Friday, June 27, 2008

Keeping A Distance Between Your Women

The distance separating your women is a significant weapon in your arsenal. Many would be players and cheaters usually make the mistake of dating women that reside in too close of a proximity to one another, which can result in a multitude of issues.

Yes, I realize that dating women that live closer to each other also has a couple of advantages, slight as they might be, these advantages do not outweigh the negative repercussions. Sure there is less driving time between the two women so you have less time to account for when your girlfriend wants to know where you’re at, as well as saving you money on gas, with prices around $4.60 a gallon (I live in LA) that’s a significant consideration.

However, both of those benefits are trumped by the fact ultimate end game, which is getting caught, and dating women that live in the same town, city, or county definitely can get you caught.

Everything is relative though, so you live in a large metropolitan city such as Los Angeles or New York then you can afford to date multiple women in the same city, since the chances of getting caught are miniscule. Since the population cross section is so large most often times you will get away with it, but the chance still remains. This problem is accentuated in smaller more enclosed cities and towns since you have more opportunity to be in the same place at the same time with a particular person than in a larger metropolitan area. This obviously brings certain issues into the forefront if you are with your girlfriend and your mistress just happens to be there as well.

But if you’re dating a girl that lives in LA for instance, you could greatly reduce the chances of getting caught if your other woman lives in Orange County (25 to 30 minute drive depending on traffic). This distance is just great enough to eliminate you accidentally running into your other woman at the mall, a restaurant, grocery store or some other random location since they would usually be going to those places in their area of residence. Thus leaving you free to hang out with your girlfriend in LA without having to look over your shoulder and worry about running into your other woman.

Another problem eliminated by incorporating distance between the women in your rotation is that they are less likely to “drop by,” or be “in the neighborhood,” allowing them to check up on you when you’re inaccessible to them. It’s amazing how a 20 – 30 mile buffer will eradicate this behavior since most women will not want to make the effort. This in itself is worth the added distance, peace of mind is necessary to help you focus on getting away with all the other aspects of cheating.

Let’s get back to dating multiple women in large metropolitan areas. Like I mentioned earlier, this situation allows you more leeway but you still have to keep in mind of the location of your women. Obviously you don’t want them to be in the same neighborhood, probably not even in the same side of the city. If you are dating a girl from the South side, then it’s probably a good idea for your other woman to be from the North side. This also brings in other factors that will help keep your women apart such as the difference in cultures on different sides of the same city.
You can easily say that a girl from the South side of Chicago would be different than a girl from the North side; therefore their lifestyles would vary as well adding another layer of security for you. Different lifestyles equal different interests, hobbies, employment, etc. This applies to any region you live in. Its safe to say that a girl from Los Angeles has a different lifestyle than a girl from Orange County (the reason I refer to Orange County rather than a city in Orange County is that the OC is more renown as a county than as individual cities), as there is a difference in the lives of a woman that lives in New York and one from New Jersey.

So ensure that you keep a safe buffer between your women, and you can drastically reduce the chances of running into one of them while you’re with the other, and vice versa.

Take Care,
A.C.

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Friday, June 13, 2008

Time To Communicate

When you’re recruiting a new mistress, you have to play it like if you weren’t a cheater that already has a girlfriend, but as a normal guy trying to impress the girl to get her interested enough to put out.

This means that you have to do all those things that you usually do when you’re first “courting” a candidate for dating or to eventually fill the role of your girlfriend.

So after you’ve made the initial introductions and got her contact information, you now have to try to “get know her,” but what you’re really trying to do is say all the right things to get her to go out with you… we’ve all played that game.

Unfortunately, you have that pesky little problem of already having a girlfriend that impedes your ability to talk to the potential mistress at any given time. So you have to plot in advance how you will go about it without your girlfriend catching a whiff of your plans. This is even more imperative if you live with your girlfriend since you’re time is even scarcer in that situation.

With technology these days you can substitute texting and email for actual phone conversation, so it’s to your advantage to use it. A couple of text message exchanges throughout the day (when you’re girlfriend is not around) can easily take the place of what used require a half hour conversation on the phone. As long as you maintain the contact, staying in her mental focus you have achieved your goal.

Another easy way to maintain her interest is through email. If you have access to external email applications (Yahoo, Gmail) from work, and she has the time to email during working hours, then you can maintain a conversation throughout the day without much effort.

The same goes for online messaging (Yahoo Messenger, etc.) where you can enjoy a nice conversation without the worry of your girlfriend finding out, or trying to fit in the time for a phone call around your girlfriend’s shopping habits.

Just remember to erase all your text messages and emails from your Inbox and sent messages folders (On your phone and email),, so there is no proof for a snooping girlfriend.

But even with these alternative communication opportunities, you still have to slip in a phone conversation; otherwise things will start to fizzle. No other means of communication can really take the place of a phone conversation where you can get the instant response of the other person’s voice.

This is where you will have to get creative to be able to create the time and place to have these conversations, even more so if you live with your girlfriend.

If you live independently of your current significant other you’ll just have to account for the time you spent talking to this new woman, but only if your girlfriend asks. Obviously you can say you were watching a movie or sports, but you better make sure you can give a quick synopsis of the plot, or the accounts and score of the game.

But for those of you who aren’t as lucky then getting out of the house is your best bet for an uninterrupted conversation. Offer to go to the store to buy groceries, go to the gym, shoot hoops, visit your parents, or whatever can get you a half an hour of free time. Then go park somewhere and do your thing. Just remember to vary it and not always do it on the same day at around the same time, this will keep both women from noticing a pattern.

You can also have quick conversations on the way home from work, or if you’re out running errands.

Obviously you can also just wait for your girl to leave the house, which if she has a set schedule is worth waiting for, to go shopping or whatever. But this also makes her arrival unpredictable and you should be aware of the time frame she will be gone so you can start wrapping up your conversation before she gets back home.

In the end there are many ways you can communicate and create time for conversation, just plan ahead and you should be alright.

A.C.

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