moral of this story is this; Beware of the ID bracelet. I’m not sure how prevalent these ID scanning, bracelet making machines are (It’s the first time I have ever come across one), but you should make sure you keep an eye out for them, whenever you go to a venue that you’re unaccustomed to.

They are dangerous when you’re cheating, not only for the reasons that I described, but also for the fact that it leaves an electronic record of where you were on the scanner. It might not be important at the time, after who will have access to it right? But if for some reason your whereabouts of that night are questioned, somewhere this electronic record will exist, which could potentially cause you problems.

This is just another way to get caught, if you’re not on your toes.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Nobody Has To Know - The Cheaters Soundtrack

2008-02-22T08:46:00.000-08:00

“To be unfaithful you got to have faith in the first place.”

I have found the theme song for this year’s blog.

Naturally it has a tie in with infidelity, and a nice little beat to it as well. I’m listening to it as I write this blog.

With lyrics like…

“Technically I was still with her, and you were with some other guy, nobody knew you’d have an on the side.”

…this is definitely our kind of song. Something every cheater can relate to, and enjoy without inhibition.

It’s called “Under Wraps” by The Innocent Bystanders.

You can check out the video and the song on YouTube:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CNE1EJ_Eb1o

I’m supporting my fellow MySpacers... you get to The Innocent Bystanders page here:http://www.myspace.com/innocentbystandersmusic

Enjoy.

A.C.

Nobody has to know, Nobody has to know…

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Text Messaging Privacy for Cheaters

2008-02-07T09:31:00.000-08:00

Since text messaging has become an increasingly popular way to communicate with one another, this probably plays a role in your infidelity somehow. Whether its texts to your mistress or your girlfriend, you’re bound to run into a situation where texting privacy comes into play.

Here are a few tips that can vastly enhance your text messaging privacy.

1. Users of any technology issued by an employer shouldn't expect to have any privacy. Any data sent or stored is privy to those with power inside that company, so keep your personal dealings to your personal technology. Simply put use your own phone to text your girlfriend and your mistress. If you really want to play it safe, get a phone dedicated to your mistresses and one for normal usage (friends, family, girlfriend, etc.).

2. Don't ever text personal information about your infidelity to anyone, not even your closest friends. Remember, once you send that information to another person, it gets stored in their cell phone and you don't want that. You don’t know which one of your friend’s girlfriends scans their text logs.

3. Put a password on your phone to keep others from accessing your text logs or email. This will also prevent thieves from stealing information stored in your phone.

4. Many cheaters are cavalier in their texting habits and routinely forget to delete their received and sent text logs on their phones, which can leave them vulnerable to an inquisitive girlfriend or mistress. Be sure that you regularly maintain both these logs as well as the saved draft section where you can store texts that you designate for sending at a later time.

5. iPhone owners may want to change their SMS preview settings to make incoming text messaging more private. Apple iPhone Review has very well written instructions on how to do this.

6. Don't forget to erase all your personal data before selling, recycling or donating your old phone. Many people are still under the impression that taking out your SIM card will do the trick, but that's not true. You'll need a series of codes to permanently delete stored information in one step, instead of manually.

Finally, the ultimate security of private text messages depends on the recipient and how safe they can keep the information you sent them. If you have any second thoughts or reservations, then don’t send it. Call the person instead, that way there is no record of what information you sent or what you said.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Reassuring Your Girlfriend & Excuses To Get Away For The Night

2008-01-31T13:19:00.000-08:00

Routinely I answer questions from readers that email me, and occasionally I receive some that I think are worthwhile sharing with everyone. So in that light here is couple of questions from one of my dedicated readers that I thought could benefit the rest of you cheaters out there.

"I have 2 questions, if your #1 girl suspects you of cheating, how do you reassure her that you aren't? "

"What are good lies to tell your #1 girl about were you will be on a given night?"

Thanks for the support. I appreciate you reading my blog, glad it provides some pastime for you.
To answer your questions...

1. If your girl suspects you of cheating then you've done something to give her that idea. Left clues, changed your behavior, changed you usual schedule or activities, in short you fucked up somewhere. Figuring it out (if you don't already know) might be worthwhile, but it might also be difficult since sometimes women just get a feeling. So what I say is to curtail your cheating for a few weeks, tell the mistress that you'll be busy for a while. Take this time away from your other women to make things the way they were with your girl before you started cheating, to reassure her that she is over reacting. Once she has calmed down you can get back to your mistress, but more carefully this time.

2. Some good excuses to use with your main girl where you will be on a given night specific to your life. But you should keep the following in mind; use excuses that she can't readily verify on her own. So if you say you're doing something with your family that should work. If you have a work environment where you can say you have a work function such as a offsite meeting or department party for your boss that should be ok. You can use the work late excuse once in a great while but not too often and make sure she can’t come to the office if you work corporate. If you have one trusted friend that won’t blab tell her you're hangin out with him and make sure he knows the lie so he can back you up later. If you play sports like basketball then you can tell her you found a new park/gym to play pick up games at night and that they have alighted court. You look like you work out a lot so tell her you read an article in a weight lifting magazine where they said that working out later in the evening leads to higher muscle definition and better results and you're going to try that program out for a week or two.

The key is make sure she can't check up on what you're supposed to be doing.

A.C.

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Splitting Valentines Day Between My Girlfriend and My Mistress

2008-01-25T15:33:00.000-08:00

In my last blog, Valentines Day and Cheating on Your Girlfriend, I discussed why you should break up with all your mistresses before Valentines Day. If you didn't take the advice,here's a personal anecdote about splitting Valentines Day between two women that should serve as a good warning.

A while back I was dating two women simultaneously, my trademark. One was my girlfriend. The other one thought she would be my girlfriend and was aligning herself to assume that role, unknowing of the fact that position had been filled long before she ever came along.
For ease of story we’ll name my girlfriend in this story Jenny, and my wannabe girlfriend Katilynn.

Now, I debated for some time to break up with Katilynn before Valentines Day ever came along, but I was fond of her so I wanted to keep her for a while longer. This was against my usual standard operating procedure.

Usually I make it a explicit rule that I only have one girl around Valentines Day, but against my better judgment I decided to try to split V day between the two of them.

At this point a little back story is necessary for you to have full grasp of the situation. Jenny lived in the San Francisco Bay Area, where I had been living as well. After we got together and were dating for a while I moved back to Los Angeles. We decided to try and maintain the long distance relationship, which was pretty sweet for me since she couldn’t really keep an eye on me. Which meant I could freelance all I wanted without any repercussions, a cheaters dream scenario.
Then I met Katilynn in LA and in no time we hooked up as well. I happened to like her more than I usually like a secondary woman, which turned out to be my mistake.

Fast forward to Valentines Day… I had two women with equal anticipation that I would be their one and only Valentines Day sweetheart in two different cities 500+ miles apart.
They both expected something special from me and I was intent on delivering for both of them.

You’re starting to feel my dilemma now, huh?

But, for some inane reason I assumed I could pull this off, pretty arrogant, but that’s just the way I roll sometimes. One of these days I will learn my lesson I’m sure.
My only saving grace was that V Day fell on weekday, meaning a work day.

Plus, it was also a pretty safe scenario since the dates would take place in cities great distances apart, so there would be no chance of getting seen by anyone that could expose me. That’s what put it over the top, no worries of getting caught, I could make both women happy, and I would be the Casanova of the year for this one, or so I thought.

I told Katilynn I would take her out Valentines evening, while I planned to fly up to the bay and see Jenny during the day.

I told Jenny I would take the day off and fly up the night before so I could spend the special day with her. I wanted to make it sound more extravagant distract her from thinking about why I’d be missing Valentines night.

Our Valentines Day together in San Francisco which went off without a hitch, it was a wonderful day between two lovers.

Here’s where the drama ensues…

My flight back to LA left at 6 pm, so I assumed I’d be back by 7:45 at the latest. It was an hour flight which gave me enough time to get home, change and pick up Katilynn for our 8:45 reservation.

The flight was late. Each minute of the delay I was silently cursing the airline and my luck for foiling my plans. Instead I should have been cursing myself for getting into that predicament in the first place.

I got back to LA 8:30. I hadn’t been able to call Katilynn all day since I was with Jenny. No doubt she was worried and angry… that was her personality. She was really volatile sometimes, that’s what attracted me to her in the first place, but it’s a double edged sword when you mess up, which I had… big time.

I had to go straight from the airport to Katilynn’s house, unable to change or pick up her gift at my house. By the time I knocked on her door it was 9 pm.
Katilynn was pissed that I hadn’t called and that we missed our reservation, not to mention I showed up with no flowers or gift.

Her fury was in its full splendor that night. At the height of her anger I was dodging a glass vase and some ceramic plates. She was so pissed she mistook some paper plates in her anger for real plates and threw those at me too, pretty damned funny. In retrospect I shouldn’t have laughed at that openly… that’s what prompted the vase.

I really had no solid explanation for my absence and tardiness. She just kept calling me an asshole for neglecting her on that day. What could I say, really that would rectify the situation? I was with my real girlfriend in San Francisco? Nah, that wouldn’t fly too well, she would have probably getting out the steak knives.

I didn’t plan ahead. I had to make up some poor conceived lie about having to help out a friend that was stuck in San Diego and needed a ride back to LA. It was all bullshit and she knew it but she was so angry it never dawned on her what other reasons I might have had for missing Valentines Day.

The second half of that Valentines Day was totally ruined by my ambitious plans. I felt Katilynn’s wrath for a couple of weeks thereafter, and I had to work pretty hard to get back into her good graces. I had to orchestrate a makeup Valentines Day date which cost me considerably more than what a regular V day date would cost, so you know it was pricey.

I learned a lesson that I already knew, never try to split Valentines Day between two women.
Hopefully you can learn from my mistake.

Just to update everyone to present times, I am no longer seeing either Jenny or Katilynn. Both of those relationships ended a while back.

However, on a positive note Katilynn and I do hook up a booty call every now and then… for old times sake.

A.C.

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Valentines Day and Cheating on Your Girlfriend

2008-01-18T15:49:00.000-08:00

The ominous day fast approaches… fellow cheaters. It’s the worst day in the year for anyone cheating on their girlfriend or dating multiple women… Valentines Day.

February 14th!

This is a busy time of year for every man regardless. But it’s an especially frustrating and busy time for cheating on your girlfriend. As a cheater you now have to make a decision, for this is one day, an occasion that cannot be split in half to accommodate two women.This day has been built up by retailers of flowers, candy, jewelers and everything else gift related towards women, as HER special day.

It has been engrained in women that this is THEIR SPECIAL DAY, and unfortunately there is no way around this.

You only have a finite amount of time during the Valentines Day season, and a secondary woman will encroach upon that tremendously.

As a cheater you have to make a choice, period.That’s why I am writing this blog concerning Valentines Day two weeks in advance, so you have time to plan out your strategy and make a decision.

On holidays, especially Valentines Day, you have to be remorseless towards the secondary women in your life. No matter how much they whine (which they will), cry, make a blatant attempt to guilt you, get angry, threaten, and yell at you, do not give in.

As I mentioned before you can only have one woman on Valentines Day, so you will need to either break up with your secondary women, or come up with one hell of an excuse why you can’t spend Valentines Day with her.

But under no circumstances should you try to get out of spending Valentines Day with your girlfriend in favor of another woman, this is a certain tip off that you have something going on behind her back. Not to mention, she will be tremendously upset with you, and making up for it will entail weeks of work. This usually forces unnecessary strain on your relationship with your girlfriend which would have never existed if you weren’t dating other women, so I strongly recommend against it. At times like this I suggest you pick your girlfriend, the other woman can always be replaced.

The best option at this time of year is to cut your secondary women loose before Valentines Day begins, preferably before February starts. This will allow you to concentrate on only your girlfriend without any of the ancillary problems created by additional women in your life.

Don’t ever forget that you’re using these secondary women for only physical reasons, but you have an emotional attachment to your girlfriend. She comes first. You can always find more like them, but you cannot find another like your girlfriend.I urge you to initiate your break up with your secondary women as soon as possible, so all the drama and heartache can play out a couple of weeks before Valentines Day. There is nothing worse than an emotional, spurned woman a day before Valentines Day. With all the hoopla and build up on TV and in the stores it will only contribute to her disappointment and anger. That’s something you should definitely avoid.A.C.

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Hiding Financial Signs of Infidelity

2008-01-04T13:49:00.000-08:00

I came across an article on CNBC today that I thought was quite interesting; “9 financial signs of marital infidelity,” (http://www.bankrate.com/cnbc/news/pf/20080103_marital_infidelity_a1.asp), by Jay MacDonald.

This was originally taken from "Is He Cheating On You? 829 Telltale Signs," by Ruth Houston.
Even though our blog is dedicated to Cheating On Your GIRLFRIEND and Not Getting Caught, not cheating on your SPOUSE, the clues left behind can still apply to those of you who live with your girlfriend.

By the way, just for a quick clarification, this blog frowns upon cheating on your wife or husband. Once you pull the trigger for marriage you should adhere to the vows and the contract you make. Plus, if you get caught most likely she’ll take half, and NO roll in the hay is worth that.
Now back to the article. I’m going to list the “9 Signs” and how to combat them in case your girlfriend decides to read that article.

Here are the 9 financial warning signs of infidelity:

1. Credit card statements that reflect charges for flowers, jewelry or other gift items that the spouse did not personally receive.

Solution:
As you know from my previous blogs, try to avoid leaving financial statements out in the open where your girlfriend can get her hands on them. These days you can choose to receive email or electronic statements that you have to log in on the credit card issuer’s web site to view. There is no reason to have a mailed statement go to you shared residence where your girl has access to it. Ensure that you log onto these accounts from work, your parents’ house, or a friend’s house in case your girlfriend has a key logging software installed on your home shared computer without your knowledge.

Also, you should try to pay for these items for your mistress in cash to reduce the paper trail.

2. Unauthorized or surprise withdrawals from joint bank accounts.

Solution:
Always keep a separate bank account and never make any type of withdrawal from a joint account that you have with your girlfriend. In fact, don’t ever establish a joint account with your girlfriend and you’ll never encounter this problem.

3. Deposit slips or bank statements that indicate the existence of a previously unknown checking or savings account in the wife's/husband's name only.

Solution:
Again subscribe to online statements and never print a receipt or keep any deposit slips. The less evidence you create the less there is to discover.

4. The liquidation of assets (stocks and bonds, stamp or coin collections, artwork, etc.) without a plausible explanation.

Solution:
Just don’t do this. If you own anything jointly with your girlfriend that you need to sell to cover some expense for your mistress, just borrow the money instead. Your girlfriend will always keep track of and demand to know where that money went since it was partly hers as well.

5. Misrepresentation of or failure to mention raises, bonuses or overtime pay.

Solution:
If you don’t have a joint checking account then you don’t have to explain to your girlfriend any increase in your income regardless of it being a raise, bonus, or overtime pay. She has no access to your account therefore she doesn’t know any better.

If you do have a joint account, however, then ask that any bonuses get paid to you on a separate check that you can deposit in your separate account. If you want to complicate things you can split your direct deposit from your employer to funnel extra money from raises to be deposited to your personal account while the rest goes into your joint account, you’ll just have to do some math to figure it out.

6. Income tax returns that reveal unexplained or previously unknown travel-related deductions.

Solution:
No deduction can be worth enough to call your relationship into jeopardy. Do not under any circumstances disclose any travel related deductions that pertain to your infidelity. It’s not worth it, especially if you figure that you get about $0.30 for every dollar deduction that you claim.

7. Financial records (canceled checks, receipts, money orders or other documents) that indicate a spouse is maintaining a separate residence or has been paying someone else's bills.

Solution:
First of all, never pay for your mistress’s bills or housing. That’s just plain stupid and makes you a sucker. Now you have two women dependent on you, your girlfriend and mistress. Plus you’re begging to get caught since it leaves too much of a paper trail that can be verified if need be.

Second, if you’re maintaining a second residence just rent a room and pay in cash, makes it much easier to hide any evidence of continuous monthly payments.

8. A sudden decrease in disposable income.

Solution:
Not much you can do about this one. If you have two women you have double the expenses so you’ll have to curtail some of your discretionary spending. However, if you can work your mistress in slowly the decrease should not be a sudden and therefore much less noticeable. Ease her in.

9. An increase in ATM withdrawals.

Solution:
Just make larger less frequent ATM withdrawals and budget ahead for your future dates with your mistress. Also this will keep the location of the ATM off of the statement so if your girlfriend is privy to that information she can’t ask questions about where you were and what you were doing there when you were supposed to be elsewhere.

As you can tell by reading my solutions most of your problems can be eliminated by not forming any joint financial accounts with your girlfriend and making sure that you receive all your financial statements electronically where only you have access to them.

Cheating can be hidden as long as you plan ahead and think about how you could potentially get caught. If there is no solution for a trail of evidence in your infidelity, then it’s not worth the risk. You can always find another girl or another way to cheat, you don’t have to jeopardize your relationship.

I want to thank both John MacDonald and Ruth Houston for the inspiration for this particular blog, my audience and I appreciate it.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Infidelity on New Year’s Eve!

2007-12-26T14:55:00.000-08:00

It’s the first day after Christmas Day and you still haven’t cut it off with your mistress.

Even after I warned you to give all your secondary women the boot after Thanksgiving and concentrate on only your girlfriend, you still hung in there.

You bought the extra presents and went through the additional hassle of the gift exchanges, maybe even showed up to their holiday parties, and now you have the whole New Year’s conundrum to deal with.

Multiple women want to spend New Year’s Eve with you, and only one of you to go around.
If you were smart then you had already planted a seed weeks ago letting your mistress know that you wouldn’t be available for New Years night. Maybe you told her you were going out of town with you friends, or you had plans made months ago that didn’t involve her.

If you you’re not such a forward thinker and you’re just coming to the realization that you’re in somewhat of a crisis, then you got problems.

The following solutions might help alleviate some of your concerns:

You shouldn’t use your family as an excuse for New Year’s Eve, she’ll either think you’re lying (which you are) or ask to come along so she can spend it with you and your family. In woman’s mind this escalates the relationship to the next level, which it would since bringing a girl to the family New Year’s Eve party means that you are serious about her. If you don’t invite her then she’ll be twice as angry or disappointed, since she won’t be able to ring in the New Year with you, and she could not secure an invite to the family party.

If you do decide to use the family party excuse, ensure that she doesn’t know which family member is hosting the party and that you tell her that it’s not at your house. I’m assuming since this is your mistress, she hasn’t met your parents and doesn’t know where they live, but if for some foolish reason she does you’ll be covered by using another relative’s residence for the imaginary shindig.

Don’t try to split your New Year’s Eve between your women either. It will just arouse suspicion from both of them. One will wonder why you only showed up an hour before midnight, while the other will be curious why you had to leave before you could kiss her at midnight. They both will have to explain why their man wasn’t with them for the entire night to their friends with enquiring minds, making for two unhappy and skeptical women in your life.

Most likely you will have to pick one of them (preferably your girlfriend, since she is your number one) and spend New Year’s with only her. If you haven’t done so already, then inform your mistress as soon as possible that you won’t be spending the night with her, that way she can hopefully make other plans. You want your mistress to have enough time to make alternate plans with her friends so she won’t be by herself, fuming at you. You never know what that might lead to, and you especially don’t want to leave her alone all night planning to check up on you to make sure you’re not out with another woman, which you are. You want her distracted, enjoying herself as best she can without you. On that note, you should not make any plans at your residence so you can avoid any unanticipated, angry women that might stop by.

Once you have made your decision concerning which woman you’ll be partying the night away with, you’ll have to come up with a very good excuse for the other one.
This is the hard part, this is why you’re reading this blog right now, hoping I can pull a rabbit out of a hat for you that will save your ass.

Nothing like that exists. You had your opportunity to get out of this mess a month ago. You didn’t want to, you procrastinated, or you were hoping for a miracle. You made your bed now you have to sleep in it.

Any excuse you use now will sound like a cop out, which it is, unless you have a doctor’s note and a stay in the hospital to prove otherwise.

Tell your mistress that you decided to party with your buddies instead, which will work, but she’ll probably be very pissed at you. She’ll want to come along, at which point you’ll have to turn her down and that’s when the hurt feelings will come into play. This will put a strain on your relationship that you’ll have to work hard to mend, unless you’re hoping it leads to a break up which most often times it does. The same result could have been accomplished weeks earlier had you manned up and broke up with her in the first place.

Be vague and non committal about what your plans for the night entail, giving her several options that you and you friends might engage in so she can’t pin you down on anything in particular. This is for your benefit so she can’t “accidentally” show up at the same bar you’re supposed to be at.

If this blog applied to you in any way, then you definitely have your New Year’s resolution already made out for you. A good cheater always thinks and plans far in advance to eliminate any last minute complications.

You New Years Resolution will be to ALWAYS PLAN AHEAD, when cheating on your girlfriend.

Take Care and have GREAT NEW YEAR.

A.C.

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Reassuring Your Suspicious Girlfriend

2007-12-20T10:19:00.000-08:00

In my last couple of blogs I answered a few of frequently asked questions from my readers, which prompted more questions.

One particular reader asked a couple of questions that I’m sure the majority of cheaters have experienced in their exploits, so I decided to share my answers to him with all the devoted readers of this blog.

If your girlfriend suspects you of cheating, how do you reassure her that you aren't?

If your girl suspects you of cheating then you've done something to give her that idea. Left clues, changed your behavior, changed you usual schedule or activities, in short you slipped up somewhere.

Figuring it out (if you don't already know) might be worthwhile, so you don’t commit the same mistake in the future. But this might prove be difficult undertaking for sometimes women just get a feeling, you know women’s intuition. But usually that intuition is sparked by something that is not right about you, or about your relationship, hence a small change in your demeanor that should go unnoticed might be the catalyst for her intuition.

If you can’t figure out what tipped her off, don’t waste too much time on it and spend your efforts on reassuring her nothing is wrong.

Start by curtailing your cheating for a few weeks, tell the mistress that you'll be busy for a while, you’ve picked up side job, or that you have some family issues to work out and you’ll be unavailable for the next couple of weeks.

Take this time away from your other women to rekindle the relationship with your girl before you started cheating, to reassure her that she is over reacting. Once your woman has calmed down and the turbulence has passed you can get back to your mistress, but more carefully this time.

What are good lies to tell your girlfriend about were you will be on a given night?

Always use excuses that she can't readily verify on her own. Here are few tried and true excuses you can start with and then tailor them to your own specific life.

Family:
Use your family. This is the most abundant resource you have available to you. When you need an excuse to get away from your girlfriend to spend time with your #2 or #3 women, do not hesitate to depend on your family, after all that's what they are there for. For multiple reasons this is you best excuse. One, your significant other cannot try to convince you to get out of it, or change your plans since this is your family and they take precedence. Second, since you put such a high importance on your "family activities" it makes you seem family oriented, which makes you look more attractive to women, since you are now seen as family oriented. Your girlfriend can’t question the amount of time you spend with your family so if particular “family function” happens to drag on longer than expected, she won’t break your balls with an interrogation.

Friends:
You need to have a couple of friends that you can use as an excuse. Make sure that these two specially selected friends can keep quiet about what you’re doing, especially to their own significant others. Also, always inform these friends if you’re going to use them as an excuse BEFORE you do, so you can get your stories straight upfront eliminating the scramble later on when your girlfriend is asking questions.

Work:
Using your place of employment might seem like a great excuse to create some time to cheat; telling your girlfriend your working late, that you will be in an extended meeting, and the most daring one of all; that you’ll be away on a business trip. But there is an inherent problem with these types of alibis, unless you work at a small company consisting of your friends, you will have no one who will lie for you. Sure you can get a buddy to cover for you in the office in case your girlfriend calls in to check on you, but what if the receptionist answers the call, or the call gets forwarded to your boss? Will they lie for you? Then you have to tell them why you are avoiding your own girlfriend, an uncomfortable scenario at the very least. What if your girlfriend is suspicious to the point where she shows up, or poses as your sister or mother on the phone to verify your whereabouts? There are just too many intangibles to use your job as safe alibi. If this is the best you can come up with, then at least use it sparingly.

Random:
Random, disposable excuses that you only use once work very well. They leave no discernable pattern, which means no matching variables for your girlfriend to dissect. If it’s a one time only excuse there is nothing to compare it to, meaning no anomalies to exploit. But you have to use these sparingly and during different time frames (i.e. don’t use different random excuses for the same time, on the same day of the week) otherwise that inherently negates the “randomness” of the excuse since certain facts remain similar. Stick to different excuses, on different days, during different windows of time (when you’re with your other women) and you’ll trigger far fewer women’s intuition alarm bells.

The key is to ensure she can't check up on what you're supposed to be doing.

Happy Holidays
A.C.

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Why Stay With Your Girlfriend & Cheat on Her, Rather Than Break Up and Date Other Women Freely?

2007-12-07T10:33:00.000-08:00

Continuing with the theme from last week, I going to answer another one of frequently asked questions/offered suggestions from readers.

Don’t cheat on your girlfriend, just do the honorable thing and break up with her and be single if you want to date multiple women.

This is easier said than done. Anyone who has ever been in a relationship knows that it’s not quite that easy to break up with someone, let alone someone that you care about and have feelings for.

At this point I always get the response “How can you say that you care about someone if you’re cheating on him/her?” That’s an entirely different discussion which I have addressed frequently and will again, but not in this blog.

For the sake of this discussion we will assume that if you’re in a relationship with someone you have some sort of feelings for that person and care about them to a certain extent.
So why not break up, and pursue other women without any restrictions?

Like I mentioned before, you might have feelings for your girlfriend and want to stay with her, but at the same time want to be with other women sexually. That’s probably the most common reason for men. We don’t want to break up with our women, we just want to have our cake and eat it too, after all what good is the cake if you can’t eat it?

Perhaps you have a certain tie to your girlfriend that doesn’t allow for a quick, easy breakup.
-You live with your girlfriend.
-You and your girlfriend have children together.
-You have financial ties to her that make a breakup an unviable option.

There are some guys just don’t know how to break up with their women and are scared of the confrontation. So they figure if they get caught dating another woman, their girlfriend might do them a favor and leave them. Not saying I endorse this method, but if this is the only way you can get out of your relationship then maybe it might be worth it for you.

For some people these reasons probably don’t seem all that strong or legitimate enough to deceive their significant other and cheat on them. But for others, it does. Remember it’s easy to judge and make painless decisions when you don’t have any skin in the game. You have to have walked in the other person’s shoes before you can understand the full scope of issues and emotions they are dealing with.

If any of you can have other reasons why you rather stay with your girlfriend and cheat on her, rather than break up and date other women freely, feel free to comment.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Why Cheat on Your Girlfriend? Instead Establish an Open Relationship with Her and be Honest.

2007-11-29T14:06:00.000-08:00

One of the most frequent questions/suggestions I get from readers continues to be some variation of the following;

1. Why cheat on your girlfriend? Instead establish an open relationship with her and be honest.

2. Don’t cheat on your girlfriend, just do the honorable thing and break up with her and be single if you want to date multiple women.

These two ideals are always easily suggested and like most easy solutions to any problem they sound quite reasonable in theory. But applying them to a real life scenario is entirely different. Let’s tackle both of these reader comments/questions individually.

Why cheat on your girlfriend? Instead establish an open relationship with her and be honest.

This solution has multiple problems that need to be addressed before it can be practically implemented as it stands.

First, once you establish an exclusive relationship with a woman having her agree to an open relationship afterwards is increasingly difficult as time goes on, if not impossible altogether. To most women an exclusive relationship is what they strive for, to find that one special guy, and to keep him forever. That’s why women are so infatuated with marriage and finding their one true love. So once they have an exclusive relationship with a man, asking them to revert to an open relationship would be viewed as a step backwards in their eyes. After all she has spent all this time dating her man trying to become his only woman. Now you want her to go back to the dating pool and be equal with all the other women available. I doubt that would fall on receptive ears, why would she agree to be relegated to a lower status after attaining exclusivity?

It’s the inverse of the old marketing philosophy; you can start at a higher price for your product and lower the price, but very rarely can you start at a lower price, raise prices. Once the public has gotten used to a certain price, they won’t be too receptive to a raise in prices. Same is true of a exclusive relationship from a woman’s point of view; once she has been exclusive she wont be too receptive of being cast back with all the other women in the dating pool.

Second, once you propose this to your woman most likely she’ll want to end the relationship with you out of frustration thinking you’re not worth the effort, or guilt you into rethinking your position. If you agree to drop the whole thing then you have already played your hand and she knows you’re thinking about dating other women and she’ll be scrutinizing your actions far more closely adding extra strain on your relationship as well as your ability to date other women on the low.

Third, honestly how many women can this actually work with? I mean come on, 95% of the women won’t go for this scenario. I haven’t come across too many women who thought this was a viable scenario, and I have run it by quite a few of women in committed relationships. The women who suggest this are always unattached when they have no feelings for any guy so it’s an easy fix. But I’d like to get some opinion from these same women once they have a boyfriend for a couple of months and see what they say.

Fourth, if you’re woman does agree to it, are you comfortable enough with her dating other guys? Because you can be sure that after you just downgraded her, and she knows you’re going to be dating other women, that she’ll be going out on dates as well, maybe just to spite you.

In the next blog, I’ll address the second question/suggestion from readers:

Don’t cheat on your girlfriend, just do the honorable thing and break up with her and be single if you want to date multiple women.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Getting Caught Cheating on Your Girlfriend by Your Friends

2007-11-16T10:48:00.000-08:00

So what’s the big deal with getting caught by your friends? This is often overlooked and its significance underappreciated, but its effect can be far reaching.

Caught by Your FriendsWhen you get caught by your friend you’re assuming that this person is your friend; you have nothing to worry about right? Wrong. You need to asses very quickly what type of friend this person is. A close trustworthy friend that you know can keep a secret, even from his significant other, or will he/she quickly blab their new found information to their mate? If it’s the latter, you have to reason impress upon them not to share their newfound information with their significant other. However, you’ll have to assume that this knowledge is too juicy for them to keep bottled up permanently, and sooner or later their mate will know about your indiscretion. Thus you have to ensure that you don’t bring your girlfriend to any social occasion where your friend will bring his/her significant other, at least until you switch girlfriends, or your friend switches significant others.

Another aspect of friendship that you have to keep an eye is whether if any of your friends have a soft spot for your girlfriend, whether it be a friendship or aspirations for something romantic. If you think this friend of yours wants to get with your girlfriend, he might use this information to try and break up your relationship. If you feel this is the case, then you have to keep your girlfriend away when you interact with your friend. Make sure that your buddy doesn’t have a way to get in touch with your girlfriend (i.e. her employment information, email, cell phone, etc.). Make sure that you never mass email your girlfriend and friends since he could pluck her email from the list. If you do make sure to hide everyone’s email from all the recipients (a best practices tip).

A final derivative of your friend catching you cheating scenario is something of an anecdote, but should be taken as a cautionary tale…

A few years back I started hanging out with this guy who I met through a friend. He seemed cool and we had some good times going to bars/clubs pickin up on chicks together (full disclosure; I had a girlfriend at the time which he knew about). At the same time he was intimately involved with his best friend (who was female) while she was dating one of his close friends. A few times we went out together where we both brought our women along, and they struck up an artificial friendship. His “girl” and my girl exchanged numbers and emails, much to my chagrin. We hung out together a few times but not on a regular basis.

In the interest of expediency I will fast forward the story a few months. Apparently, unknown to me, I had done something to hurt this guy’s feelings (should have known since he acted like a little pussy at times) so we had stopped hangin out as much. I didn’t notice since I was busy with other things, I just thought so was he. Not the case, he was pissed and it was building from day to day, especially that I didn’t call him and acknowledge it. Somewhere along the way my girlfriend called his “best friend” to get his number to set up a group function. Once she called him, he made sure to tell her about the times he and I had gone out (that my girl didn’t know about) and even made up some stories about me having another girl on the side (I did, but he never knew about that, exactly the reason why I don’t tell my friends about my infidelities.). Nevertheless, my girl came to me upset crying and angry demanding an explanation. Since he had no specifics about any of my “supposed” other women his story was easy to dispute and dismiss. But the he did rat me out about lying to her about the bars and clubs. That cost me a couple of days of tantrums from my girlfriend, but eventually it all resolved itself.

However, your lesson from that story is to pick your friends carefully, and if any of them ever have any incriminating story that could cost you your relationship with your girlfriend, make sure their interaction is limited and well supervised. Don’t ever let your girl become friends with one of your friends or their significant other because you’ll never know when it will come back to haunt you.

Most people are your friend only as long as it is convenient for them (with rare exceptions), when they turn on you everything you trusted them with will become a weapon, if they chose to use it. Be careful how well you arm them.

Hope you have found this series about how to handle getting caught cheating on your girlfriend useful. I will have one final note on this topic in my next blog.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Tell Your Mistress “Thanks for the Memories” this Thanksgiving

2007-11-14T14:45:00.000-08:00

With the holiday season fast approaching it’s time to start eliminating the complications in your life. By complications I mean the rotation of women you have collected the last few months.

As you know, the holiday season is a busy time of year for everyone regardless. But it’s an especially frustrating and busy time for cheating on your girlfriend. As a cheater you now have to worry about duplicates for everything; buying multiple Christmas presents, disposing of multiple gift receipts, keeping track of what you bought for whom, going to multiple holiday parties, trying to avoid all the holiday photos that might get you caught, etc.

Not to mention the upcoming New Year’s Eve conundrum of which woman you will spend it with, you obviously cannot be with more than one woman, so a choice has to be made. One of them will be disappointed greatly and be very upset with you. At times like this I suggest you pick your girlfriend, the other woman can always be replaced.

This is why I’m calling your attention to this early. To give yourself a relaxing (as relaxing as any holiday season can be) enjoyable holiday season, you should start planning on how you’re going to cut you secondary women loose. You can wait until after Thanksgiving, but don’t let it drift too far into December since then you might feel obligated to keep them around for Christmas which eventually leads into New Years and you’re right where I warned you not to be in the first few paragraphs of this blog.

Set a date a few days after Thanksgiving and stick to that plan. Then spend the holiday season with your girlfriend, and start the whole rotation with brand new women for the New Year.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Getting Caught Cheating by Your Family

2007-11-09T10:36:00.000-08:00

Another likelihood is that you might inadvertently get caught cheating by someone in your own family. Whether this person is part of your immediate family or more of a distant relative will determine how you approach this situation. In either case you have quite a bit of room and leverage here.

Caught by Your Family
Since this person in most cases is loyal to only you and probably views your girlfriend as someone passing through in your life, thus they don’t feel the need to form an attachment to her.

First, make sure you keep her away from this relative and don't attend functions when you know this family member will be present. You don’t want your Aunt to get to chatty with your girlfriend a few months down the road at a holiday party and let slip that she saw the two of you together at a restaurant, but it wasn’t really the you and your girlfriend, it was you and one of your other women. After a few drinks your Aunt probably won’t be able to remember who she saw you with, just that it was a female and most likely it was your girlfriend. However your girlfriend will have no such disillusions with her memory, then you’ll have some explaining to do.

Second, talk to this relative and ask him/her to keep quiet about the matter since you are family, and that you will handle it personally. Once this discussion has been had the relative will know to keep this topic discreet, and even if they gab about it, it should only stay within the family circles.

I will continue the If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend series with a scenario that is often overlooked and underestimated; getting caught cheating by one of YOUR friends.

Stay Tuned.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Getting Caught Cheating by Your Mistres

2007-11-02T13:53:00.000-07:00

The woman you were hiding from your girlfriend is the one that found out about your “other woman.” You got caught by the wrong woman, which is just right for you. She doesn’t know it but this puts you in the drivers seat, and does most of the work for you.

Caught by Your Mistress
If you get caught by one of your secondary women you really haven't lost all that much. In fact they might have actually done you a favor since it gives them a reason to leave you. Since you were going to get rid of them eventually anyway, there is no real harm done.

But there are some important things to keep in mind just so it doesn't get ugly. Try to pretend that you're genuinely remorseful about what happened and admit that you did a horrible thing.

Make it look like you cared about her and that she was more important to you than she actually was. Don’t act indifferent or nonchalant. This is important because it will make her feel like she mattered to you, it will keep her in a more somber state of mind rather than angry and vengeful. You don’t want to treat her as if she never mattered (irregardless of the truth) since it will create the second set of emotions I just described, and it will induce her to try to get revenge. That becomes a very dangerous proposition; especially you are trying to keep this from your main girlfriend.

Also, never tell any secondary woman that the girl they found out about is your #1 girl. This might prompt your mistress on seek out your girlfriend and ruin that relationship to settle the score. Try to end your relationship with your mistress amicably. Let her yell at you, let her vent, and make sure you apologize profusely as if she was your #1 girl. In the end most likely she'll say she doesn’t want to ever see you again, which is what you want. You should tell her that you will miss her, and let her walk out the door feeling empowered that she left a no good cheater like you behind… just like you wanted.

In the end no harm will really come of this, if you play your cards right.

I will continue the If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend series, sometimes getting caught can work to your advantage as long as you’re slick enough to exploit the situation.

Stay Tuned.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Getting Caught Cheating by Your Girlfriend’s Coworker

2007-10-26T13:46:00.000-07:00

The coworker scenario rears its ugly head once again. If you had followed my advice and avoided your girlfriend’s work functions then you wouldn’t be in this dilemma. Well hindsight’s 20/20 right? What you want to know is how to handle this problem, read on then.

Caught by Your Girlfriend’s Co-workerIf a co-worker catches you, then you have more options at your disposal than with the previously mentioned scenarios.

More than likely your girlfriend has already told you her involvement with this coworker at the office when giving you background on them before or during the introduction at that fateful office function you attended.

Armed with this knowledge you should have a good idea of how closely this coworker interacts with your girlfriend.

If you have a pretty good feeling that the coworker who caught you doesn’t have a close relationship with your girlfriend then you can act casual about the whole incident since they probably don’t know your girlfriend’s personal situation very well. Make it appear as if nothing is wrong making them assume that you and your girlfriend are no longer dating (this will help explain it to the woman your with as well) and speak of your girlfriend in the past tense. Once everyone has gone their separate ways, wait to see if your girlfriend ever mentions that her coworker saw you. If not then your little rouse worked and the coworker assumed you two were no longer together. Under no circumstances should you even mention that you saw one of her coworkers, this will lead her to ask that coworker questions which will result in the truth coming out. Stay quiet and you should be able to get out of this without any problems.

If the coworker is close with your girlfriend, then you’ll have to be contrite and tell the coworker that you know what you did was wrong, and to allow you a chance to tell your girlfriend personally, since you think it should come from you rather than someone else. This will allow you to spin the story in whatever direction you think will save your relationship. Make sure you tell your girlfriend in the following two days, that’s about the window of opportunity that you’ll have before the coworker spills the beans for you.

Sometimes, depending on how close this co-worker is with your girlfriend you can even be as bold to ask them not say anything and to please keep the matter just between the two of you. Sometimes they will agree to this just to avoid the embarrassment of having to tell their co-worker, your girlfriend, about having seen her boyfriend cheating on her.

I will continue the If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend series, but as you can see most of the time your options are limited and not very good. If you can employ my techniques on how not to get caught, hopefully you’ll never have a reason to use any of the tactics in this particular series.

Stay Tuned.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Getting Caught Cheating by Your Girlfriend’s Family

2007-10-17T15:01:00.000-07:00

In the last edition we discussed what to do if you get caught by your girlfriend’s friend. In this edition we discuss getting caught by her family, a much more volatile situation.

Caught by Your Girlfriend’s Family
If you get caught by one of your girlfriend’s family members, as always, it all depends on who catches you.

If it’s a distant cousin, uncle, or an in law then you have an opportunity to reason with them in the same way as if you were caught by one of her friends. They probably don’t really want to deal with the whole situation, having to tell your girlfriend the bad news. So you might be able to get away with one there by promising to tell your girlfriend yourself and then simply not following through. Hopefully the next time your girlfriend will see this family member will be so far in the future that it will be a moot point, or the family member has forgotten. Just make sure you don’t show up to your girlfriend’s family functions for a while, so you don’t provide an opportunity for that distant cousin to remember. You know what they say, out of sight out of mind.

But if it’s her immediate family such as her Mother, Father, Sister or Brother then most likely they will be so upset with you that they won't give you the opportunity to explain yourself. They will go straight to your girlfriend and tell her what they know right after they let you know exactly what they think of you.

Getting caught this way is particularly bad since this person is in her family, and every time your girlfriend looks at this relative she will be reminded of your indiscretion. So the chance of her forgiving and forgetting, and moving on with your relationship will be very difficult.

Plus, gossip in within family spreads like wild fire and soon most relatives will know what you did. Since family always sticks together you just have made a gang of new enemies. Imagine how this might feel at a Christmas party with her family present, not a very inviting scene.
If you have been caught by your girlfriend’s family, let us know what happened and how you managed the situation.

I will continue the If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend series with circumstances that offer a greater opportunity for you save your relationship with your girl.

Stay Tuned.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Getting Caught Cheating by Your Girlfriend’s Friend

2007-10-12T13:57:00.000-07:00

In the last edition we discussed what to do if you get caught by your girlfriend, that’s obviously the worst that could happen. If you get caught by someone else you have some options available to you. From here on out things get easier, in comparison to the aforementioned predicament.
As always, it all depends on who catches you. Today we will discuss how to handle one of your girlfriend’s friends getting wise to your infidelity.

Caught by Your Girlfriend’s Friends
If a friend of your girlfriend’s catches you, your woman will know by the end of the day, thus it’s imperative that you act quickly and decisively. If you know that you have been caught, you can try to reason with this friend but it‘ll most likely fall upon deaf ears since her allegiance is to your girlfriend, not to you. You can tell the friend that you know what you did was wrong, and to allow you a chance to tell your girlfriend personally, since you think it should come from you rather than someone else. To certain people this might actually make you seem somewhat contrite and hopefully they will grant you this favor, and save them the awkward situation of having to reveal this information themselves.

But how is this any different than the friend telling your girlfriend, after all she will find out either way, right? Well, right and wrong. Yes, she will find out, but it if you want to have any hopes of salvaging your relationship then it is far more important that it comes from you. Somehow there is some sort of virtuous feeling involved if you take it upon yourself, plus most women would rather find out from their significant other rather than from a third party. Finally, and most importantly, this will allow you to spin the story in whatever direction you need to save your relationship.

By personally confessing your sins to your girlfriend you will catch her off guard and you will have a chance to tell her your "story" while she is still in shock and disbelief. But if she finds out from a third party, by the time she gets to you she will have had plenty of time to build up her anger and she will be seeking to release that on you. She won't care what you have to say since she will be far too upset to listen.

Also, if YOU tell her, it will save her the public embarrassment of having someone else tell her, giving the situation an air of discretion.

Remember as long as you control the information you can soften the blow by selectively revealing and camouflaging aspects of your indiscretions, as opposed to your girlfriend getting the gory embellished details from her friend. By the time it gets discussed between the two of them the focus will be on your girlfriend’s pain and healing rather than what actually happened, which can make the difference in saving your relationship.

All your girlfriend needs to know is that you were unfaithful, the details can and should be minimized by you. Damage control, take the initiative and tell her yourself, but only tell her what you want her to know.

I will continue the If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend series with circumstances that offer a greater opportunity for you save your relationship with your girl.

Stay Tuned.

Take Care,

A.C.

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If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend Part 1

2007-10-05T14:27:00.000-07:00

All right, worst-case scenario: you get caught. I have two words for you; crisis management. What you’ll have to do (and quickly I might add) is to minimize the crisis as much as possible.
I know this is a situation that you probably don’t even want to think about, let alone plan for. But any good player knows they must have a contingency plan in place for the most unfortunate of circumstances. You should be prepared for the worst and if that never comes to fruition, then you can consider yourself lucky that you weathered the storm.

Chances are the more you cheat, the more the odds will stack up against you. You're better off mentally preparing yourself for the inevitable, as well as having a plan to fall back on, instead of standing there with you mouth agape, flushed with embarrassment with an inability to say anything in your defense.

At this point information is your best friend. You’ll have to find out how you got caught, who saw you, how much they saw, how much they know, and most importantly whether your girlfriend knows about it yet.

First things first, it all depends on who catches you. This might seem immaterial since the truth of the matter is that you have been exposed, but you have some options depending on whom you are discovered by.

Caught by Your Girlfriend
This is again, obviously the worst-case scenario, that’s why I am addressing it first. If your girlfriend catches you, in most instances you are screwed and your relationship is over. However, it depends on the degree to which you are caught with your pants down, if you will. If she only finds traces of another girl, perhaps some panties or a romantic letter, then you might be able to deceive her into believing that those are left over from a previous relationship that you kept as a memento.

You might be able to fast talk her out of leaving you since she does not have irrefutable evidence that you actually slept with someone else, therefore she does not have the graphic image of you engaging in a sexual act with another woman. That is very important since the mental image of you with another woman will live with her forever.

If previous relationship memento leftover lie does not apply, then you can try and own up to some of your infidelity by admitting that some new girl had been showing you interest and somehow managed to catch your attention. But you realized that it was wrong and have put a stop to it, and that you were trying to find the right time to talk about it. This will still keep the door open, however slightly, to reconciliation and perhaps your girlfriend’s forgiveness.
But if your girlfriend finds a used condom or walks in on you engaging in sexual activity with another girl, it’s over. She will have that image in her mind and it will forever burn in her memory making it unbearable for her to remain in a relationship with you. You might as well save yourself the time and indignity of groveling for her forgiveness; accept that you made a mistake and move on.

As for the girl you got caught with, if she doesn't know you have a girlfriend, you can kiss her goodbye as well. You cheated on your girlfriend with her, making her feel like a home wrecker, so why would she want a relationship with you after that? You already demonstrated your unfaithfulness to your girlfriend, why would she think you would be true to her?

With the doomsday scenario addressed, I will continue the If You Get Caught Cheating On Your Girlfriend series with circumstances that offer a greater opportunity for you save your relationship with your girl.

Stay Tuned.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Infidelity Phone Tips

2007-09-28T10:02:00.000-07:00

Although the phone can be a huge liability, you can learn to use it to your advantage.

Multiple Cell Phones
The best advice I can give you is to get a second cell phone. They are relatively affordable these days and defiantly worth it. Make sure that it’s a different carrier than what you currently use so there is no mix up with the bills. Get paperless statements or use an alternate address where the monthly statements are sent to (P.O. Box, or work address if applicable). Us his alternate cell phone to communicate with all your secondary women, thus separating your phone communications entirely. Keep the phone in your car, or leave it at work (if you live with your girlfriend), or some place where she won’t accidentally find it.

Home Phones vs. Cell Phones
Only give out your cell number, never your home number. The cell phone you can control, it's always in your possession where as the home phone you leave unattended quite frequently when you are out, at work, or at school. Second you don't want to walk in with your girlfriend, click on the answering machine and hear another girl talking about your date last night when you were supposed to be at your “family function”.

Use Aliases
Subsequently, keep your secondary women's phone numbers on your cell phone under an alias, preferribly a male alias. Never use their real names, use initials if you have to just as long as there is no evidence for the snooping girlfriend.This is better than making the numbers secret (some phones have that function) for the simple fact that it will arouse suspicion on why that particular number would be classified as such.

Family Phone Number
Do not give out your family's home number to anyone, not even your girlfriend. This would greatly weaken your most powerful alibi if she had the option to call and ask to talk to you, thus verifying whether you are there or not.

Work Phone
Don’t give out your work phone number to either your girlfriend or your mistresses. If they need to get in touch with you during the work day impress upon them that they need to do it using your cell phone(s). Tell them that your employer frowns upon employees using their phones for personal calls. This serves as a protective barrier in multiple ways shielding you from emotionally clingy women, as well preserves any work related alibi/excuse you use with any of your women. If they can’t call to check on you then they can’t shoot holes in your stories.

Texting
If you text with your women (girlfriend or mistresses), make it a standard operating procedure to erase all you stored received text messages, sent text, and saved draft messages in your phone. You can either selectively erase just the ones from your mistresses but I suggest you erase everything and if anyone of them asks you tell them you do it to save memory on your phone.

If you have any phone tips for the readers, feel free to post them in the comments section. We’re always open to new and innovative ideas.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Cheating on Your Live In Girlfriend

2007-09-21T08:27:00.000-07:00

A lot of guys who live with their girlfriends secretly yearn for the opportunity to get with another woman on the side. As you can imagine this situation provides unique barriers to cheating on your girlfriend. It’s far more difficult to catch some trim on the side with your girlfriend aware of most of your on goings on a daily basis.

It can be done, there’s no doubt about that. Anything can be done, you just have to realize that you’re working with a huge handicap, and even more so a far better chance of getting caught. Once you have accepted those to fundamental principles of your lifestyle then you can take the next step.

Establish a Plausible Reason That Gets You Out of the House
This is crucial to getting time away from your woman, and you have to come up with something that she does not want to tag along for. Pick up a hobby that she despises that requires ample amount of time, like model airplane flying, fishing, or golf. Tell her you and some guys from the office are starting a business which requires your skills for a certain amount of hours per week.

Ensure your Mistress has her own place
Avoid women that live with their parents. Obviously you can’t take her to your place and going to a hotel leaves behind too much evidence on credit card statements, receipts, etc. Plus always going to a motel is going to lead the Mistress to wondering why she can’t go to your place.

Rent a Room
Rent a RoomIf you’re planning to make this a regular thing, rent a room from someone you don’t know, and only use it when you’re with your other women. I don’t mean a motel either. I’m referring to a monthly rental, like an apartment sublet, or someone renting a room in their house. Always pay in cash and try not to leave too much of a trail, don’t tell you’re new roommate about what you’re doing either.

Make Sure Your Mistress Lives in a Different Town
Preferably two or three towns apart makes it even better. This is always a standard course of action, but especially important if you live with your girlfriend. You don’t want to be running into your mistress at the local Blockbuster.

Pack a Change of Clothes
Make sure you pack a change of clothes that you can switch into for your dates with your mistress, then change back before you go home. This eliminates her perfume/scent, makeup, hair on your clothes that your girlfriend might find. Your girlfriend has access to your laundry so she can snoop through it anytime she wants.

Clean Up before You Go Home
Find a bathroom that you can use either at the gym, the association pool/club house, the park or anywhere else accessible. After you change out of your date clothes, wipe yourself down with a wet towel to remove any perfume/scent, makeup, hair that you might have incidentally picked up on your date. Air out your car on the way home roll down all the windows in your car to, and check to see if your mistress left anything behind.

Prepare a Lie for Your Girlfriend
She’s probably eagerly anticipating your arrival, wanting what you did all day playing golf, how many fish you caught, or what projects you accomplished at the side business. So you better think of something before you walk through the door.

Hope this was helpful. If there are any guys out there in this exact situation and have some good tips for the readers, feel free to pass them along in the comments section.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Excuses to Facilitate Your Infidelity

2007-09-14T10:08:00.000-07:00

When you’re dating multiple women simultaneously, you often need to find excuses to slip away from your girlfriend to spend time with your other women. This can become a problem if your ability to create excuses is not well developed.

With this in mind I decided to categorize my most rock solid, best excuses that I have battle tested, and feel confident in using. These are not specific excuses, but certain types that you can use as long as you customize them to your particular situation.

Family:
Use your family. This is the most abundant resource you have available to you. When you need an excuse to get away from your girlfriend to spend time with your #2 or #3 women, do not hesitate to depend on your family, after all that's what they are there for. For multiple reasons this is you best excuse. One, your significant other cannot try to convince you to get out of it, or change your plans since this is your family and they take precedence. Second, since you put such a high importance on your "family activities" it makes you seem family oriented, which makes you look more attractive to women, since you are now seen as family oriented. Your girlfriend can’t question the amount of time you spend with your family so if particular “family function” happens to drag on longer than expected, she won’t break your balls with an interrogation.

Friends:
You need to have a couple of friends that you can use as an excuse. Make sure that these two specially selected friends can keep quiet about what you’re doing, especially to their own significant others. Also, always inform these friends if you’re going to use them as an excuse BEFORE you do, so you can get your stories straight upfront eliminating the scramble later on when your girlfriend is asking questions.

Work:
Using your place of employment might seem like a great excuse to create some time to cheat; telling your girlfriend your working late, that you will be in an extended meeting, and the most daring one of all; that you’ll be away on a business trip. But there is an inherent problem with these types of alibis, unless you work at a small company consisting of your friends, you will have no one who will lie for you. Sure you can get a buddy to cover for you in the office in case your girlfriend calls in to check on you, but what if the receptionist answers the call, or the call gets forwarded to your boss? Will they lie for you? Then you have to tell them why you are avoiding your own girlfriend, an uncomfortable scenario at the very least. What if your girlfriend is suspicious to the point where she shows up, or poses as your sister or mother on the phone to verify your whereabouts? There are just too many intangibles to use your job as safe alibi. If this is the best you can come up with, then at least use it sparingly.

Random:
Random, disposable excuses that you only use once work very well. They leave no discernable pattern, which means no matching variables for your girlfriend to dissect. If it’s a one time only excuse there is nothing to compare it to, meaning no anomalies to exploit. But you have to use these sparingly and during different time frames (i.e. don’t use different random excuses for the same time, on the same day of the week) otherwise that inherently negates the “randomness” of the excuse since certain facts remain similar. Stick to different excuses, on different days, during different windows of time (when you’re with your other women) and you’ll trigger far fewer women’s intuition alarm bells.

If you have some good excuses that you’ve used in the past, or revolving ones that you currently use and think it could benefit someone else, then do us all a favor and tell us about in the comments section. After all, every new excuse is an opportunity to cheat on our girlfriends.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Don’t Waste Your Time With Craigslist

2007-09-06T15:16:00.000-07:00

The past few weeks I have been doing some research on the Craigslist personals section, to see whether it’s a fertile environment to find women to cheat on your girlfriend with. I had done this a year earlier and come up with a resounding “NO!” I figured I’d give it a year and revisit the site to see if it had improved any.

Friends and coworkers occasionally mention it so I thought it was gaining traction in the online dating arena, hopefully becoming more legitimate.

But after my latest two week foray into the Craigslist personals I can whole honestly say that it’s a waste of your time. But this goes not only for cheaters but for any guy looking to meet a woman period.

The Craigslist personals are a breeding ground for spammers, men posing as women, overweight unattractive women (my bad Big Beautiful Women or BBW) demanding the moon, and in some cases even blatant offers of prostitution.

Here is the breakdown:

65 % Spammers
They put up posts/ads posing to be women in order for you to write back so they can acquire your email address. Then they reply with either a fake email asking you to go to some online dating website where you can continue the conversation. Or they just email you links to porn sites… and not very good ones either, I know I’ve checked, it’s called research, he he he.

15% Guys Posing as Women
Guys put up fake posts posing as women as a joke to see how many men reply, or they do it with a picture of their ex to get even.

15% Big Beautiful Women (BBW)
BBW 's love to put up posts/ads demanding unrealistic expectations. Here’s a clue ladies; if you’re not getting it in the real world posting an ad is not going to get you a date with Brad Pitt. You need to lower your expectations and stop wasting everyone’s time with your unfulfilled fantasies.

5% Prostitutes
I was as surprised to find this type of posts/ads on Craigslist Personals. I thought they would better monitor this type of activity. Usually they aren’t asking for payment in Dollars, they ask for it in Roses. But you think a little bit and you’ll realize 1 Rose = 1 Dollar, you do the math. Also there are quite a lot of ads for women looking to be companions of affluent older men, can you say escort service?

I spent most of my time on the Women Seeking Men, and the Casual Encounters sections. I did delve a little bit into the Strictly Plutonic section, but found that the demands of the “women” there were even more outrageous than those of the BBW’s? They want to be taken out, wined and dined, have presents bought for them, taken on lavish trips or concerts but refuse to put out and they let you know about that ahead of time. So I didn’t even waste my time in that section, nor should you.

In the end the title of this blog says it all… Don’t Waste Your Time With Craigslist.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Keep Your Dates With Your Mistress Unofficial

2007-08-24T11:15:00.000-07:00

I have to apologize for the absence of my blog in the last couple of weeks. I have been very busy lately recruiting a new stable of women and cycling out the existing ones. I like to make this purge every few months to keep everything fresh. Usually I try to weed them out individually over an extended period of time, sort of stagger it out. But his particular time it all hit at once, sometimes it’s unavoidable.

With that said…

In this the seventh and final installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series, I wanted to make sure you don’t do anything that might have a public or official record kept of it.

By official record I mean don’t sign any type of joint documents, take pictures with anything that can establish a time & date on it, sign birthday cards, make videos, make any type significant joint purchase and above all else stay away from getting arrested. That’s a good idea in case, but especially when you’re out with your mistress. It’ll be kind of difficult to explain away why you got arrested for fighting because you were trying to defend your mistress’s honor.

Some of these might be harder to avoid than others, taking photos and things of that nature, but try the best you can. Especially at clubs since promoters like to publish the photos they take of partygoers on their web sites.

Make sure that if you pay with a credit card you throw away the receipt immediately and make sure that you file away your monthly credit card statement before your girlfriend can “accidentally” glance at it.

The less evidence you generate, the less there is to hide and lie about later.

I hope you enjoyed the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series, even in its prolonged state. The How to Cheat On Your Girlfriend and Not Get Caught Blog will return normal schedule from here on out. I appreciate your patience.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Checklist for Cheaters

2007-08-03T13:48:00.000-07:00

In this the sixth installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series, I want to provide you with a checklist that every cheater should employ during and after a date with his girlfriend, mistress, or any other woman that happens his way.

1. Keep your cell phone on silent, off, or on vibrate.

2. Never check to see who is calling you, keep the phone in your pocket. If you pull it out to see it opens up the opportunity for whichever woman you are with to ask; “who is calling you?” If one of your other women calls you, let it go to voice mail and call back later. If it’s urgent then excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and call from there, or use the text messaging feature on your cell phone.

3. Don’t assign any photos of your women to their phone numbers in your cell phone. It’s too easy for your girl to catch a glimpse of the picture as you check your phone to realize it’s another woman calling you. Sometimes that’s all they need to start questioning your loyalty.

4. Remove any personal articles from your wallet, car, house, jacket pocket, pertaining to your girlfriend. Don’t forget to hide any and all pictures, jewelry, notes, and things of sentimental value tying you to any woman.

5. Avoid hugging or holding onto your secondary women in public in case someone sees you. That way you can maintain the argument that it was only a friend.

6. Try to wear your hair differently with different women to diminish the chance of easily being identified by someone you have only met once, like say the dreaded coworker. Wear a hat, beanie, or different style of clothes that you normally wouldn’t wear around your girlfriend to give you a different appearance.

7. Always throw the clothes you wore from your dates right into the laundry hamper. Make sure to dispose of any ticket stubs and receipts from the dates as well. Wash off any hand stamps you might have been branded with at a nightclub, bar, or event.

8. Roll down all your windows to air out your car on the ride home to eliminate hair strands and scent of the woman’s perfume.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Sex on Your Dates

2007-07-24T14:59:00.000-07:00

In this the fifth installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series I’m going to discuss the perils of engaging in sex and the pitfalls that you should be aware of.

If you're going to engage in sexual activity, and of course you will, always push for the venue to be at her place rather than your own. This radically reduces the chances of any evidence left behind at your house. If you choose to get down in your vehicle remember to search it thoroughly when you're finished, air it out, and try to vacuum the carpet and upholstery to eliminate those annoying strands of hair that women leave behind.

Under no circumstances are you to let any of your secondary women spend the night at your house. This leads to extended time spent in your bed, which means a lot of added work finding and removing evidence left behind. Regardless whether she spends the night, you'll have to change and wash your sheets, blankets comforters to get the girl’s scent out. Also, when any woman spends the night, they will linger in the morning causing delays with communicating with your girlfriend. You can’t exactly call your girlfriend while you still have the girl from the night before lounging around in your bed.

Remember your girlfriend probably hasn't heard from you since you started your date the night before, so if you lag in giving her a call in the morning because one of your secondary women is still there, she'll start to get annoyed. What’s worse is if you make this a habit she will start to get suspicious. For the same reason, try to avoid spending the night at your secondary women's houses, but this is still far better alternative than your residence. If you spend the night, make up an excuse the night before why you have to leave early in the morning and set your alarm. Try to target a time that allows you wake up, go home and call your girlfriend before she wakes up.

Also you want to keep an eye on the type of sexual activity you partake in and make sure that there are no marks on your body that might give away your indiscretion. Stay away from hickeys and make sure all your women know and fully adhere to this policy. Just say you find them childish and disgusting and that you'd rather not have them. Then make sure you don't give them either. If any of your women scratch your back during sex, then you will have to tell them to stop. This is a dead give away.

Avoid doing sexual maneuvers that you just learned from your secondary women with your girlfriend. This will make her wonder where you picked up your new moves, and a curious girlfriend is always a problem. But if you feel the overwhelming need to try it with your girl, weave it gently into the fabric of your relationship. Mention that you were talking about it with a coworker, or read about it in a men's magazine, then leave it alone for a few days. The next time you’re in the midst of passion wait for her to broach the topic of trying it out, that way it will be her idea. If she doesn’t, then you can ask initiate the idea since you had already planted the seed earlier in the week.

You should know this next one by now, but I’ll cover it here since this seems to trip up more would be players than anything else. Never call out the wrong name during sex. In fact avoid using their names altogether whenever possible. Get in the habit of calling all your women by cute little nicknames that you can rotate around like “baby doll,” “sunshine,” “beautiful,” “honey,” and so on. Once you have this established in your brain the propensity to call one of them by their actual names will greatly diminish, leading to a reduced reflex of calling out the incorrect moniker. Trust me, this will be a lifesaver, especially when one of them calls and they sound similar to your girlfriend on the phone. Now you don't have to awkwardly try to guess who it is by the conversation. With caller ID this is not as relevant as it used to be, but nevertheless its just good practice.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Vary The Locations of Your Dates

2007-07-18T08:42:00.000-07:00

In the fourth installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series I’m going to discuss the benefits of using different locations and venues for your dates.

Don’t let laziness be the reason you get caught cheating. I know its a lot easier to take different women to the same venues, but it also makes it a lot easier to get caught that way.If you have a favorite coffee shop or restaurant that you frequent with your girlfriend, find another one. They are almost every corner these days, it’s not that difficult to find one a few miles down the road.
You never know when an employee of that establishment will decide to have a bonding moment with your girlfriend and let it slip that you were there yesterday with another woman.

Finding a different hang out with each girl would probably be the best-case scenario. This keeps everything segregated. But the most ideal method would be to avoid having a regular spot you frequent with your secondary women, this way no one will remember you, or make note of who you are with.

I once tested this theory; taking my girlfriend to a Peruvian restaurant one day, and then meeting up with a girl I was just starting to date at the very same restaurant the next day. Believe me, the hostess and a couple of the waitresses remembered I could tell by the quizzical looks on their faces, trying to piece together what was going on. By the end of the date their service had become somewhat abrupt bordering on rude. None of them ever said anything but I could tell I wasn’t their favorite customer.

I guess its some unwritten code with women; they get mad even when the infidelity is not being perpetrated on them. It’s probably some bond of sisterhood.

Regardless separating your date locations according to your different women is something you should do. In fact you should keep all your dates segregated as much as possible meaning you should always take your secondary women on dates outside the relative vicinity of where you go out with your girlfriend.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Infidelity On Independence Day

2007-07-03T15:01:00.000-07:00

In honor of Independence Day tomorrow I just thought that I’d throw in this public service announcement for all my devoted cheaters as a reminder.

Even though the 4th of July is not as stressful of a holiday as Valentines Day, Christmas, a or New Year’s Eve, its still a pretty difficult day for the gentlemen player who is juggling numerous women at the same time.

With multiple balls in the air you have to be quick to make sure you don’t drop the ball with any of your women during this summer holiday.

Like I mentioned earlier the 4th allows you some leeway in making choices regarding which women you will spend time with, as opposed to the other aforementioned holidays that every woman will demand to spend with her man.

With that said, your women will all still try to plan something with you on Independence Day so you have to calculate accordingly.

First you have to decide what you actually want to do and which one of them you want to do it with (if any of them at all). After all you can always just have a barbecue at your buddy’s house or what not.

But if you decide to have a girl along for the ride on the 4th make sure you have a viable excuse for you other women. If it’s your girlfriend that you’re planning to hang with then your excuses can be family related since you shouldn’t be bringing your secondary women around your family anyways, so you can use that. Just tell them that your family spends every 4th of July together and it’s just the immediate family, which should get you out of any obligations with any women where the relationship is just casual.

But if you’re trying to shake your girlfriend to spend time with another woman then you better have a good alibi that you set up in advance of the 4th. Then know exactly what you’re girlfriend is doing and make sure your plans are in the opposite direction. Nothing worse than running into your girl at the fireworks show when you’re with your other woman… that will definitely lead to some pyrotechnics.

Sloppiness on a lesser holiday such as Independence Day has tripped up many would be players who didn’t give his game enough forethought.

Remember to stay disciplined, plan ahead for any holidays, and to keep your game tight.

This is nothing you didn't already know, but a reminder can't hurt.

Stay tuned the How o Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Avoid Going To The Movies With Your Mistress

2007-06-29T09:15:00.000-07:00

In the third installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series I will address the movies, a venue that on the surface looks like a safe haven to take your secondary women, but could serve as a precarious trap just as easily.

Everyone goes to the movies and you’ll never know whom you might run into, and once you encounter this unexpected third party you can be sure that they’ll be glancing at you throughout the movie, you’ll be trapped there for the duration of the movie with curious eyes watching you.

If your secondary woman gets amorous that’s sure to be noticed. The level of problems this might cause depends on who this third party is. If its one of your acquaintances, then you can manage that situation by filtering this third party from any activities involving your girlfriend. If it’s one your girlfriend’s acquaintances, well then you’ll have some explaining to do. Catching a flick should be viewed with great hesitancy when on a date with your #2 or #3.

In fact if you can avoid movies altogether by making up some sort of excuse like you hate the crowds or the movies bothers your eyes you'd be better off entirely. But in most circumstances the women won't go for it, so you will have to figure out a way around it.

If you date a girl from outside of the immediate area you should always try to go to a theatre in her vicinity. If you have no such luck, then you will have to try and convince your dates to go to movie theatres out of the surrounding area. Make up some excuse like you got in an argument with the manager at the local movie theatre and you feel uncomfortable going there. Otherwise you will have to press your luck and hope no one who can recognize you will be at the movies at the same time. Try going to later shows or an early matinee when the crowds are not as thick.

Movies are an anomaly (kind of like coworkers). It’s hard to predict who will be at the movie theatre since there are so many different types of movies playing at the same time. There are action films, romantic comedies, dramas, thrillers, etc. For each one of these movies there is a different demographic segment that enjoys watching them, which brings together many various groups of people that would not normally attend the same function. Thus, you’ll increase the likelihood that you’ll run into people you would otherwise would not have anything in common with, which in turn exposes you to a higher chance of getting caught by your girlfriend’s great aunt who just happened to be there to watch the new Disney animation film with her grand daughter.Your best solution if you must go to the movies, is to take your secondary women to another city or town where the chances of you bumping into someone that recognizes you are greatly diminished.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Avoid Meeting Your Girlfriend’s Coworkers

2007-06-26T10:48:00.000-07:00

In the second installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series I will discuss an overlooked way of getting nabbed; by your girlfriend’s coworker.

Your girlfriend’s coworker is someone you disregard as soon as you’re finished being introduced to them. They have little, if entirely no relevance to your life except for those few excruciating hours that you’re forced to engage in small talk at a company function.

But that’s where you’re mistaken; it might appear they have only a passing role in your life, as immaterial as a stoplight, but if you’re not careful they can play a major role in the relationship between you and your girlfriend.

Here’s why…

There is no fun like getting a call from your woman during the work day and having her bust your balls about someone from her office seeing you out with another woman on Friday night when you were supposed to be shooting pool with your buddies. You might be able to talk your way out of this since most likely the coworker cannot be sure since you two only met briefly at a company Christmas party, but you certainly could do without the drama, inconvenience, and air of suspicion being raised.

If you can avoid meeting the coworkers that would be an ideal scenario, for it would remove a pesky nuisance that you cannot calculate for. There is something that you must realize about the coworker factor. Coworkers, unlike family and friends cannot be grouped easily. They have no particular bond, or anything that ties them in common besides their jobs. Coworkers are in fact an anomaly that is extremely hard to account for, or predict. This means that the coworker faction will encompass every type of individual, male, female, old, young, lover of classic music or gangster rap, etc. Very diverse indeed, meaning you can't avoid them as a whole; you just have to hope they don't recognize you.

The difference between your girlfriend’s friends and coworkers is that you can categorize her friends since they have similar interests. For instance if your girlfriend likes alternative music most likely so will her friends, which means you want to stay away from bars with live rock bands in her city. This, on the other hand, would make a hip hop club a viable option to take your secondary women. However, you can’t successfully apply this line of reasoning to her coworkers since they have only that one unifying bond; a common place of employment. Meaning they could be lurking about in some venue that you’re girlfriend would never attend, and what seems like a safe haven to take your other woman.

The best advice I can give you is try your best to avoid any work type functions that your girlfriend wants you to accompany her to, and definitely don’t take any women to any of your job functions.If you can’t avoid this predicament, then make sure you’re as nondescript and unremarkable at that company function as possible. The duller and more unmemorable you are, the easier and faster they will forget you (in the same manner you will discard them from your memories as soon as possible).

Simply said, beware of meeting any co-workers, if you can.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.

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The Number 1 Way To Get Caught Cheating While On a Date With Your Mistress

2007-06-20T10:19:00.000-07:00

In the first installment of How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series I will discuss the top manner in which you might get caught; while in public.

This is obvious at first glance, also as obvious is that this is part of your infidelity is almost unavoidable. There is only a finite amount of things you can do with your secondary women that don’t involve going out into the world. Sooner or later you’ll have to bite the bullet and take one of them out to eat, a movie, or some other type of pass time.

Make sure that you plan your excursions out of your immediate area, and even more importantly out of your girlfriend’s area of proximity. Sure you’ll have to drive further to get something to eat or catch a movie but the effort will be worth it when you can relax and enjoy yourself, rather than having to constantly look over your shoulder to see if you know the couple that just walked into the same restaurant you’re having dinner in.

Another way to reduce the chances of being recognized by someone in public, avoid meeting any friends or family of your #2 and #3 women, especially since you have no real social obligations to either of them. However, the longer you keep a girl in your rotation the more likely you will meet of some of her friends, family, and acquaintances.

This escalates the odds of eventually encountering someone you have met through your mistresses in public. This alone is a good reason to periodically freshen up your rotation to make everything new and distant again with your secondary women.

Obviously, you can’t utilize this strategy with your girlfriend. With her, you have probably already met most of her important family members, friends, and coworkers. There is not much you can do about this, your social obligation is to be by your girlfriend’s side and under those circumstances you have to socialize, and therefore you end up meeting people that might recognize you later. That’s where taking your secondary women to more remote locations for dates reduces the chances that you’ll run into your girlfriend’s parents or cousins.

Stay tuned as the How to Avoid Getting Caught Cheating on Your Dates series continues.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Avoid Getting Caught Cheating On Your Dates

2007-06-19T14:35:00.000-07:00

This is the part that is obviously the most fun. Once you have done all the prep work of selecting and meeting the women you will be dating, your reward comes in an even more dangerous undertaking; the date itself.

The experiences of the dates are what you strive for; it’s what you lay all the groundwork and foundation for. But at the same time you have to be aware that it’s also the most dangerous time for a cheater.

The easiest way to get caught cheating is when you're on a date. You're exposed, out in the open for the entire world to see. You’re immersed in the mood and atmosphere of the encounter, and thus distracted. You’re focusing on the beautiful and exciting woman on your arm, probably a woman that isn’t your girlfriend, which alone heightens the exhilaration. You’re not focused on what’s going on around you, or who might be watching you, but you should be.

This is when you’re most vulnerable and have to be most careful, since a family member, a friend, or even a coworker might discover you.

Worst of all, you might not even realize that you been caught until the next day or even later on down the road when your girlfriend tells you about her friend who saw you kissing some girl. That’s one of the interesting aspects of getting caught, it’s usually not instantaneous. Very rarely will your girlfriend walk in on you while you’re engaged in questionable behavior with another woman (unless you’re completely careless or clueless). More often than not, she will find out indirectly sometimes days or even months after incident of infidelity transpired.

That’s why I have built a new seven part series to minimize your chances of getting caught on your dates, with the following installments of this blog highlighting the more dangerous locations and activities of dating that you should carefully consider beforehand.

Take Care,

A.C.

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Women In Your Rotation Run In Cycles

2007-06-05T09:14:00.000-07:00

Women, like most things, have a tendency to run in cycles, especially your #2 and #3 girls in your rotation. Once your secondary women realize that the relationship is not growing, not leading to anything serious as they had hoped, they will eventually lose interest and fall out of your rotation.

This is good if you're looking to change up your rotation.

This is bad if it happens with your main girlfriend; remember it works both ways, so don’t forget to lavish enough attention on her to keep her content with your relationship.

Once your rotation comes full circle, you will notice that your #2 and #3 women will most likely exit your rotation around the same time throughout the cycle. Expect this to happen; don't be surprised by it, and make sure to plan for it. After all you aren't giving these women what they are looking for, so naturally they will search for a more enriching relationship elsewhere.

Once this scenario reveals itself you have two options; count your lucky stars that your girlfriend didn’t catch you, and retire from cheating with the self satisfaction that you managed to carry off a feat that most men only dream of, let alone have the fortitude to even attempt. Or, you might like the excitement that you set up another rotation and tempt fate again. It's your call, you will get better with each new rotation you set up, but your odds of eventually getting caught will increase as well.

I've had numerous Three-Girl rotations that worked out perfectly due to the fact that the arithmetic made it easy (three women, seven days in the week). But I was once ambitious too, and thought I could manage four women at one time. Hell, I thought, what's one more date, what's one more lie, what's one more night of sex.

Well one more date is more money out of your pocket, more time spent away from your main girlfriend leaving her at home wondering where you are. One more lie adds up exponentially in your flimsy house of cards you have built on all your false truths. Don't forget, lies are harder to remember and regurgitate upon demand because they never happened. You have to think about who you told it to, and when you told it.

What you really end up doing is tiring yourself out, and eventually getting your lies mixed up. The latter never happened to me, but the first definitely did. After four days of dating four different women I needed a break to just relax and hang out with my friends. But that day off never came because by the fifth day my main girlfriend was demanding to see me, and if I didn't oblige there would be complications.

Always keep in mind that spending time with women is never easy due to their emotional nature. One evening spent with a woman can wear a man down both mentally and physically (depending on your activities of the evening). If you have an argument (and we all know this will eventually happen) and have to spend the evening trying to console her and get back in her good graces, it might tire you out for the next day. If you spend a night romping around in the sack till four in the morning, you will be exhausted the next day, especially if you work a nine to five.
So after about two weeks of dating four women I quickly realized that this was a path leading directly towards failure, forcing me to cut the fourth woman loose.

And you know what, I didn't even miss her. In fact I valued my day off and my sanity so much that I have never attempted dating more than three women simultaneously again.
Please take it under advisement from someone with wide-ranging experience with the rotation ... three girls should be every man’s limit.

I know there are some of you out there that manage to date more than three women at the same time; my hats off to all of ya’ll. Send me some comments to let all my readers know how you manage your time and how you’re able to handle your ladies’ demands.

Thanks,
A.C.

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Women Notice The Slightest Changes

2007-05-30T09:43:00.000-07:00

Recently I had a phone conversation with my girlfriend that reinforced how sensitive women are to the slightest aberration in your demeanor or approach to them, and how quickly they can spot that subtle change.

It was the slightest divergence from my usual tone on the phone, something that would escape the male psyche as irrelevant, yet my girl managed to pick up on it.

When she calls I usually answer the phone in a boisterous “what’s up” just for fun as well as to emphasize that I’m happy to hear from her (little things like that go along way to keep women content in a relationship).

This particular time when I answered her call my “what’s up” was less enthusiastic and a little muted. Instantly she asked, without saying hello or anything of the sort, “are you at your parents house?”

I was taken aback at her insight, which I presumed was derived from my low-key salutation but I quizzed her to be sure.

“Why you ask that,” I inquired.

To which she replied “You always have less excited hello when you answer your cell at your parent’s house, like you’re not supposed to be on the phone or something.”
I laughed and then I explained to her “that I try to be a bit more respectful when I’m at the parent’s, that’s why I tone it down a bit.”

After I got off the phone with her I started to think about how effectively she identified the situation and was able to determine the slightest change in my tone and realize that things were out of the norm.

This led me to think about all the other subtle changes that women could be detecting especially when one is trying to hide their infidelity.

Small reminders such as this are great motivational tools to keep you on your game, to let you know that most women are extremely in tune with their men and can sense the slightest abnormality in their demeanor or daily habits.

Make sure you keep your game tight, don’t deviate from your normal routine so they don’t have anything to notice.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Vacation Infidelity Part II

2007-05-17T10:23:00.000-07:00

I'm back from vacation and as promised here is the second installment of the Vacation Infidelity Series... enjoy.

Hooking up with multiple girls while on vacation is a likely opportunity that will present itself. You just have to know how to take advantage of it. There are a few things to consider which will help guide you along your path. Once you hook up with a girl who is also on vacation you will probably exchange hotel contact info and things of that nature. Keep this with you but only use it in case you're having bad luck hooking up with a new girl the following night. After all, you already had your fun with the woman from the night before; there is no reason to spend much more of your precious vacation time with her. Also, try to find out where she is going to go party the night following your initial encounter and try to schedule a different venue to ensure she doesn't catch you hooking up with a new girl. Even on vacation women are very possessive and hate it with a passion when they are screwed over for another girl.

Remember you have no need for a vacation girlfriend. We’ve all known the guy that hooked up with a girl on the first night of the vacation and spent the rest of the week with her, ignoring his friends and all the other available women. Leaving him with a sad heart when the vacation romance ends and the girl eventually goes back home, as well as a sketchy story to his girlfriend back home about why he is in hardly any of the vacation photos. You are there to have fun, sample different women, and not to settle down with a vacation girlfriend, stick to that idea.

Try to make sure you do not hook up with women that live in the same general geographical area as you. This could lead these women to attempt to seek out a relationship with you after the vacation is over in your home area. If you feel that you have to pursue a girl that lives two blocks away from you, simply lie and say you're from somewhere else, making your life much easier in the long run.

If you take pictures with women that you hook up with, always try to use your camera, allowing you total control of the film and negatives. You can tell these women you’ll email them copies, which you have no intention of doing. Don't ever let one of your buddies carelessly take pictures of you hanging out with these vacation women, since you never know how or where these photos might end up. Maybe your buddy’s girlfriend will accidentally show them to your girlfriend at a social function in the future. To be safe, use your own camera and that way you won't have any questions down the road. If the vacation women take pictures they will most likely want to send you copies so have them email it to one of your non existent email accounts.

Vacation Infidelity Tips

1. If one of your vacation honeys gives you a parting gift that seems like a token of affection you would only receive from a woman, ditch it before you get off the plane. It will save you the headache of trying to explain to your girlfriend why you have teddy bear that says "I'll miss you” in your luggage. If for some reason you neglect to rid yourself of this paraphernalia, just tell your girlfriend you bought it for her, if it’s applicable.

2. Always dispose of any condoms and other sexual paraphernalia before you get off the plane. Also when packing for your trip, remember to pack your condoms after your girlfriend has finished helping you pack, for obvious reasons.

3. Don't come back with any marks on your body such as scratches on your back, etc.

4. Make sure that everyone on the trip who knows you had a romantic encounter understands that silence is golden, and know not to say anything to their own girlfriends. This rule is vital to uphold, since women have this need to divulge information to one another, most often to their buddies’ girlfriend about the indiscretions that might have occurred on a given vacation.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Vacation Infidelity

2007-05-07T10:44:00.000-07:00

With the vacation season fast approaching (summer vacation for colleges and high schools, fun in the sun for working folks) I thought I’d get you ready for summer with a few vacation infidelity tips for you to think about.

Going on vacation without your girlfriend can and should be considered a free for all, for the very reason that you are without supervision with an abundance of opportunity all around you. The women you will meet on your holiday will have their guard down, looking for a good time, and be far less scrutinizing of the guy they hook up with. This is a direct contradiction to normal circumstances under which women are far more protective and hesitant to go just with the flow.

Women on vacation will be much more prone to engage in questionable activity due to the fact that they are in a vacation mindset. You will be meeting ladies that you will, in all honesty, never see again after your vacation is over, making it far easier to cheat than when you are at home.

However, there are a few items that should be discussed before you taste this guiltless fruit.

1. Avoid giving the women you hook up with your contact information, but if for some reason you do, make sure it’s one of your ancillary email addresses that your girlfriend has no idea exists. This allows you to strictly filter your correspondences with these women without fear of discovery.

2. Whenever possible ask for their contact information first making it appear as if you're genuinely interested in contacting them, which will lead them to wait to receive your contact information when you “supposedly” will call or email them in the future.

3. Under no circumstances should you give out your address since you never know when you're girlfriend will decide to help you with the mail. Do not to give out your phone number since most of the women you meet will probably be from different geographical regions than you, meaning different time zones. This is important because different time zones could result in odd hour phone calls that might make your girlfriend wonder why all of a sudden you’re getting calls at strange hours or why unfamiliar area codes are showing up on your caller I.D.

There’s more, but I will be on vacation starting Tuesday of this week, and I’ll be back in the middle of next week sometime. I wanted to leave you guys a little vacation themed infidelity advice, in fact it will be a two parter, so look for the second installment when I get back.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Three Girl Rotation for Infidelity

2007-05-01T13:37:00.000-07:00

In all my experience, setting up a rotation of women has proven to be the most viable and effective tool to juggle multiple relationships simultaneously.

Like a Major League Baseball manager sets up a rotation of his pitching staff, setting up a rotation of your women will allow you to establish predictability in an otherwise unstable formula. Not to mention, it will enable you to realize your hierarchy of women in case your feelings ever get in the way and you forget whichone is the most important. Your main girlfriend is your Ace, and all the other women follow her in the rotation

Each day the manager starts a different starting pitcher, and each day you should be seeing a different woman.

This repertoire should include no more than three women at any one given point. Why not four or five? Well, we all fantasize about being players of extraordinary proportions with the ability to handle every woman that comes our way. But if you are just starting out, my advice to you is to stick with two or three until you’ve mastered the basics.

Splitting time between two women is difficult enough but every time you add another woman into the mix, you exponentially increase your chances of getting caught. In fact you might be setting yourself up for failure and embarrassment before you ever begin. Do not let your ambition get the better of you, stay within yourself and you will be well rewarded using the Three-Girl Rotation

The Three-Girl Rotation
Cheating is a lot like the odds at Las Vegas. You can only play for so long before fate inevitably turns against you. It's simple arithmetic, follow along and I’ll explain.

You have to realize that women need attention from their man. For every woman you have, you need to allocate a certain amount of time to spend with them, easy enough right? Well here is where it gets tricky. Women simply cannot wait patiently for more than a certain amount of time without seeing their man, that’s just how they are wired.

This issue leaves open only a limited window of opportunity for you to immerse yourself in other women.

But what is that amount of time, that’s the million dollar question? It depends on the individual woman; you will have to determine that for yourself. However, there is a simple equation I’ll share with you that works pretty well as a rule of thumb. If all things are normal (meaning no special days like birthdays, holidays, or events) a woman will seek out her man a minimum of every third day, sometimes even more frequently depending on her personality. Consequently the Three-Girl rotation comes into play.

Example:
Say you go out with your girlfriend on Monday; visit your number 2 girl on Tuesday, and your number 3 on Wednesday. Inevitably your girlfriend, who by the way you've been neglecting to see for the last couple of days, is pining away for your attention and getting somewhat impatient. She can wait one day, maybe even two days, but asking her to wait more than that is just trouble. Either she will get so frustrated with you that she'll start an argument, refuse to talk to you (which might not be all that bad depending on your woman), or just show up unexpectedly to surprise you and possibly catch you in the middle one of your dates.

So two days in between seeing any woman is probably the maximum amount of time you can safely allocate. It’s really not worth jeopardizing your relationship for one extra girl (day) in your rotation. Remember, you can always drop one of the existing secondary women if someone new and more tantalizing appears on the horizon.

I suggest you stick to this system when starting out and if you feel like you have the talent to expand your operations than by all means do so, but carefully, adding only one woman at a time. The reason for the Three-Girl rotation is to reduce the chances of getting caught while allowing you freedom and piece of mind. Dating numerous women is very difficult and exhausting.

Keeping track of who you are going out with, where you’ve been, and what lies you have told is quite a demanding task. Not to mention the many other commitments you might have including work, family, and friends that also significantly impose on your personal time. You need to schedule yourself a little down time to clear your mind. The three-girl rotation will allow you just enough of time to stay on top of your game.

Take Care,
A.C.

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A Female Cheater Shares Her Infidelity Secrets

2007-04-23T09:43:00.000-07:00

Sometimes I receive the best ideas or strategies from my readers. Recently I got one that was a gem from one of my female readers (Oh yea the ladies cheat too, even though it's far less documented). In fact it was so good I thought I’d share it with everyone just to demonstrate that it’s not only the men that come up with clever ploys.

My imaginary girlfriend....
One of the challenges to being a serial dater/cheater is staying unmarked, especially because I occasionally like to play rough. To circumvent this issue, I have invented an imaginary girlfriend. Since roughly 90% of the straight men I have ever met fantasize about having a 3 some with 2 women, they never seem to complain about the idea of me having a woman on the side. As a matter of fact, merely the thought that there is a slim chance that one day she might wind up in bed with us is enough to cause an instant hard-on.

The imaginary girlfriend is also dominant. She likes to play rough and does not like it when I sleep with men, so whenever we are together she marks me with bites and sucks. So, now, instead of the big purple bruise on the inside of my thigh being a liability, it has turned into an advantage.

Imaginary girlfriend has lots of other positives too. Since she is imaginary, I can make her live anywhere. Currently she lives about 1.5 hours away and I go visit her once a month, once every six weeks, or how often I want to pretend to visit her. This gives me the perfect out to travel, meet new people, or just ditch my current dates for a couple of days.

I love imaginary girlfriend!!!!

I have to say that borders on genius. Not only for the fact that it gives her a perfect escape to meet new men, explain any marks or bruises that can be interpreted as sexual, but plays on the ever ubiquitous three-some fantasy of all men.

After all what man wouldn’t want his girl to have a girlfriend? Like she said just the thought that her girlfriend might wind up in bed with us one day is enough justification to not question that relationship.I’m not too proud to admit, she would have gotten me with that scheme and I would have never been the wiser.

I have to hand it to her she figured out a way to prey on all men’s desires and weaknesses simultaneously.

Congratulations, I’m impressed.

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Different Degrees of Infidelity

2007-04-18T14:15:00.000-07:00

There are different levels of infidelity, some much more subtle than others.What I most often discuss in my blogs is full-on sexual intimacy with another woman, the most blatant of all sins in a monogamous relationship.

But what about the lesser evils, little things that most of us have been guilty of at one time or another?

1. What about the guy that befriends a woman and forms an emotional bond, that develops in a strong friendship? He shares with her intimate details of his life and she reciprocates. They spend quite a bit of time together without any physical contact, but nevertheless their friendship blossoms far more than just normal interaction between a man and a woman? Should this guy’s girlfriend consider this cheating. Should he hide this friendship from his girlfriend in an effort not to upset her?

2. What about the woman who during a night out with the girls gets a little too intoxicated and subtly exchanges a kiss with a guy on the dance floor? They spend the night dancing together and talking, but at the end of the evening they go their separate ways without exchanging any contact information. With her sexual appetite is revitalized by feeling desired by another man, she goes to her boyfriend who receives her full-on sexual attention and release. Should her boyfriend, in this case, consider her actions as cheating?

3. Having lunch with your ex? Even if nothing sexual transpires, just the situation itself is suspicious. The fact that you’re spending time with someone you once had an intimate relationship with, both emotionally and physically, can be called into question. Should the other party consider this cheating?

It all comes down to your own point of view. All of these situations are subjective to personal interpretation whether you would consider it cheating.

I will address it from a cheaters perspective;

Forming a non physical friendship with a member of the opposite sex, no matter how intimate of an emotional bond it might become, this still can’t be considered cheating. I can understand how some girlfriend’s can feel betrayed by this, but without any physical contact I don’t think it can be construed as anything more than just a close friendship. But if the man involved is smart, he will keep this from his girlfriend to eliminate the potential jealousy that might develop.

Kissing is usually not cheating, depending on the situation and frequency. But if it happens only once, under accidental circumstances especially if alcohol was involved, then it could be considered just that; an accident. However, if the frequency increases then it can be seen as cheating, amplified if she is kissing the same person numerous times.

If you consider having lunch with your ex cheating then you are far too jealous and attached to your partner. If nothing sexual occurs then you should have enough confidence in yourself and your relationship to overlook such circumstances. Now if this becomes a regular occurrence then you might want to keep your eye on the situation, but once or twice a year should not raise any alarms.

But as stated earlier, much of how you feel about this depends on your point of view. Let me know what you think about these different degrees of infidelity, or if you even consider them as infidelity.

Also if there are other subtle levels of cheating that I might not have addressed, let me know and I will give you my point of view.

How To Cheat On Your Girlfriend and Not Get Caught… on the Radio.

Catch your favorite Cheater on BlogTalkRadio!
April 25th on one of the top rated relationship/romance talk shows… The Game.Veteran Broadcast Journalist Mel Hopkins and The Professor bring you, THE GAME. Real relationship talk where you'll learn how to outwit, outplay and outlast your lover, featuring the writer of the How To Cheat On Your Girlfriend and Not Get Caught Blog.

April 25th, 6pm.
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A Day In the Life of a Cheater

2007-04-12T08:55:00.000-07:00

Occasionally, I have readers write me asking what it's like to date multiple women at the same time. I've tried to think of way that I could capture the life of a cheater, to try to make it interesting enough of a read while conveying the rigors and challenges involved with the deception and the management of both your time and the volatile personalities of your women.

What I came up with was simplest example I could give you to portray the life of a cheater; a day in my life.

Last Friday…

5:45 am
Wake up.

7:00 am
Leave the house

7:30 am
Arrive at work.

8:00 am
Email my girlfriend, my secondary woman, and my booty call from separate, non work email accounts. Set up the weekend rotation to split my time accordingly witch each woman.

12:30 pm
Meet with my #2 girl for lunch to appease her, since I won't be seeing her again till Sunday afternoon sometime. We mess around a little in the parking lot, and almost get caught by the Parking Lot Attendant. Lunch time thrills make for quick second half of the work day, unfortunately it wasn't a Nooner.

2:45 pm
Back at the office I call my girlfriend and finalize our plans for that evening. We'll be having dinner and then catch a movie, just a little something chill after a long week of work. I like to keep my Friday's low key since the rest of my week is usually pretty convoluted.

3:15 pm
Throughout the day I'm emailing with my booty call trying to arrange sometime to meet up over the weekend. She wants to hook up tonight, but that's a no go since I already got plans with my girl, as you know. Trying to fit each other into our respective schedules is tricky, especially since she has a boyfriend that's kind of clingy. She emails me back telling me that she'll have some time Saturday afternoon when her man has to take his little brother to a basketball camp. We agree on the time, and I begin formulating my alibi in case my girlfriend or my secondary woman ask me what my plans are during that time.

4:00 pm
I'm off of work, now my weekend will start to get interesting.

4:26 pm
My #2 girl calls and says she wants to see me tonight, some sort of bullshit about missing me after our lunch date. I tell her I can't because I have plans with the boys tonight, but she is insistent in a way only whiny woman can be. I break and agree to go see her before I get home. I re-route my car to her apartment and wonder what the hell she is doing home from work so early. I don't like a sudden change in my women's schedule, makes it hard to plan around.

5:06 pm
I arrive at her apartment, turn my phone on silent in case my girlfriend calls me while I'm there. As I'm walking to her apartment I change my mind, return to my car and leave my phone there. I'm not planning to be there long no need to take a chance. I'm always paranoid that one of my women will get a hold of my phone and go through my recent call logs, even though I got their names under an alias.

5:12 pm
I knock on her door and wait for her to open it. She looks a little distraught but I don't want to open that conversation so I act like I don't notice it. She pays that no mind and engages in it anyway. She wants to "talk," which is always code for it's going to take a while, especially when a woman says that. I don't have time for it though, I have to get home and get ready for my date with my girlfriend.

5:45 pm
I been humoring her for twenty something minutes now, listening to her concerns about our relationship not progressing. I'm waiting for it to end but it's just drawing on and on. I wish I could tell her that relationship will remain in a holding pattern, but I just don't have the time to get into it. I tell her she has raised some good points and that I will have to think about it. This doesn't sit well with her; she wants to address the issue right then and there. I tell I have to go and she gets pissed, but I have no choice I'm already behind schedule as it is.

6:10 pm
I leave on a bad note, but sacrifices have to be made. I get to my car check my phone and sure enough my girlfriend has left me a message after a couple of missed calls. She lets me know she has changed the restaurant she wants to go to and we need to be there half an hour earlier that originally planned. This condenses my allotment of time to get ready, lucky me.

6:20 pm
My #2 girl keeps calling me, but I'm letting it go to voice mail so I don't have to deal with her. If I pick up the phone now it will be a continuation of what happened at her apartment; her bitching me tuning her out.

6:42 pm
I arrive at my house, jump in the shower, get dressed, and I'm out the door in 20 minutes flat. Luckily I have perfected the quick change thanks to all my years of juggling women.

7:02 pm
On the way over to my girlfriend's, I finally take the call from my other woman, who has been blowing up my phone. I tell her I can only talk to her for a little while since I'm pressed for time. She reiterates her concerns and the fact that she is ticked off about me leaving the issue unresolved. I tell her we'll deal with it tomorrow and get off the phone with her abruptly making it appear like I'm angry about her insistence to pursue the conversation. In reality I could have cared less, but I needed to put her in check a little bit; her tenacity was getting out of hand.

7:28 pm
I pick up my girlfriend. We drive to the restaurant. With her its always a pleasant experience, almost makes me want to be monogamous, almost.

7:55 pm
We arrive at the restaurant and barely make the reservations. I can finally relax a little bit, even though my other woman is still calling me throughout the dinner. I turn my phone from vibrate to silent, this way I can tune her out completely.

8:55 pm
We get to the movies in time for the previews, find our seats and watch the plot unfold. I'm distracted, however, since this annoyance with my other woman is on my mind. I contemplate how to resolve this problem. Is it really worth for me to keep the relationship or should I give her the boot. I'm torn. Whenever I'm torn I know I'm in too deep and I should end it. So the decision gets made right there, when three hundred Spartans are beating the hell out of the Persian hordes; the other woman gets the boot later this weekend.

10:15 pm
The movie ends. On our way out I go to the bathroom and I check my voice mails. I have three of them from my other woman. The first two are angry, which I delete immediately without even listening to its contents. Her tone reveals everything I need to know about the state of her mind when she left me that message. The third one is a little more somber and coherent. She's apologizing for her behavior, saying she shouldn't have been so emotional and that she'll wait till tomorrow so we can talk it out. I am relived. The problem has sort of solved itself, at least for the night. Sometimes when you wait out a conflict with a woman, they have a tendency to come to their senses. Regardless, my decision still stands, it ends this weekend.

11:02 pm
We're back at my girlfriends house. We have a couple of drinks and then head straight for the bedroom, yea good times

1:55 am
My girlfriend wants me to spend the night. I debate whether I should or not because that will lead to a long morning of lounging around, perhaps even breakfast, but I have that "talk" scheduled with my other woman that I have to take care of in the morning. Don't forget I'm supposed to meet the booty call in the afternoon.

2:15 am
After fighting off my girlfriend's attempts to keep me there I finally get into my car to go home. I check my phone and I have a text message from my booty call asking me if I'm still up, this is her way of asking to fuck. On my way home I text her back and she calls me. Apparently her boyfriend went out with his buddies and he's drunk not answering her calls. She's pissed and wants to know if she can come over. This will lead to some angry revenge sex, which is always passionate and explicit. I'm tired but I take her up on her offer. I tell her to meet me at my house.

2:35 am
I arrive at my house and my booty call arrives about 10 minutes later. She comes in, complains a little bit about her man, and then we get down to it. She lingers around hinting that she wants to spend the night. I'm too tired to argue so I agree but I tell her she has to leave early because I have plans the next day. Usually I don't let any woman other than my girlfriend spend the night, but I make an exception. This girl is more paranoid about getting caught then I am, so I'm not too worried about any repercussions, plus she knows I have a girlfriend so there is no conflict there.

7:30 am
I wake her up and pretend like I'm getting ready to leave to get her out of my house. Once she leaves I go back to bed, I'm still exhausted. But hooking up with her late night works out for me, now I don't have any plans with her in the afternoon, allowing fmore time when I have the "talk" with my #2 girl. Oh joy.

There you have it; a typical day in the life of a cheater. It's a time consuming, mentally exhausting lifestyle, but you can't beat the benefits.

A.C.

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Breaking Up With Your Mistress, You Have To Do It Right

2007-04-04T09:38:00.000-07:00

One of the most frequent questions that I get from readers pertains to breaking up with a woman after the sex/friendship has lost its interest. Usually this topic would be quick and painless to describe; simply tell her the relationship is over, self explanatory.

However, when you’re looking to end a relationship with your mistress, other woman, booty call, or whatever you’re calling her at the time… it can get messy very quickly.

There could be severe repercussions that could find their way back to your girlfriend if you don’t handle the situation with the utmost care right from the start.

The method that has worked best for me over the years is to force her break up with you. Let her make the choice that she no longer wants to be in a relationship with you. This way there are no hurt or angry feelings on her part. She feels invigorated, in control of herself and her destiny, essentially she feels good about leaving you. This is exactly what you want.

Now you don’t want to push her to this conclusion by being a complete asshole (although that would speed things up a bit), since that will be counter productive. You don’t want her to hate you and turn it into some Fatal Attraction type of shit.

You want to play on her dislikes and do things that she genuinely cannot tolerate (besides dropping hints that you’re cheating on her) which will eventually push her over the edge. For instance if she doesn’t like you hanging out all night with the boys drinking, wants you to quit smoking, or can’t stand one of your friends, then your course of action is obvious. If she has any pet peeves that drive her up the wall make sure you engage in a couple of those.

Dropping little bombs into your daily conversations like; “I never want to have children,” or “I’m going to quit my job and move back home” are a couple of gems that will get the hamster wheel turning in her mind, making her wonder if you really are the right guy for her. Which we both know you’re not.

Once you have pushed her to the break up conversation, and you can always feel this coming a couple of days in advance, just wait patiently until she wants to get together and “talk.”
You’ll be eagerly anticipating it as she comes to you with a heavy heart trying to soften the blow and let you down easy, try to not grin from ear to ear knowing she’s giving you exactly what you want, a way out!

You have to remember to treat the break up very delicately.

Try to pretend that you're genuinely remorseful about what happened between the two of you, and that you wish you could have made it work. Make it look like you cared about her and that she was more important to you than she actually was. Do not act indifferent or nonchalant. This is important because it will make her feel like she mattered to you, it will keep her in a more sad and somber state of mind rather than angry or spiteful.

You do not want to treat her as if she was immaterial since it will create the second set of emotions I just described, and it will induce them to try hurt you in return. Which of course could problems with your girlfriend if you’re finding dead rabbits at your door, or she decides to mark up your car in lip stick one day. These are the kind of things that make girlfriends wonder.
As you can see, this is a very dangerous game you have to play, especially if you want to keep this from your main girlfriend.

Under no circumstance should you ever tell any secondary woman (that doesn’t know already) that you have been seeing other women, especially during the breakup. This might prompt her on seek out the other woman (your girlfriend) and ruin that relationship to settle the score.

Try to end your relationship amicably. Let her yell at you, let her vent, let her cry, let her try to let you down easy and make sure you apologize profusely as if she was your #1 girl.
In the end most likely she'll say she doesn’t want to ever see you again, or that maybe you two can be friends (such a lie). You tell her that you will miss her, and let her walk out the door. In the end no harm will really come of this, if you play your cards right.

Think about your exit strategy before you get heavily involved with any other women. Create a time table of when to end it, plan it, and execute it.

Ending the relationship with your other woman is one of the most important steps in Cheating On Your Girlfriend and Not Getting Caught.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Where Not to Meet Women

2007-03-28T09:55:00.000-07:00

In my latest series How to Meet Women (To Cheat On Your Girlfriend With) I’ve shared with you my favorite techniques and approaches to meeting new women.

But equally as important is to know the circumstances where the women you meet should be considered off limits. Separating the viable opportunity from the risky one will keep your relationship with your girlfriend intact.

Where Not to Meet Women

At Work
First and foremost you do not want to date women from work; this is a good rule to follow whether you want to make her your girlfriend or just keep her for the occasional Nooner. Any woman you work with has access to you for eight hours a day, minimum. She has access to the people you work with who can overhear telephone conversations, and if she is sneaky enough she can have access to your emails. Also, if you want to go on a lunch date with another woman it will be much more of a hassle to get away. If you receive any special cards for you birthday, or if one of your other women decides to stop by to "surprise" you, it could lead to an ugly altercation. All of which could have easily been prevented by abstaining from a workplace relationship.

I personally have been in this predicament and I can strongly advise you that it’s not worth the headache, no matter how attractive she might be.

Through Your Girlfriend
Never under any circumstances cheat on your girlfriend with a woman that you met through your girlfriend; common sense right? But so many guys have been caught for this reason alone that it bears mentioning.

Even if this woman is just an acquaintance of your girlfriend, you have to remember most women cannot keep a secret, that’s a fact. Now you’re asking them to conceal one of the juiciest secrets in existence.

Besides that, there are other reasons to consider. Have you ever thought about why a friend of your girl’s might want to sleep with you? Is it since you’re so charming, handsome and alluring that she just can’t help herself? Maybe, if you’re in that 1% of the male population.

More than likely she is doing it for her own personal reasons; that might include the always popular revenge/get even/screw your girlfriend over maneuver. Women are cruel this way and you are just a tool for her to get back at your girlfriend. Obviously this can only work if you girlfriend finds out about it, and guess who is going to tell her?

A second scenario might be that the friend was in a distraught emotional condition and needed someone to comforted her (you), got caught up in the moment and had sex with you because you were there for her. When she comes to her senses and realizes this, she will feel even worse than before. Now she has this guilt hanging over her, which will eventually spill out to your girlfriend. Most women cannot keep guilty feelings like that bottled up, so hooking up way is a recipe to get caught.

A third motive could be that your girlfriend’s friend is trying to break up your relationship for her own selfish reasons. Whether to get you to be her boyfriend (which is poor judgment since you already proved to her that you aren’t the faithful type, but women still try this method anyway), or because she doesn’t like you dating her friend and doesn’t want you around. She can always tell your girlfriend that she was drunk and you took advantage of her to try and preserve their friendship but still get you out of the picture. Not as a viable motive as getting you for herself, but I have seen it on occasion, either way you still get caught, that’s the main point.

Even if the friend/acquaintance is somehow able to keep the secret, then every social occasion that attends along with you and your girlfriend will be under a fog of anxiety and awkwardness for the two of you trying to pretend nothing happened. This isn’t a pleasant situation, as you can imagine.

So my best advice to you is not to cheat with one of your girlfriend’s friends. There are plenty of complete strangers out there that you can hookup with, without the rigmarole that accompanies this situation.

Through Family
Avoid getting hooked up through your family, especially since family always knows your personal business. For example, let’s assume that your Aunt introduced you to her neighbor’s daughter, who you promptly nailed on the first date. Unbeknown to your Aunt is the fact that you have Girlfriend. Now your Aunt is all excited about her love connection and calls up your Mom to tell her the good news and inevitably your Mom spills the beans about your Girlfriend. Now your Aunt is torn between her dual obligations, to you and to her neighbor’s daughter. Eventually the truth will come out because your Aunt is a nice lady and doesn’t want to anyone to get hurt. So now you have an angry neighbor’s daughter on your hands, and the fact that you have to worry about your Aunt telling your Girlfriend at the next family function.

Try to avoid family match making at all costs. You do not need any more stress than you already have, especially from your family. You’re family should be your escape from your relationship rather than part of the problem.

Take Care,

A.C.

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How To Meet Women in Bars and Clubs (You Can Cheat On Your Girlfriend with)

2007-03-23T10:56:00.000-07:00

Continuing my series on How To Meet Women (You Can Cheat On Your Girlfriend with) today I will discuss on a more traditional method, something we all have experience with… the Bar and Club scene.

Bars and Clubs
Rule number one is going to a place that is not frequented by your girlfriend, or her friends. Simple enough, but you can’t imagine how many guys have been tripped up by ignoring this rule. If you do go to a place your girlfriend likes, simply take the night off and don’t pick up on any women, just have fun with your friends. There is no reason to tempt fate.

Go to nightspots that are preferably out of your area or better yet out of your girlfriend's area. This will lead to reduced geographical complications, meaning that there will be a reasonable distance separating you from your girlfriend. Also, this will create a geographical buffer with any women you might meet at that nightspot since these women will most likely be from the locality of the venue and not from your area.

Try to avoid making out, or exhibiting overt affection openly in public places since you never know who else is there (co worker, friend of your girlfriend’s, etc.) that you might have not noticed or recognized. You can explain away dancing with a woman and talking to her, if it’s reported to your girlfriend. You can pull the old wingman excuse “you were just trying to be polite while your friend tried to hook up with her friend.” Don’t forget to make sure to say how much you disliked playing this role and how disinterested you were in the girl. But if you’re showing overt affection, you cannot explain away kissing and groping another woman, so maintain some semblance of self control.

Don’t give out your phone number to a woman until you have somewhat of a background on her. Where she’s from, where she works, what she does for a living, you know the basics. This will give you a general idea whether thee is any remote chance of her crossing paths with your girlfriend.

Also make sure that you use an alias, especially if its shaping up to be a one night stand, then she doesn’t need to know your real name since you have no intention of extending your interaction with her.

As to the actual how to pick up on a woman at a bar or club, you should already know that.But if that’s not your strength I’ll give you some tips that can get the ball rolling.

1. Don’t offer to buy her a drink.
This is probably the most played out method there is to get a woman to notice you. If you need to buy her something to get her attention, then you might as well hand her the money and walk away. I watched tons of guys try this over the years, and just laughed. Waited for them to pay for the drink, then I just came up on her other side and worked my way into the conversation. The sad part is when the other guy has to watch me get her phone number right in front of him, while she sips on the drink he just bought her. Ouch.

2. Say anything to get the conversation started.
It’s not that hard, ask her about her outfit, compliment her shoes or hair (women love that shit) or just start a random discussion about something going on at the bar/club. The point is to get her talking, the topic is really irrelevant.

3. Get on her team.
If you see her turning down a lot of men, that’s a perfect opportunity for you to get on her team. Start asking her what was wrong with the last couple of guys, why did she turn them down? Then transition the conversation into what type of guy she’s looking for, and then pick out some goofballs that are exact opposite that you two can make fun of together. Building camaraderie will go along way to establishing a rapport, plus she’ll be curious as to why you’re not trying to pick up on her, but the jokes on her cause you already are.

Those are probably my three favorite ways to meet women at a bar or club. You don’t have to come up with an elaborate scheme, after all these women are already alcoholically lubricated and waiting for you to make a move.

If you have a favorite pick up technique for meeting women in a bar or club, please feel free share it with the rest of us, no need to hold out.

Take Care,

A.C.

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How To Meet Women In Chat Rooms

2007-03-20T09:23:00.000-07:00

In my last blog I addressed How To Meet Women on MySpace and other Social Networking Sites.

The series continues with this installment covering an old favorite of mine, Chat Rooms.

Chat Rooms
Chat rooms were once the hottest and hippest way to connect online since they are readily accessible to anyone with an Internet connection. But with the advent of online dating and the social networking sites discussed in previous blogs, chat rooms have lost their luster in the eyes of the online dating crowd crowd. Pay no attention to that, chat rooms are still a very fertile ground for meeting women; you just need to find the right venue.

You should find a local chat room near your area and explore it. I recommend MySpace (www. MySpace.com) chat rooms as well as Yahoo (www.Yahoo.com) for this since they have set up an extensive chat network covering all areas of the US and overseas where you can narrow down your chatting to your nearest metropolitan city such as Los Angeles or New York.

What you should do is set up two chat identities, one to go into the chat rooms and browse the selection of women, and one to actually chat with. The reason for this is your browsing identity will only have the basics of the profile information filled out, with no picture, since anyone in the chat room can view it. You want to do this since you never know which one of your girlfriend's friends, co-workers, or family members could be in that same chat room and recognize you by looking at your profile. The second identity you set up, will be used to chat with women whose profiles you have found attractive, whose photo’s you have seen (note: never waste your time on a girl with no picture, usually there is a reason for that), and identified as a potential candidate of interest.

This second identity will have all your vital profile information filled out with a photo, giving the women a chance to be dazzled by your good looks. When you get into a chat room take your time and search through all the profiles to select the girl(s) you might be interested in. Contact these women with a private message using that second profile identity we discussed and engage them in a conversation.

Keep an eye on the main chat screen while you’re engaged in your private conversation. Do this to determine which girls are regulars in this room. You want to know who the regulars are because there are some women that spend an inordinate amount of time in these chat rooms and develop an extensive network of chat friends. If you end up talking to one of these women the entire chat room will know by the end of the day that you are trying to hook up with her. These women are best left avoided since gossip runs rampant in chat rooms, and the last thing you need is an entire room full of regulars talking about you and some chat room chick. The way to determine if a female chatter is a regular is to watch the conversations in the main chat room. If she seems to know more than three people in that room she qualifies. Another identifying trait is if she is involved in discussions about personal issues that the other chatters seem to have intimate knowledge of. Now you know who to stay away from.

Also there are different types of women in these rooms at different times during the day. You might want to be aware of this since it will provide you with different opportunities. During the day you have slightly older women, mid twenties and up, they are professionals and are bored at work. You also have students who are home from class, and unemployed women who hang out at home. At night you have a mixed bag of every age and economic condition, and usually more women to choose from as well, many of them like to spend their time chatting on their off hours.

Meeting women this way is very easy, you should private message the ones you're interested in giving them a simple compliment on their pretty smile and referring to something in their profiles. This will show your interest in more than just a conversation but not make you seem like a stalker. Don’t come off too strong just make it very casual, since the average chat room guy has the charm and finesse of a toilet seat, this approach will make you stand out on its own. They will usually thank you and then you can follow that up with some pleasant chatter showing your charm and wit, which is sorely lacking in the rest of the men she has been chatting with. If the conversation has gone well but is winding down you will have the urge to ask for her phone number, don't do this the first time you talk. Every chat room guy she has already spoken with that day has asked for her number, so you want to differentiate yourself. Just ask her politely if you can add her to your friend list and that you hope you can talk to her again some time. This way you can talk to her on another occasion when she comes online in the future, as well as monitor her chat habits. By the fourth or fifth time you talk to her, she will be freely offering her number to you wondering when you will call. Once you two are talking on the phone you can follow your usual routine on setting up a date.

I will continue this series on how to meet women that you can cheat on your girlfriend with in my next blog when I cover the traditional bar and club scene.

Let me know if I missed anything vital, feel free to email me.

Take Care,

A.C.

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How To Meet Women On MySpace

2007-03-16T09:34:00.000-07:00

In my last blog I began a series on How to Meet Women to Cheat On Your Girlfriend With.
The series continues with this installment covering social networking sites.

Online Social Networking Sites
Originally established to promote networking through friends and acquaintances, most of these sites have evolved into nothing more than glorified free online dating sites where people hook up through friends. The basic premise is to meet people through your network of friends, making these people your new friends and increasing your personal network of friends.

The advantage is an opportunity to look through your friends’ collection of friends and get introduced (either online or at a future social function) to women. You already know something about them having read their profile so you have topics of discussion readily available.
The cons of this type of approach are that these women all have some sort of connection to one or more of your friends, making it hard for you to hide the fact that you’re already in a relationship, or that you have a reputation for being a player. If you do hook up with a woman, chances are it will get around her network of friends and then reach your network of friends as well, increasing your chances of getting caught.

There is however a third alternative for this particular venue, which is very much like the online personals. Simply message women you have no attachments to, and no mutual friends in common with. Just create a search criteria of what you’re looking for (age, distance, etc.), when the search results come back hunt through the results to find what you like. Then click on her profile and check to see if you have any friends in common. If there aren’t any, then you’re most likely in the clear, however you would be wise to message women living out of your immediate area so you can have some distance.

The two Online Networking Sites I recommend are http://www.myspace.com/ and http://www.friendster.com/, in that order. Both have free memberships available and boast a variety of features. I suggest joining both and spending some time familiarizing yourself with their tools and options. To successfully start an online dialogue with women using this venue you can try an assortment of methods to see which one works best for you. The methods that generate the most response involve asking a question regarding some item in the woman’s profile, something that lets her know you took the time to read what she had to say, same as with the online personals.

Friendster provides a useful tool that allows you to see who looked at your profile, with the caveat that you’re profile voyeurism is exposed as well (this function can be turned off, however then you cannot see who viewed your profile). On the surface this might appear to be a deterrent, but there is a clever way of using this to your advantage. If you’re hesitant to start a dialogue with a particular woman, but you still find her attractive make sure you cruise her profile. If she has the “view profile” function turned on she will obviously know that you’ve checked her out. At this point one of three things can happen; nothing, she looked at your picture and found you uninteresting and never looked at your profile. She views your profile but doesn’t send you any response. This is a golden opportunity for you to start a conversation by sending her a message about how you saw her checking out your profile, include the usual email conversation starters using something from her profile. Or she responds with a message and then the conversation is started for you. Another opener is sending a “smile” to the girl who you’re interested in. It is relatively easy since it only involves a couple of mouse clicks.

MySpace works very similarly to Friendster, sans the “who viewed my profile” tool. However, MySpace allows you access to a much larger and more a varied user base, provides better video and audio uploads capabilities, far greater profile customization, and most importantly, allows you to segment your search much more exclusively, almost like an online personals site, so it definitely has the advantage there. Overall MySpace provides a far superior venue to meet women online, and I recommend you start there.

Considering the price of these venues (free), as well as the access to thousands of women 24 hours a day, it is one of the best values for your investment. As with online dating/personals sites the quality of your profile has a major impact on your success. Posting attractive clear pictures of yourself, writing a charming and articulate profile including an invite for anyone (not just women, so you don’t give the impression you’re only there to hook up) to freely message you, and ensuring a few intriguing facts on how you like to spend you free time will increase the amount of interest you generate.

I will continue this series on how to meet women that you can cheat on your girlfriend with in my next blog when I cover the old but still reliable Chat Room… Stay Tuned!

Let me know if I missed anything vital, feel free to email me.

Take Care,
A.C.

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How to Meet Women Who You Can Cheat On Your Girlfriend With

2007-03-14T09:10:00.000-07:00

Meeting women is probably the easiest part of cheating on your girlfriend. There are a multitude of resources you can explore in making the acquaintances of new women. I suggest, like a good investment portfolio, you diversify. Try incorporating various methods to keep a good mix, and to keep you out of the same social circles. The less you are remembered or known, the less likely you are to be discovered.

With the internet taking the forefront in personal interaction you would have to be a fool not to take advantage of it. It provides a plethora of opportunities to meet women quickly with minimum effort. Not to mention that by using online methods you can remain far more inconspicuous allowing you more discretion.

Today I will be discussing the benefits of online personal or dating sites, here’s why:

Online Personals Ads/Dating Sites
Online dating sites are an excellent source to meet women that you can safely approach without much worry of getting caught. Sometimes there is a stigma attached to meeting people through personal ads but you should disregard that. That might have been the case during the early days of online dating, but now online personals are an accepted way for busy, ambitious, highly motivated singles to meet. You can search through these online ads for free, find out what the women look like, where they are from, and what they are looking for. But to contact them you need to set up your own personal ad and pay a monthly fee, something nominal ranging from $20 to $25 a month, this is very affordable in comparison to the alternative. If you calculate that going to a club or a bar you would usually spend that much in a cover charge and a drink and most likely meet only one or two women, this is a great way to get a bang for your buck, pun intended. Just remember that you need to make your personal ads hidden or designate them un-searchable since you never know which one of your girlfriend's co-workers, friends, or family members might be browsing through this service as well.

There are two online dating/personals web sites I recommend, Yahoo (www.yahoo.com) and Match (www.match.com). These two services give you the widest variety of women in your particular area; you can narrow your search down by your ZIP Code, as well as a multitude of other of wide ranging search criteria that you can customize. Contacting women from these online dating services doesn't take much effort as long as you have a good initial introduction and a recent photo of yourself that gives them an accurate portrayal of what you look like. You need to be eloquent, charming, and come off sounding intelligent. Always give a small compliment about the woman's appearance, something along the lines of a pretty smile or beautiful eyes, and then leave it alone after that. Guys that fawn over a woman telling them in extensive prose how beautiful she is come off looking either desperate or just interested in her looks only, thus equated with looking only for sex. Neither perception will get you too many replies.

It’s important to keep in mind that most of the women on these dating sites are usually looking for one of two things; either a committed relationship, or a man that they can casually date with no strings attached (have sex with). You need to tailor your introduction towards whichever category they fall into. Tell them what caught your attention in their profile and that you were impressed by that. Mention that you are looking for the same thing(s) establishing a common bond between the two of you. Then spend a paragraph telling her a little bit about yourself, things that you didn't include in your profile. Then include a couple of questions that show your interest in getting to know her better, which also might provoke a response just to provide the answers, finish off with a 'looking forward to hearing from you," and you're done. You will usually receive a response within the next week. If not, then just leave it alone and move to the next woman, don't bother them with repeated emails. This will separate you from the rest of the men lacking the proper online etiquette that send multiple responses. Once a woman responds, you will more than likely trade emails for while before she decides to trust you with her phone number. You might spend a few days to a week talking on the phone before you should ask her to meet you. This is always a little awkward since you have gotten to know each other over the phone, but have never seen each other in person. Both of you will wonder whether you will find the other attractive physically since all you know of their looks are the photos they have provided. To overcome this initial awkwardness always schedule a fast first meeting like a lunch or coffee which allows for both parties to escape quickly after an hour or so if one doesn’t find the other person enticing.

After the initial meeting you can follow the usual methods that you are using, now that you have meet and the first time awkwardness has been conquered it becomes a normal relationship.

I will continue this series on how to meet women that you can cheat on your girlfriend with in my next blog when I address social networking sites such as MySpace and Friendster… Stay Tuned!

Thanks
A.C.

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My Favorite Celebrity Cheaters

2007-03-09T08:44:00.000-08:00

I thought we would take a little break from the usual topic and inject a little levity.

Since infidelity is rampant in all circles of life I have decided to list some of my favorite Celebrity Cheaters of all time.

Feel free to add your favorite Celebrity Cheaters if you think I missed anyone of note.

No need for a lengthy intro lets just get to them and why they are MY favorites.

1. Bill Clinton
The man in bad ass, he was president, got down with the intern, and still had the balls to go on National TV and say “I did not have sexual relations with that woman.”

2. Hugh Grant
Got busted in a parked car getting head from a hooker then went on the late night talk show circuit (Leno & Letterman) to explain and joke about it. He still is one of the top romantic comedy actors in the world… he came out almost unscathed from the whole episode.

3. Mick Jagger
Whose infidelities Jerry Hall (wife who filed for divorce in ‘99) tolerated for years until it became known that he’d fathered a secret love-child with Brazilian model Luciana Morad. Yup you read right… FOR YEARS. By the way… Hall began a secret affair with Jagger while still engaged to English singer Bryan Ferry.

4. Jack Nicholson
Whose infidelity actress Anjelica Huston says she tolerated during their 17-year relationship, because “he was 'the world's sexiest, most gorgeous man.” The Joker has a lot of game.

5. Prince Charles
He cheated on the late Princess Diana in an ongoing affair with a much older Camilla Parker Bowles. Then he finally married her. This was more amusing to me than anything. The Prince of England who could get any chick he wanted (okay, any English chick he wanted) and he picks a woman that could pass for his Aunt.

6. Brad Pitt
Come on, Angelina Jolie vs Jennifer Aniston… No Contest.

7. Jude Law
He cheated on Sienna Miller with his children’s nanny. What married man hasn’t thought about nailing the nanny, unless it’s one of those old ones? Its start, he could do way better than Sienna but I guess he had to learn to crawl before he could walk.

8. Kobe Bryant
The best clutch shooter in the NBA got busted in Colorado with a hotel Concierge after accused him of rape. The night after being accused of rape, Los Angeles Lakers star Kobe Bryant told sheriff's investigators that the sex with his accuser was consensual — and admitted to similar encounters with another woman who he said could testify about his sexual tendencies.

Eventually the Judge threw out the sexual assault case against him, Kobe won back the love of his wife with a 4 million dollar diamond and a tattoo on his shoulder commemorating his eternal love. The man is clutch, you got to give him that.

9. Ryan Phillippe
Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe announced their separation after reports surfaced that Phillippe carried on an affair with Australian actress Abbie Cornish (in pic) on the set of their upcoming movie. Just like Jude Law, Ryan can do much better.

10. I don’t really have a ten-spot so feel free to send me your suggestions.

A.C.

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Unhappily Married Women Are A Double Edged Sword

2007-03-05T09:17:00.000-08:00

Another lifestyle type that was suggested by a reader is the Unhappily Married Woman.

Although this type of woman will make it very easy to incorporate her into your infidelity, you have to keep a very close eye on her emotional involvement level.

First the good:
Since she is married she will be more paranoid about getting caught by her husband than you are about getting caught by your girlfriend. If you get caught then you experience some heartache and move on. If she gets caught her life crumbles around her romantically and financially, not to mention the familial implications if there are children involved.

For those reasons alone she will go out of the way to keep things on the down low, and if you’re on top of your game so will you. With the both of you keeping things quiet it will make things easier hide. Since she will be very careful, most of the time you two will meet up of for sexual encounters in discreet locations and part soon thereafter. You won’t have to waste your time romancing her, taking her out, wining and dining her. Most of the time she’ll just want to meet up, knock it out, and get back to picking up her kids from soccer practice.

Now the bad:
It’s all fun and games until the unhappily married woman starts becoming attached to you emotionally. Remember she is unhappily married for a reason. When you start feeling this coming on, you have to cut ties with her immediately. She might be looking at you for a way out of a bad marriage, and thinking of you as her white knight that will catch her fall. She might be misplacing her feelings of an unhappy marriage in the temporary elation that your encounters provide her. These feelings will quickly fade when she realizes that you have no intention of rescuing her, which might lead to an unpredictable response.

Not to mention that her unknowing husband might be driven off the deep end if he catches wind to your little relationship with his wife. The longer it carries on the more likely this might become reality, since the longer your relationship continues the more she will view you as her escape. When you become her savoir she might begin to get sloppy in a unconscious hope of getting caught so she can finally find the strength to end her marriage. And why not? She has her knight in shining armor (you) to save her.

My best advice is to keep these relationships short. They are exactly what you want in the early stages; a sex/affection starved woman that is in another committed relationship where the only thing you have to provide her is a passionate sexual encounter. But the longer it drags on the more she will start considering a life after her marriage with you.

Let this type of relationship exist for no longer than a month and then cut it off. Explain to her about how she needs to give her marriage another chance for the kids, make her obligations to her family guilt her out of her fantasy relationship with you. After you cut the ties, never look back.

Short term, unhappily married women are great to play your other women. Long term, they will wreck both their marriages and your relationship with your current girlfriend.

A.C.

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A Recently Divorced Older Woman Is Easy To Cheat On

2007-02-27T09:00:00.000-08:00

In my past blogs I addressed a series of lifestyle situations of women that can be exploited to the cheater’s advantage. Sometimes, through no fault of their own, women experience these predicaments that make them much more susceptible to (unknowingly) playing the other woman, or getting cheated on if she happens to be the girlfriend.

A few readers mentioned a couple more lifestyle circumstances that they wanted me to discuss, which I will in a mini two part series.

Recently Divorced Older Woman:
She is slightly older, in her late 30’s to mid 40’s, with children that are older or already out of the house, better known as the infamous MILF (Mother I’d Like to Fuck). Although a MILF can also still be happily married, she can also fall into the category which I am about to address.

Our MILF is just out of a divorce and either thinking of entering the dating scene or hell bent on making up for the lost time she spent unsuccessfully with her now ex-husband. In either case she is eager to be in the company of another man, and this is where a cheater can take full advantage.

With her kids not fully in the picture, since they are either older, out of the house, or the father has part time custody, she has some free time to spend, but not an overwhelming amount. Also this time is probably heavily regimented since she probably has a new job, the time she has to spend with her kids, and other new aspirations she wants to undertake now that she is free from her oppressive relationship. This will enable to anticipate when she will be busy and provide plenty of opportunities for other women.

Another benefit is that more than likely this woman is not looking to jump back into another committed long term relationship for some time, thus allowing you more freedom to do what you want.

If you can find an attractive recently divorced older woman, try to add her to your rotation. She will fit in very nicely, not cause you too many problems, and more often than not will only be looking for your affection temporarily making her easy to get rid of when you become disinterested.

Stay tuned for the next reader suggestion the always interesting and dangerous Unhappily Married Woman.

A.C.

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Postponing the Inevitable: The Monogamous Relationship

2007-02-20T08:43:00.000-08:00

What if a woman wants you to get more invested in the relationship in order to continue the sexual aspect of that relationship?

Recently a reader asked me how I would handle this situation, which in fact I had already faced personally, so I had a little advice to give.

In some cases a woman will use sex to draw you further into a relationship with her. Wow, surprising huh? That woman will have an ulterior motive, imagine that.

But we can’t be mad, speaking from a male perspective, since we have our own purely selfish motives as well; sex.

Essentially men are playing offense (trying to score in a non monogamous exchange), while women are playing defense (trying to prevent you from scoring as long as possible until they get you in an exclusive relationship).

One option, which I have used personally, is letting her imagine that some type of commitment is impossible, but never actually making any.

How is this possible? Well it’s a lot like a magician’s trick; slight of the hand, slight of the impression is more accurate.

The best way to make a woman think that a commitment is not impossible is to hint at it with little comments inserted in conversation that women can read into, which they naturally will. Give her the impression that a relationship is on the horizon.

If you talk to them about what you two should name the kids, in joking manner of course by choosing a outrageous baby name that you can both laugh at, or allude to how certain aspects of your relationship would be if you two lived together such as leaving the toilet seat up, going out whenever you pleased, or who would do the laundry. This would give her the illusion that you are contemplating a longer commitment than you actually are, assuming that you’re talking about those issues for a future commitment, between the two of you.This will temporarily satiate her need to openly discuss any exclusive bond between the two of you, since she will think it’s already on your mind, resting her qualms at ease and not forcing her to rush you prematurely

But eventually she will call you on it, to which you can say you were just joking around since you addressed all those issues when you two were having a good time playing around. Then she will have to realize she read too much into it, which you should emphasize.

After this however you can be sure that conversation regarding a serious relationship will rear it’s head, do be prepared with your next course of action; either tell her you’re not interested in that and break up with her, or promise to enter a the monogamous relationship with her. Whether you uphold your end of that bargain is up to you.

The method I have just described is in no way a permanent solution, but it will buy extra time without actually having to say the words that lead to an exclusive, long term relationship. It’s worked for me. But sooner or later you will have to make a decision.

A.C.

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The Day After Valentines Day. A Relief For Cheaters

2007-02-15T09:34:00.000-08:00

The day after Valentines Day brings relief to most men. The frustration of frantic last minute buying of chocolates and roses at outrageous prices aimed at taking advantage of our wait to the last second mentality dissipates into soft gentle blur of last night.

If you heeded my advice about relinquishing you unnecessary relationships before the 14th , then you’re V-Day date probably went off without any major complications and the only hurt you’re left with is the one in your wallet.

But if you tried to make two women your Valentines then most likely your morning isn’t quite as relaxed. Nevertheless, if you managed to pull it off; much kudos to you. But it probably entailed an exurban amount of effort and work to enable you to make two women happy and you must be exhausted.

Or if you managed to push one of the Valentines Day celebrations to one of the following days, then it looks like you’re still on the hook, good luck.

However, if you’re finished with Valentines Day, then you can take a breather for a few months. V-Day is the last day in the turbulent hustle and bustle of the Holiday Season for Cheaters. I have added V-Day to the Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years since its very close to the real holiday season in time frame.

Starting with Thanksgiving and ending with Valentines Day there is this dreaded 3 and a half month block of time when life becomes extremely complicated for men in regards to their relationship with their woman, or women. This becomes exponentially so for anyone who is dating multiple women simultaneously. You have to multiply everything by the number of women you are dating; gifts, time dedicated to researching and buying gifts, parties, excuses, lies, at times it seems endless.

That is why I always recommend ending any extra relationships during that time and focusing only on your main girlfriend. The other women are not worth all the additional complications and frustration that accompany it.

So after the 14th of February a welcome sense of relief and downtime is well deserved.

Take the rest of February to relax and collect yourself before diving back into the pool of infidelity. From here on out there should be smooth sailing until November with only a couple of hiccups (Memorial Day, July 4th) but those days don’t require that much investment in time and effort as the past few months.

Congratulations if you made it through this Holiday Season unscathed. But if you got caught due to your over ambitious plans then you learned your lesson.

Either way the relative future will be the prime time to expand your repertoire of women and your infidelity.

A.C.

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Valentines Day and Cheating on Your Girlfriend Revisited

2007-02-12T08:11:00.000-08:00

Since this is probably the most significant day in the year for cheaters I thought I would re-post this blog from a couple of weeks ago in case any of you missed it.

The ominous day fast approaches… fellow cheaters. It’s the worst day in the year for anyone cheating on their girlfriend or dating multiple women… Valentines Day.

February 14th!

It has been engrained in women that this is THEIR SPECIAL DAY, and unfortunately there is no way around this.

You only have a finite amount of time during the Valentines Day season, and a secondary woman will encroach upon that tremendously.

As a cheater you have to make a choice, period.That’s why I am writing this blog concerning Valentines Day two weeks in advance, so you have time to plan out your strategy and make a decision.On holidays, especially Valentines Day, you have to be remorseless towards the secondary women in your life. No matter how much they whine (which they will), cry, make a blatant attempt to guilt you, get angry, threaten, and yell at you, do not give in.

As I mentioned before you can only have one woman on Valentines Day, so you will need to either break up with your secondary women, or come up with one hell of an excuse why you can’t spend Valentines Day with her.But under no circumstances should you try to get out of spending Valentines Day with your girlfriend in favor of another woman, this is a certain tip off that you have something going on behind her back.

Not to mention, she will be tremendously upset with you, and making up for it will entail weeks of work. This usually forces unnecessary strain on your relationship with your girlfriend which would have never existed if you weren’t dating other women, so I strongly recommend against it. At times like this I suggest you pick your girlfriend, the other woman can always be replaced.

The best option at this time of year is to cut your secondary women loose before Valentines Day begins, preferably before February starts. This will allow you to concentrate on only your girlfriend without any of the ancillary problems created by additional women in your life.

Don’t ever forget that you’re using these secondary women for only physical reasons, but you have an emotional attachment to your girlfriend. She comes first. You can always find more like them, but you cannot find another like your girlfriend.

I urge you to initiate your break up with your secondary women as soon as possible, so all the drama and heartache can play out a couple of weeks before Valentines Day. There is nothing worse than an emotional, spurned woman a day before Valentines Day. With all the hoopla and build up on TV and in the stores it will only contribute to her disappointment and anger. That’s something you should definitely avoid.

A.C.

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A College Student Makes A Great Mistress

2007-02-09T09:33:00.000-08:00

In my previous blogs, I talked about Single Mothers and Workaholics as women that fit those categories. In today’s edition I will analyze another lifestyle choice that you can exploit, if you so choose.

Student:
A student’s time is consumed by academic endeavors thus leaving little time for romance. So when the moment of opportunity arises they will jump at the chance to spend some quality time with you.

This works a little better for a woman who has a career and is working on a degree at the same time. Her time will be dedicated to her job during the day, while studying and classes will dominate her schedule in the evenings and weekends. Thus you will have ample time to pursue other women while she is writing papers or going to classes.

A woman attaining her undergraduate degree as a fulltime student will have time for a more conventional relationship. But nevertheless her schedule will still be dedicated to her studies but not as much as a woman that has both a job and academic endeavors.

Note that there is certain calendar cycles associated with the school year. During breaks and holidays these types of women might want to make up for lost time by spending every waking moment with you, putting an immense burden on your other relationships. To play it safe you will have to either terminate the relationship heading into long breaks such as summer or winter, or have a very difficult schedule during those times.

If you can somehow find a combination of both a student and a workaholic you might have hit the jackpot, since most of their free time spent with you will be for sexual encounters. Keep your eye out for these types of women. You will be well rewarded.

I hope you enjoyed this week’s Lifestyle Series.

If I missed any lifestyle aspects that you think should be included feel free to contact me or post a comment and I will address it in a future blog.

A.C.

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A Workaholic Lifestyle Makes Any Woman Easy To Cheat On.

2007-02-07T09:04:00.000-08:00

Unfair advantage or not, capitalizing on such conditions can make for really easy prospects to expand your infidelity. You just have to be able realize these opportunities when they appear, and I am here to point them out to you.

Workaholic:
Whether it’s their own choice, or if their career dictates it, when they spend too much time at the office that directly plays to your hand. Any woman who falls into this category will make an excellent secondary woman.

The reasons are self-evident and parallel to those of the single mothers; their time is committed to something other than their boyfriends. This, however, does not exclude them from seeking out a relationship, but it has to be on their terms. Meaning that the man they date has to be willing to tailor his time around her work schedule, which the shrewd player should turn to his advantage.

Since her work schedule will usually be predictable, you can easily weave a couple of other relationships around women who are engrossed in their careers. You just have to show up when they have time for their relationship and most likely they will want to dive right into the affections that have eluded them.

Another benefit of the workaholic is that their careers often take them out of town, allowing for more time to spend with your other women, as well as reducing the chances of accidentally bumping into them when you’re out on the town with one of your aforementioned women.

A workaholic is an ideal woman to cheat on. Her time is frequently allocated to her career, out of town often, and a predictable schedule will allow a copious amount of free time to pursue other avenues of interest.

Stay tuned we will continue the Lifestyle Series in my next blog.

A.C.

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Lifestyle Choices Women Make That Make Them an Attractive Option for Infidelity

2007-02-05T09:49:00.001-08:00

There are lifestyle choices women make, whether intentional or not, that make them an attractive number two or three option in your repertoire because of exactly that; their lifestyle.

Their current circumstance really skews the advantage in your favor allowing you far greater latitude with your infidelity than you would have in a normal relationship. Unfair advantage or not, capitalizing on such conditions can make for really easy opportunities to expand your infidelity.

Single Mothers:
At the first mention of this you might think, “How is this beneficial to me?” But, you have to dive beneath the surface and analyze the situation. Most men see the child, think of the added responsibility and aggravation of dragging the little rug rat along everywhere, and having to constantly work around that annoyance. However, if you take a moment to turn this situation to your advantage you might have found a diamond in the rough.

First, single mothers have a harder time finding men that will enter into a relationship due to the obvious complications, so when a guy offers interest they’ll be far more receptive than under usual dating conditions.

Second, just the fact that you accept her with another man’s child, she’ll think of you as different and far more understanding than the other men. So right from the start you’re already elevated to a slightly higher esteem due to the fact that you are willing to make a “sacrifice” and explore a relationship with her, regardless of her child.

Now, let’s discuss what natural advantage this situation provides you. Her first commitment is to the child, never to you. How is this beneficial? Her main focus will always be upon the child, spending time with the child, caring for the child, taking the child places, feeding the child, and so forth. That requires a huge investment of her time, leaving you free to pursue other avenues of entertainment without having her constantly in your business. She doesn’t have that much available time to be checking up on you, most likely she won't.

An wonderful side benefit is that when she does find some free time, she won’t want to waste it, knowing full well that those moments are few and far in between. So taking advantage of this she will usually take you right to her bedroom to make up for all the lost affection she has been craving. You reap all the benefits without having to go out on many dates, which will reduce the chances of getting seen in public. She will invite you over on weekdays after she has put her child to bed for the evening, between 8 – 10pm depending on the age of the child. This will give you a good two to three hours of time alone with her with nothing to do but give her the attention she has been missing.

Having a single mother in your rotation is an excellent idea, they are low maintenance and for the most part preoccupied, making them that much easier to cheat on. If you can manage to find an attractive single mother I sincerely recommend adding her to your repertoire.

Stay tuned we will continue the Lifestyle Series in my next blog.

A.C.

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